2006-06-27 13:58:06 · 13 answers · asked by abbyofspades 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That is a very common family dynamic-- go to the library and look at some of the "birth order" books to see what each child in a family tends to be if they are the oldest, the youngest, etc.
2006-06-27 14:02:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy breeds violence, & is a childish emotion. Maybe he could teach you things that you don't know, and you could teach him things that he doesn't know. Everyone has their own speciality. Unless he brags, & has to have everything everyone else has, but is not satisfied with what he has, then he will never be satisfied, never be happy. If you are not satisfied with what you already have, you will never be satisfied. If he is an idiot, let him be, it will eventually show thru. Just be true to yourself & be thankful that you wake up each day, some people wake up to a dying life, unable to walk, or have only days left to live on this earth, some are blind or going blind; be happy that those people are not you. Appreciate when the sun shines down upon your face, embrace the life & softness of a furry new puppy, be thankful that you can hear the birds chirp & robins sing. Your brother will live his life & he will always be your brother, be the better by not complaining about how you are jealous of your brother, it is not mature. When life hands you lemons, make lemonade.
Keep a positive attitude, & a smile on your face. No one wants to be around a whiner, stop whining! Find out what you are good at & get better at it, & always try to do what is expected of you, but most of all, be happy as everything else flows from happiness! I hope this helps!
2006-06-27 21:20:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now jealousy between siblings is normal. Everyone thinks at some point that their brother or sister gets or has everything and they don't. Everyone thinks at some point that mom or dad loves the other more than they do us or that we are the black sheep of the family and not worth as much as the other members of the family.
That being said though if comparing yourself and being jealous of your brother, friends or anyone else goes beyond a healthy and normal state and becomes an obsession and becomes a controlling factor in your life then things aren't good. Yes we have and will experiene envy sometime during our lives of someone else but allowing yourself to dwell or become obsessed by it is just going to lead to a whole lot of hurt and pain and resentment towards him.
Sure it may seem like he is good at everything but how does obsessing over that going to change things? It won't as tomorrow he will still be the way he is and you will still be you. He is not effected by it one bit and you are the one who ends up with your guts twisted in knots and feeling like crap. You are causing yourself a whole lot of misery over it and it is something that you cannot change. Also if he knows it is bugging you so much he may use that to get to you by rubbing it in your face.
Throughout your life you are going to run into people who can do things certain things better than you. Doesn't mean they are any better than you as a a person, just that they can do something better. By constantly obsessing over others you loss sight of yourself , your self esteem goes way down to the point where you can end up thinking everyone is better than you are and that you are worthless and can't do anything right.
Time to let go of these feelings of jealousy and resentment of your brother as it can become a very dangerous path as today it is your brother but it could some day become a friend, co worker, or anyone else who is around you. One can also loss the people who are part of your life if it goes from healthy and normal envy to an obsessive habit. It is now time to shift all of that wasted and negative energy you put towards your brother and start to focus on you and what you can do. Time to start to pay attention to your own accomplishments and successes and to realize what you can do and not worry about what others can that you can't do as well or at all.
Finally jealousy and envy towards others is a normal and part of life. We all have and will feel it from time to time these types of feelings but we must learn how to deal properly with that feeling, learn to let it go and move on and not let it turn into a obsessive behaviour that ends up controlling our lives
2006-06-27 23:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by George J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural to sometimes feel "jealous" of your siblings though it is unhealthy if u persist in it.You have to realise that everyone of us is different.We have different gifts.Even in the same family we can have a vast difference in siblings ability.Learn to appreciate your brother for what he has.I'm sure you have gifts/talents that are unique to you.It may look small but as you begin to work on it i'm sure you will overcome that jealousy.
2006-06-27 21:03:58 · answer #4 · answered by jojojo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Recognize something I didn't recognize until I was much older, and that is , You are Special!!! No matter what you do or don't do. You have talents and skills within yourself that no one can ever imagine. Strive to be all the "You" you can be and don't focus on your brother and what he does, but be happy with you and the fact that God loves you and made you special and unique in your own way.:)
2006-06-27 21:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has their own special talents. You need to find what yours are and work on developing it. Don't waste time being jealous of your brother or anyone else, concentrate on improving your own unique skills.
2006-06-27 21:02:46 · answer #6 · answered by sim24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you comparing yourself to him? Honey, you have things that I would never find interesting in your brother...I could name three physical things very easily. But think, why does his accomplishments have anything to do with you? They don't...you are just plain sweet and wonderful you, and NO ONE is able to fit that bill, EVER!!! All I can say is work on discovering who you are and what you are all about, and soon his path in life will be just that, HIS path, and will be meaningless to you other than happiness for him in doing what he wants.
2006-06-27 21:06:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. Speaking from experience, I believe someone that plays a big role in your life perceives that too.. and through their eyes you believe that he is better than you.. As a teen, its normal to feel insecure and jealous, but in reality you are the better person.. you just don't see it!!
2006-06-27 21:07:04 · answer #8 · answered by Chloe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is good at everything and you don't necessarily need to be better at something. Be the best you can be at what ever you chose. Most important, enjoy what you're doing. That's they key to being happy and content.
2006-06-27 21:06:47 · answer #9 · answered by Dale P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its pointless to be jealous cus he's still gonna be good, but then ur gonna be miserable on top of it.
Everyone is good at something--u just haven't found what ur good at yet.
2006-06-27 21:01:10 · answer #10 · answered by Raq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋