I've been with my b/f for a little over 7 years and we're still not engaged. We met when we were 18 and love each other very much. We talk about marriage and ideas for our wedding, etc...so I know he isn't "afraid", but he still hasn't asked. Years ago he began asking me to pick out rings that I liked, so of course, I did. A few months ago he showed me a ring he liked and said he stopped looking after he saw it.
I've asked him why he hasn't asked me yet and he said b/c he wants to make sure that we are financially ready and that he wants my life to be perfect. He only recently got a better paying job and we've been saving up for a house.
Recently, several couples that we know met, got engaged and got married and we're still not. Just when I thought he might ask me, his sister got engaged and I was devastated b/c she had only been w/ he b/f for a year.
Does anyone have some supportive words or advice to help me through this waiting period?
2006-06-27 13:53:32 · 6 answers · asked by MJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HONEY IF YA'LL LOVE EACHOTHER,THEN A LITTLE PIECE OF PAPER AIN'T GONNA MAKE IT MORE SO.
YOUR MOMENT WILL COME DON'T WORRY.
2006-06-27 14:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by betty 2 · 13⤊ 4⤋
To me his reasons sound justifiable and good. By what you have explained, it seems to me that he is a very caring person, if he tells you he wants to make sure your financially set, THIS IS A GOOD THING! So obviously he's not affraid of the committment, but he wants to make sure neither of you will have to worry about money. Also weddings can be very expensive.
If i were you i wouldn't worry, in time he'll probably ask you! Just wait until you notice that you and your B/F are becoming a little more financially set, then maybe bring up the subject again....This way he will know you still want to marry him, and soon after, you can start making more plans and finally set a date for the big shin-dig! GOOD LUCK!
2006-06-27 21:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide how long you are willing to wait. It's a responsible thing to do, to wait until you as a couple, can afford to be married and support one another...however if he's waiting for the "perfect" time then he'll be able to find excuses ad infinitum. If you believe the two of you are financially secure enough to take this step, then tell him so..and tell him you feel you've waited long enough...give him a few more months (you decide) and then let him know if there's not a date set and a wedding hall reserved, you're gonna move on.
2006-06-27 21:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line is, Do you love him? If the answer is yea, then, what is the rush? You are planning your life together what difference do a ring and a pieve of paper mean.
2006-06-27 20:59:28 · answer #4 · answered by auntb629 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, could you possibly be any more of an airhead?
2006-06-28 02:41:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he should propose already for crying outloud.
2006-06-27 21:04:38 · answer #6 · answered by BbyGrl80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋