its it because of affaid of commitment? but why say he is falling for me? i get upset all the time and i need some advice i keep pressuring him about saying it also please let me know what to do?
2006-06-27 13:50:56 · 32 answers · asked by sexy_catwoman23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well some guys need time to do that
2006-06-27 13:52:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly - DON'T pressure him about saying it. Guys are really freaked out by that sort of thing and you may lose him. It should also be his to say and it is a huge thing to say those words. They must mean a lot to him - which is good and shows he doesn't take it, or you, lightly.
How long have you been dating? if its not very long he may have those feelings but may be scared/reluctant to tell you so soon. The fact that he's said he's falling for you means he probably is falling in love but is a bit scared to say it. And, trust me, the more you pressure him to do so - the longer its going to be before you hear it.
Relax into it, enjoy him and your time together and think a little more about you and your life again. He'll come round in his own time - and it may be sooner than you think!
2006-06-27 13:57:31 · answer #2 · answered by soulgirl76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that he is still in the process of determining how far his falling for you has gone. At least, he is that kind of guy who does not do things without thinking about it twice, thrice, etc. because saying "I Love You" to someone entails with it that deep sense of sincerity and commitment which he should hold true within himself. It's easy to say those words but without meaning. Give him enough time to analyze his feelings. At the right time, if he believes that his feelings for you are more than enough to say those words, I'm pretty quite sure that he won't hold it back. Don't give him pressure to say what you want him to say. Let those words come from the inner chamber of his heart and that would mean a great romance for both of you. Good luck.
2006-06-27 14:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It gives him a little wiggle room. Maybe he hasn't said it not because he doesn't love you, but because he does. Actually saying it is a major step and leaves you open to get hurt. It's a mighty big burrito left sitting on the table, and there's no going back. What if your feelings for him suddenly change? What if the moment he says it, you'll have gotten what you wanted and don't need him anymore?
Saying "I'm falling in love with you" is like saying "I love you" without actually saying it. It gives room to not feel as bad if the relationship doesn't work out because you didn't make yourself vulnerable to the other person.
Guys are just as insecure about these sort of things as girls. In this case he's insecure about saying it, you're insecure about him not saying it.
Back off a little. As time goes on if you guys stay together, he'll say it soon enough.
2006-06-28 00:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by buzzzard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a big word and a big step, wouldn't you have him say it and mean it instead of saying it just to make you happy or to get in your pants. I was always careful about throwing around the L word. If he is falling for you, beleive me love is not far behind. This sort of reminds me of when I was getting ready to drop the L-bomb on my now wife. I was all ready to do it and had it planed for the middle of a love making session when she went and said somthing that pissed me off, so it took another week or so before I finally droped it. Whatever she said to make me hold back must not have been all that bad. I do not remember what it was. But I do remember the night I told Her---I Love You Colleen, we just celebrated 10 years of marriage, Good Luck, Good things come to those who wait.
2006-06-27 13:58:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep pressuring him it's going to put a strain on your relationship. Just relax and let it happen. Enjoy the time that you two share together.
Think about it this way, would you rather him say it just to get you to stop or would you rather have him really mean it.
2006-06-27 13:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by SmilingG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure is, and saying he's falling for you, is telling you that he really cares, but is a bit scared of the "I love you" statement.
It will come, when he feels good about it, don't rush him, some guys, just need more time.
Don't apply pressure on him, that might just drive him away. It would for many guys.
2006-06-27 13:55:29 · answer #7 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is starting to fall in love with you. Doesn't mean he has allready. Don't rush it, I know from experience. All you will do is chase him away. There is plenty of time, just enjoy things while they last and if it works out it works out, but he could be using game to get you into bed so just take it slow. And be careful, respect yourself and don't give in to a player's game if that's what it is.
2006-06-27 13:54:52 · answer #8 · answered by mandie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BEACUSE YOUR PRESSURING HIM ABOUT SAYING IT. If he doesnt want to say it let him be. How long have you been together you should betogether MONTHS before you say something like that. If you said it to him soon then you said it WAY to early. You gave all the goods. If he says he's falling for you then that just means he likes you or he wants to get in your pants.
2006-06-27 13:53:25 · answer #9 · answered by joeknockz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well guys need time and some take those words very seriously and they like to take those kinds of things slow or maybe its just because hes never really though about saying it to you but he thinks about it when hes not around u!!
2006-06-27 13:53:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have not provided necessary info...is he getting eggs without buying the hen? Milk without owning the cow?
Saying "I love you" comes naturally when one is in love, hardly ever if they don't. Move on honey, every girl on the planet deserves a man that loves them and can say so without being told to do so by a therapist. Trust me.
2006-06-27 13:56:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋