Ok, I do everything around this house. I cook, I clean, I mow.....EVERYTHING! But no matter what I do my mom doesn't think its good enough. She thinks I do nothing and tells me that. I usually keep my quiet but I just mowed our whole lawn with a push mower and she was just like "why are you hott? that was nothing!" and we live on 2 acres of land and thats a ton of land to mow with a push mower. I'm ready to yell at her but I don't think that will help. What should I do?
2006-06-27 13:18:38 · 14 answers · asked by Led*Zep*Babe 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I feel for you. I could never please my father no matter what I did, it seems. Sounds like your mom is the same. Unfortunately, there's really nothing one can do in such situation; at least I didn't see anything I could do, except continue doing what you're doing and let her rant.
She's going to *itch and moan anyway about everything, so do what you have to do and don't let her get under your skin with her comments. But, remember, nothing that you are doing is wrong. Her behavior is a reflection of HER deep-rooted problems, not yours. Don't let her crap seep into you by being bothered by her comments.
I'm well aware that comments such as hers hurt like hell, and I'm not telling you to "get over" her comments. I'm saying let her have her say(she's going to do it anyway), realize that she's the one with the problem, and above all, don't feel like a failure, because you're not.
On a brighter side, you won't always be living at home. One day you'll get your own place and then she'll have to *itch and moan at trees....LOL Best wishes, luv.
Blessed Be!
Coven of Witches
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2006-06-27 13:36:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your doing great not to yell at your mom , it wouldn't solve anything. She may not realize what she says or doesn't say is making you feel that you aren't doing things good enough. So try and have a heart to heart talk with your mom and ask her if the yard looks nice to her? I think you were expecting your mom to say what a nice job you done instead of asking you why you were so hot. Mowing two acres with a push mower in January would make me hot. LOL
2006-06-27 13:36:01 · answer #2 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the cold hard truth, but relize u'll never be good enough in her eyes, she'll always find something wrong with u, and might even tell u that others are better. I know it's hard to take from ur own mom, but just know that one day, u can leave, or that one day, she'll croack. The day she croacks is probably the only day u'll truly be free of her, but either u or she will go first, or in a weird twist, u might go together, but that is when the feeling of never being good enough will truly end....until then, she'll just justify her unfounded remarks and questions. Don't go and fight it, she'll just say more hurtful things to quiet u down and tell u that she's rite. She might even keep all those words u told her in her head and bring 'em up again years later to use against u when u don't even remember any of it and are defenseless. If u believe in prayer, do that, it helps, and know God will provide....but until then, just try and ignore ur mom, it's hard but it has to be done, and truly know that even if she has a problem with u, that's her problem, not ur's , and even if she tells u what it is that's urkng her, u probably won't be able to fix it so just bear with her.
2006-06-27 14:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take a deep breath, count to 20, take a cool shower, and calm down first.
Next, starting as soon as you get out of bed in the morning, keep a journal of all the things that you do to help out--include times that it took to do them (kind of like a time card). It might also be helpful to write whether or not you had to be asked to do it. Do this for a week. Then, when your mom says that you don't do anything, you can sit down, pull out your notebook and calmly say say, "That's not true. I don't think you realize how much I have done and I would like for you to recognize my work instead of calling me lazy." You will have evidence of your hard work and maybe your mom will realize how hard you have been working (Then she'll ask you why you are so hot.--ha)
2006-06-27 13:25:00 · answer #4 · answered by wowee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her who's gonna mow those 2 acres when you're off living in Rome next year!
2006-06-27 13:24:19 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not the right thing to do, but I would probably say I'm hot because I've been working. Buy the way mom have you had a good day today? What have you done today? Do you feel like your day has been productive?
2006-06-27 13:29:53 · answer #6 · answered by n317537 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is being emotionally abusive. I don't know enough of your situation, but if you can afford it, see a counselor to learn how you can deal with it. If you are still in school, your student counselor will be able to advise you. I have a mother who is the same way, and it took me many years of standing up to her to make her realize that although she is the greatest woman in my life, she is not the center of the universe.
2006-06-27 13:22:07 · answer #7 · answered by Awesome Bill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people find it hard to show normal affections like other mother does. Perhaps that is the way your mother showing that she is noticing your hard work. A voice of anger is never from the heart....
2006-06-27 13:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmph. Well if you are doing what you describe here, the answer is grow up, get a job, and get the hell out of there.
Sometimes that is the only answer.
Sorry to have to say that.
-Dio
2006-06-27 13:23:35 · answer #9 · answered by diogenese19348 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mother should be grateful to have such a nice child.For some reason she cannot see it. She must have alot of problems, either real or in her head.
2006-06-27 13:22:41 · answer #10 · answered by Dark Martha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋