I have a family member who offered to help me with a problem. I have an extrememly hard time asking for help from anyone. So I finally asked for help from this family member, and they seemed to get angry about it. Now things seem to be tense between us, and I just want them to go back to the way they were.
2006-06-27 13:00:56 · 24 answers · asked by Fire Storm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You better talk to him/her about it...
The only way to solve an issue is facing it...
Go ahead and talk about, what can possibly happen, if he/she is offended... This will only work for making it better, if you really care to get things better...this will help you out...
2006-06-27 13:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that it was just all a big misunderstanding. I think you should arranged to meet this family member at the park, a bar, a restaurant somewhere comfortable so that you to can hang out and talk about the situation. Tell the person how much you miss the old times between you to. And you hate the tension that you'll have going on.
2006-06-27 20:09:23 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call them up or just go to their house/apartment and ask them to go for some coffee with you as you'd like to talk with them. Hopefully they'll go with you and sit down and talk with them and offer an apology for anything you may have done to offend them. KEEP IN mind that you are only saying this to make peace with them. In your heart know that by doing this you ARE the better person. Hopefully this act will bury the axe so to speak.
2006-06-27 20:07:56 · answer #3 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They offered to help you, then you asked them to help and they got angry? That doesn't make sense. If that is what happened sounds like they need to apologize to YOU. I would just act like nothing happened and move on. Maybe they feel stupid for getting angry. Strange situation.
2006-06-27 20:59:34 · answer #4 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you sit down and discuss the way you feel and tell them you didn't mean to make them uncomfortable about your request they would open up to you. They might have had time to cool down and then just explain that you don't want your relationship to change and that you want to go back to where you want it to be. Sorry I couldn't be of more help. God be with you.
2006-06-27 20:08:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not easy......
I can't give any advice; I just know that family can be very difficult to handle sometimes. Repressed feelings, old resentments....
I envy people who have close-knit relationships and help each other.......mine does not at all.
Best of luck.......sometimes blood is really not thicker than water you know.
Family members have a very short attention span....they forget when you helped them...
But it is me......
I prefer friends.
2006-06-30 23:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest having a quiet talk with this person and express your concerns. It could just be that your relative was having a bad day when you talked to them. It seems to me that you don't have any REAL evidence that they are upset with you. Until you do, you should not treat them different.
2006-06-27 20:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by asterisk_dot_asterisk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes time, and trust. At least you admited whatever it was... You should be proud of that! The best thing you could do is look within yourself and look at who you really are... ask yourself," how can I make myself feel/do better? how can I change? what do I have to do to earn trust?" and questions like that. NEVER ask Why... ex. "Why am I this way?"... It never gets you anywhere... I PROMISE.
:)
2006-06-27 20:06:48 · answer #8 · answered by JoAnna P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry it happens. Its just the feelings. Be calm n polite towards that member, It will take time but definitely ur relation will become good.
2006-06-27 20:05:30 · answer #9 · answered by problem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them why they are upset with you and apologize for upsetting them. Try to understand why and offer to make amends as their friendship is important to you.
2006-06-27 20:04:03 · answer #10 · answered by hopflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋