How has remembering your past relationships help you make this ine stronger?
2006-06-27 12:57:44 · 20 answers · asked by minigirl695 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How has your past reletionships help you make your current relationship stronger? and if you don't have a relationship....why?
2006-06-27 13:02:23 · update #1
You learn from everything you do. I don't care how good your intentions are, you make mistakes in life and relationships. Each one you have teaches you things.
Even bad things, such as having an ex cheat on you, teaches you things. That you are much stronger than you think you are, that you are capable of loving someone again.
If you aren't capable of growing at least a little in a every relationship you are in, than you aren't trying or paying attention.
Keep your eyes, and most importantly your ears open. Communication is the key to a good relationship and to learning.
2006-06-27 13:04:24 · answer #1 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of my past relationships, especially the one I had before this one, helped me to not only grow up, but also to be the person I have always wanted to be--independent and not taking any crap from anyone. After 20 years of lying, cheating, and abuse from my ex husband, I refuse to put up with any of that. I have gotten my self-esteem and self-worth where it should have been in the first place, no longer change for the person I am with and stay who I am, stay independent, and only compromise when it benefits both of us. I also won't do things I don't want or feel comfortable doing. I am a much stronger person than I was with my ex, and with any boyfriends before him.
I see relationships as learning experiences for all of us. What crap we go thru can either make us stronger or weaker. I choose to become stronger from them.
I am currently in a relationship with my one true love, my soul mate. I finally met him a year ago and we plan on getting married someday.
2006-06-27 13:10:40 · answer #2 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it makes you stronger because you relise mistakes you made in the past so you don't make them again. you learn and you can pick out signs that this might not work or you need to do something. With my pat relationships i learned that speed i need to go at to make me happy yet still have the other person satisfied and i've learned how to communicate alot better. so i guess just remebring them helps later on in life for how to handle things
2006-06-27 13:04:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
funny, cuz i just finished having this talk with my girlfriend. you can't expect your new girlfriend to do the things that you liked about your ex. what you do learn from past relationships is the things that you don't like and the things that you're not willing to deal with again. because those negative things made the past relationships fail and made you hurt. also, the things that hurt you that your ex (s) did are things that you know you wont turn around and do to the new relationship.
2006-06-27 13:09:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Previous relationships have made me understand one thing. Trust is EVERYTHING. If you can't trust the person you are with then, they might as well be just a sex buddy. I mean, you can't even be friends with someone like that. So that right there limits how high a regard you can hold for someone.
2006-06-27 13:04:56 · answer #5 · answered by tiger_skratch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have taught me not to trust right away, but let them gain my trust for I have been cheated on in almost every relationship I've ever had (except this one). Being in this relationship has taught me that there are honest guys out there and it has taught me not to be afraid to love again. That if you love the right person, everything will fall in place.
2006-06-27 13:01:36 · answer #6 · answered by ddevilish_txnfml 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a person you learn who you are and what you will or will not accept or do, you take what you need and throw the rest away.
hopefully your evolvement will make for an all around better person. then to; it depends on your level of maturity.
as a result I have become more observant before leaping
2006-06-27 13:08:34 · answer #7 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't put up with people who are controlling, i don't put up with people who just want something from you but not all of me...
but i enjoy looking at good memories and seeing how i have loved someone truly, and they have truly loved me. And how they knew be almost better than i knew myself. But knowing that i don't need to rely on stupid guys it makes me stronger..haha..
and i'm not just referring to one guy..i've been with three different people..one for two years....
2006-06-27 13:03:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
made me stronger and see the signs to knwo to walk out before things get to down hill and made me relise you cant really compremise for the sake of it, you have to both want the same thing in life. and for thoose minor differences u learn to appreciate them
2006-06-27 13:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by sugarpantsangel21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't make the relationship stronger it makes you stronger well it made me stronger because i don't take any sh@# and i am very independent
2006-06-27 13:00:36 · answer #10 · answered by Lorraine W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋