she mkes us clean constantly when i'm at her house. her idea of a dirty bathroom is if everything's clean, but the toilet lid is up or the mat that you step on when you get out of the shower isn't hung on the side of the tub. if we leave something in the little trash can in our room for one day she gets mad. once she called me a b**ch because i stayed at her house for a week for tennis camp and i dipped my head in the cooler at the end of clas and got her "LEATHER seats" a little wet. please help, and don't tell me to go to therapy or call the police or anything like that. she wouldn't talk to me for a month and a half after i told my mom. and she will no longer allow my mom on "her" property.
P.S. even though the house is my dad's and hers i call it "hers" because that's how she acts.
2006-06-27 12:40:20 · 16 answers · asked by laurie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i refuse to call her anything like b**ch or call police
2006-06-27 12:45:14 · update #1
have to go to his house every other weekend and every other tuesday
2006-06-27 12:46:14 · update #2
i'm only 13
2006-06-27 12:46:55 · update #3
Either live with your real mom or try to satisfy her until you are old enough to move out.
Also, calmly talk to your father about it. Tell him how it makes you feel and if you can, try to get all of you into a group therapist.
2006-06-27 12:45:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
That almost seems like child abuse. I agree step-mothers can tend to be quite overbearing. Not all but some tend to favor their own children (if any). Some of the reasons for this may be that she is jealous of you. Jealousy can lead to that sort of treatment. I wouldn't let it affect the way you respond to other authority figures. This woman seems like she is the one who has some issues to sort out and not you. I do think that talking to your real mother and father about this along with a school guidance counselor is a good idea. I would also recomend speeking with a pastor or a clergyman. Don't let this problem go unsolved. Take action, respect your authority figures and obey them, however you do not have to tolerate verbal or physical abuse.
2006-06-27 12:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by batboy88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel my poor child I grew up like that & ended not seeing my dad which I have regretted now i'm older but it was something i had to do at the time.Now I am an adult with my own children going through the same thing i know how they feel but try my hardest to get them to visit their dad.My daughter is only 9 & she refuses to visit her dad because she doesn't like the dragon lady he lives with & cause she wouldnt talk to her the last time she was there she is no longer allowed to go back.Hopefully you can talk to your dad before it gets really bad if it already hasn't.If you can't refuse to go back & if they make you just dont talk to her & dont do anything she will soon get sick of it herself its just a power trip for them
good luck sweetie & hope you can work it out soon
2006-06-27 13:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by cowboys4lee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother of a teen daughter my heart goes out to you.I am remarried and so he is stepfather to her.If you can't talk to your dad try to enlist help from a mom type person that you can talk to.Someone that can be a sounding board for you.I don't understand why stepparents take on this unappropriate behavior.One would hope for her to be a role model.I suggest to pray hard and don't give her reason to provoke you.Kindness works wonders.Don't respond to her outbursts.Try to let it roll off.I know it may not be easy.Try to understand why she is reacting the way she is.You may have to step up and be the mature one.Keep your cool.She''ll begin to see how silly she is being...Your are not alone in this.We have had our struggles too.
2006-06-27 12:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by Believer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom. Again. You have a right to have someone protect you from this kind of nagging and abuse. Speaking from the POV of a mom whose kids suddenly have a step-mother... I would do ANYTHING I could to make sure my kids were not subjected to this crap. Keep a journal at your mom's house to use if you ever need evidence against her. Especially if she ever hurts you physically.
If my kids' step-mom ever cussed them, I'd see about getting a restraining order. Verbal abuse is unacceptable. The whole step-parent thing is hard enough to deal with with a nice person. Your dad should be the one who sets the rules. She should support HIS decisions. You are NOT her kid.
2006-06-27 13:12:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I am a step mom myself, and my step son feels about the same way about me, though I dont call him names, and I dont hate him.
I just have different rules in my house then he has at his mothers and I expect them to be followed at my house. That is just the way it is. It isnt personal, and my daughter has the same rules he does.
Maybe you should try looking at it from her point of view also, this whole blending of families is extremely difficult for everyone.
Just try following her rules at your dads house, you may not like them, but like it or not, she does provide for you there, you should give her that respect. And ask her to stop the name calling. That wont get anyone anywhere,
2006-06-27 13:50:52 · answer #6 · answered by wife3best1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 21:42:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have to be around her? If the answer is no, simply stay away from her. It doesn't seem like you like her very much anyway. Tell your dad that you don't feel comfortable in HIS home because of her, and so you will be spending limited time there.
2006-06-27 12:44:39 · answer #8 · answered by dani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to your dad about it. Depending on how old you are, you can refuse to visit him when she is around. Tell him that you are more than happy to hang out with him, but you will not tolerate his wife.
2006-06-27 12:44:51 · answer #9 · answered by Princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should have a talk with your dad and see how he feels. he may agree that the three of you could sit and talk. and if he doesn't show any concern, maybe you shouldn't go over as much
2006-06-27 12:49:07 · answer #10 · answered by Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋