I am 14 and me and my girlfreind have had protected sex before, but sometimes when one of us will sneek over to the others house at night, she'll say that we cant have sex. I can understand this happening once a month for obvious reasons. but sometimes she'll say that we cant about 12 days later, when we've had sex between the last 12 days. what other reasons would she have for not being able to have sex?
I hope that no one gets the wrong idea about me or my girlfreind, we both love each other very much, we are each others only partners, and we always use protection.
thanks everyone for your help! i really appreicate it.
2006-06-27 12:37:15 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well it could be that shes sore down their or that she worries her parents can hear. Why not just talk to her about it.
Im glad your using protection, even though I fear your still to young to be having sex. But im not your parent so wont act as one, just remember protection is not 100% against pregnancy. You both are still risking becoming parents at such a young age.
2006-06-27 12:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 27 and trust me, when a girl says she doesn't want to do it just say ok. More than likely if you press the issue and find out, it will probably be something that you didn't want to know to begin with. Girls bodies are a lot more sensitive that a guys. They could have an irregular menstral cycle or they could have a yeast infection from sex with you, or some sort of discharge. Trust me, you don't want to know, that is why she won't tell you. Just don't get mad at her whatever you do, it won't help. Let her know that it is ok, that you are still there for her and that you just want her to be comfortable. It could be that she just isn't in the mood yet, sometimes it takes girls a lot longer to become aroused than a guy. My girl says she isn't in the mood sometimes and I just say ok and lie with her and kiss her neck and ears, next thing you know........score.
It could also be that she is having guilt issues. This could mean the end of your relationship if you keep pressing her. She could feel that the only way to become guilt free is to leave you if you won't be satisfied without having sex. So just be patient. Masturbate before seeing her, this will give you more patience and if you do have sex then, you will be able to last longer.
Or you could have a f**k buddy on the side......just kidding.
2006-06-27 19:49:23 · answer #2 · answered by safety 1st 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there really could be a lot of reasons she does not want to have sex exactly every time you want to...one of course you already know about , but maybe she just does not really love you or she may feel emotional at times and not want to do this.. maybe she feels like she is not doing the right thing by having sex in the first place.. i do not think that you should be having sex snicking around anyway... i think you are both too young for this, and neither of you are very mature ....but i am glad you are having protected sex but accidents do happen even with protected sex...you can take my advice or not but i really wish you would.. why does kids want to grow up so fast these days...
2006-06-27 19:46:14 · answer #3 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both too young. Would you ready for the responsibility if the protection broke (it happens). Any way, sometimes women like to know they are liked for just them. They don't want to always be pressed for sex. There should be more to relationships then sex. But at your age, you are thinking, what else is there. One day you will understand that her saying NO has nothing to do with YOU.
2006-06-27 19:40:32 · answer #4 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she doesnt want you to think you can have it all the time. I have the same problem with my bf i say no sometimes. Well we just started having sex about 3 months ago and im 18 not 14 which i think ur kinda young you shouldnt be having sex, but anyway yes i tell my bf the samething but its because i feel like im being used or i dont want him to think he can have it all the time. We love each other too but i want him to value me and by giving it up all the time i feel used.
2006-06-27 19:56:32 · answer #5 · answered by boo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might want to just cuddle with you.. yea its cheesy but girls sometime need to be reminded that their bfs love them in nonphysical ways. she also might think that u are doing it too much, seeing ur so young she still might be all together a little wary about having sex in the first place and is sometimes scared of getting pregnant even though u are protected - its still a worry. id not ? it if u guys have a strong relationship, if u gets are so close and it still bothers you just ask her, but make sure that u tell her its not bc ur not happy with her or that u have a problem with not having sex - its just that u dont understand y she doesnt want to have sex sometimes.
2006-06-27 19:44:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as it seems like it, sex is not a new toy for you. Your girlfriend is a person and she doesn't have to be available, just because you're pokin' a hole in your shorts.
2006-06-27 19:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by Dutch58 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to feel like you dont only want to be with her for the sex.
2006-06-27 19:43:42 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you guys are to young to be having sex, plus you guys are to young to be talking about love, what you guys need to do is get and education and finish college, think about sex then,
2006-06-27 19:40:59 · answer #9 · answered by Lorraine W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she wants to take a break once in a while
2006-06-27 19:39:32 · answer #10 · answered by Strawberry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋