My brother tried to commit suicide over his girlfriend. So, well, thats what I hear. He shot himself in the face. He is going to be okay, but I need help. I don't know what to say to him. He is 24 and I am 13. He has never ever really said I love you to me exsept today. Last time I heard that was about 5 or 6 years ago. He hugged me like I couldn't believe. I need help on what to say and I need help on what to do. I need to talk to me boyfiend but he moved so can somone give me some answers? He will be in the hospital in emergency for three more days. When I see him again what should i talk about? Can someone answer all those questions?
2006-06-27 12:09:08 · 15 answers · asked by marry-me-olander 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Ok I'm not a professional but here goes...Tell him that you love him too, and that you dont know what you would do without him. When he hugs you, hug him tighter. Dnt talk, concentrate on listening. Since this is a really tough time, be supportive and tell him that you will always be there for him no matter what, and he can come to you whenever, wherever. Even though he is 11 years older than you and you might not fully understand all his situations, youll always be there to listen and try to help. I agree with the first person that you might want to try to seek counseling, but I dont agree that you cant ask a question like this. Sure, I dont think that everyone on here is a psychologist, but these are just suggestions-maybe from personal experience, maybe not. Anyway, I'm sorry this is happening to you, take care, and good luck-I'm sure it will be comforting to your brother for you to be there.
2006-06-27 12:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by martster38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very difficult situation for anyone let alone a 13 year old. First of all are YOU getting the support that you need? Whenever there is a suicide attempt by a family member, it causes extreme stress in the family. How are your parents handling it? Have they talked with you about it?
There are social workers at the hospital that can help both you and your brother. Ask your parents if you can speak with one.
Now about your brother...... Just tell him that you love him and say you are happy that he is still with you. Other than that, listen to what he says. Even just sitting quietly in the room with him and not saying much, may be all that he needs right now.
A psychiatric nurse or social worker will be able to help you find the right words to speak with your brother. Ask them. Good Luck and take care of yourself.
2006-06-27 12:26:51 · answer #2 · answered by spiritwise333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what youre going through. My cousin and i are so close we're like sisters. Shes tried commiting suicide 2 times now. when i saw her for the first time i didnt really say much. We hugged a lot and cried a little. She said me being there and showing i cared really helped a lot even though we didnt talk much. The second time we talked about why she did it and how she felt. Getting her feelings out helped a lot. But because of you and your brothers age difference i think you should just let him know you care about him and that you love him. And let him know how much people do care and help him to realize that his girlfriend wasnt the only important person in his life. He will find someone better.
2006-06-27 13:20:59 · answer #3 · answered by cherrycait33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you are going through such sad times. I hope and pray that your brother gets the right help and makes the right decisions to heal physically and emotionally. Because he made such a serious suicide attempt your brother probably has the disease, Major Depression. His doctors in the hospital are going to want him to be under the care of a psychiatrist when he leaves the hospital. You can be a help by encouraging your brother to be cooperative with this. His doctor will probably want to start your brother on an anti-depressant medication to help control his symptoms. You can help by encouraging him to cooperate with this too.The reason your brother wanted to die was that "wanting to die" is a symptom of Major Depression. He did not attempt suicide because his girlfriend left him, even if he thinks that was the reason. His G/F leaving him is called "the precipatating event". I suspect that your brother has been having trouble for some time because you say that he hadn't said "I love you" to you for years and then did while he was hugging you very tightly.
I say these things to you in hopes that in understanding your brother's problem better; that you will see that there is a lot known by doctors about his problem and how to help him. The success of your brother dealing with his problems does not rest on your shoulders. But you can be a help to him. When.I was Depressed to the point that I had symptoms of: wanting to die and urges to suicide, the people that I was gratefull to were the people that smiled at me when when they met me, talked to me as if I was a regular person, talked about every day things the way a friend does, and that let me know that they cared about me. It sounds like you are a wonderful girl that I would be proud to have as a younger sister. If I was in your brother's place now and knew what it has taken me a long time to learn; what I would say to you is, that, "I love you very much, that I'm grateful that I have you for a sister, and that because you love me, just your talking to me, spending time with me, and being yourself is a big help to me". You might need some counseling for youself to help you through this difficult time. Praying for your brother will help him a lot because God loves your brother more than anyone and He wants to help both of you.
2006-06-27 14:53:38 · answer #4 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, this is not the place for a question such as yours. There is nothing wrong with asking it here, but serious situations call for serious answers, and yours is a most serious situation. Besides, at your age you are too impressionable to be met with half hearted answers given by non-professionals which may have adverse effects which remain to be seen should the advice be taken. It makes people shy away. Talk to a school counselor. The answers you seek will best be found there. Good luck and God bless...
2006-06-27 12:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by Circe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a sweet heart for caring about your brother soo much. He is really going to need the support of his family in the next couple of days. Try not to bring up girlfriends and dates and romance. Talk about video games and movies.
If you see that he is really really upset, and he needs to talk to someone, then go get your mom or dad.
And if he wants to talk to me he can reach me at
echoesrocker@yahoo.com
my name is Corinne. And i have survived a suicide attempt as well. I know exactly what he is going through. And if he needs a helping hand, he can come to me.
2006-06-27 13:15:15 · answer #6 · answered by echoesrocker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure he knows that you love him, too. You also might want to let him know that friends and lovers come and go, but family is forever. As long as you have that, everything will be fine in the long run.
And, maybe, that the past is the past. Everyone has one, and everyone's past has sad and bad things in them. And that's okay. It's what you do in the present and future that can define you.
Just opening the communication and talking regularly, about anything or nothing, can help. Nobody should hold an extreme sadness inside and keep it all to themselves.
2006-06-27 12:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by Farly the Seer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support your brother but don't take too much on, you are young and it can be too much to handle his depression. Be there for hugs and just to be there, let him know you love him and look up to him and know he can handle this because you have seen him strong at other things. Encourage him to get counseling to deal with his loss from a professional service, this is a serious situation you do not want to handle by yourself. You are a wonderful sibling to be so caring and want to help him, just be there and let him know you love and admire his strength at handling this situation.
Good luck
2006-06-27 13:21:12 · answer #8 · answered by e g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you love your brother i know you do or you wouldn't have asked the question. tell him that you love him. tell him that you love and need him(in your own words) in your life. tell him what is in your heart. don't be afraid be strong for him because he is gonna need all the strength he can get. just show him that you care. sometimes you just being there is enough. I am SO SORRY that you have to go through something like this. I wish that there was something more I could do to help you.
2006-06-27 12:25:27 · answer #9 · answered by Becky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO one can answer the questions of why,youb brother surley feels alone and not loved,feels sorry for himself most of the time,he probably sees him self as a victom,how about using your heart and saying what you feel,Its not pretty felling alone.and pray for him
2006-06-27 12:41:35 · answer #10 · answered by randall r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋