Like I asked a couple Mos ago, My GF is very controlling. Somehow, she managed to ride the storm and once again I find myself under her control. Please do not tell me bad stuf nor insult me. I am no wimp, I just happen to love a woman that I never knew would be so cunning. She needs to control all aspects of the relationship, and she does it with loving cunning tactics. She is no tyrant, but she sure wants to hold the throne, and, in my desire to please her, I feel I am sinking lower and lower under her belt.
She mixes my love for her, with my supposed and unconditional surrender to her authority. She makes it very difficult for me to react, becasue when I do, she turns into the most loving woman ever on the Earth, and , if I press on an issue, she can go from cunning to explosive. That scares me, I never had situations in which I had to confront women getting mad or hystrerical, and in my efforts to calm her down, I end up giving up to her.
I feel trappedbut I luv R
2006-06-27 11:53:34 · 5 answers · asked by VikingSurfer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You not a whimp it happens to alot of people. I understand you may love her, but if she is so controling that she scares you, you are in a bad relashionship.
Its not you that need to change, its her. There is a book called the 5 love langeages. You and her need to read it. You also need to tell her how you feel. If she becomes any of those thing you said. Explane to her you want this relashionship to work, but if its going to work she going to have to change the way she treads you. You are not a toy and what she is doing is called 'Toying with your empoins' witch is wrong on all levels. There is no exceals for this. And if you want to fix it, you got to start at the sorrews of the problem..
Now think real hard about what I am going to say next. "If you are to scare to go to her and talk it out, to tell her how you truely feel. The she is NOT the girl for you."
If this is the chase I have one more suggtion for you. Brake up with her and tell her when she grows as a person and can see what she did to you was wrong, you'll get back togather. Or dont say anything. Because if it is truely ment to be she will be there in a while down the road as a nicer, non controling life, whatting for you to return to her.
You got to remind yourself love is a 2 way street, if you feel the way you do, its because all your love is going out, but your getting no real love back. And if you dont take care of it now when your a old man and she is your wife. You will end you getting a device because she is sleepying around why you took care of her and the bills.
Its hard I know, but you got to remember you have the right to be happy and to have free will. And if she keeps taking that way form you, then she doesnt really love you. You are just something she has power and conrole over.
really think about this ok. (srry spell check was down and I am not a speller)
2006-06-27 12:30:24 · answer #1 · answered by Sekkennight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe just talk to her and give her an ultimatum. It is obvious that you do love and care for her. Explain how her actions and reactions make you feel. If she is willing to listen and try to be somewhat different.. then be happy with that for the time being. If she is one that cannot stand any kind of positive criticism then I would just try to wean her from you and vice versa. Its also obvious that you see a potential problem here, one that you cannot and should not have to deal/live with. I would try to say goodbye but not before I told her why. Life is too short to be miserable. Who knows.. maybe she is unaware that she has this affect on you. And then maybe she knows how to push all your buttons. Either way this is not something I would tolerate from anyone and would be difficult for anyone to tolerate either. Good Luck. Communicate with her and see where that takes you.
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2016-10-13 21:41:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have yr own mind well then make it. does she cry and have a wobbly when you say yr breaking up. well if so this is normal. just wake away. now if it gets to the point that shes going to just drop her and email explaining you cant say it to her face because of her reactions.
2006-06-27 12:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by yumm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to stay in that type of relationship, then go right ahead. Cause ther is nothing you could do to change her ways.
2006-06-27 11:57:32 · answer #5 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋