Once he gets going, he won't shut up. I used to love my job but this new guy got hired and he drives me crazy with all his talking. There's only 5 people who work here, and if I tell my boss that it's becoming a problem, I know the guy will know it's me who said something and I don't want to create tension. I hate this! What should I do?
2006-06-27 11:42:58 · 27 answers · asked by dandelion86 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Honey, I've been through this before:
If you don't want to tell the guy upright to stop talking to you, make it apparent with your body language. When he starts talking, turn away from him slightly and just nod to whatever he says (Continue to do your work while you are doing this.)
Barely look at him when he speaks to you, suddenly find something else to do when he comes around. Sigh ever so often so he will get the message that you are busy and not in the mood to talk.
When all else fails hon, just tell him that you have work to finish and you can't talk. Eventually he will get the message :)
2006-06-27 11:53:17 · answer #1 · answered by xxtra chocolate 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try this...
Whenever he approaches your desk. Stand up and stay standing while he speaks. You have some options at that point.
Option # 1: when he takes a breath, say "thanks, I've got to get back to work now".
Option #2: If he doesn't stop, start to walk away. Say, "sorry, I was just leaving".
Option #3: Ask him nicely to cease and desist: "Gee Frank, it's not that I don't like listening to you, but I'm buried right now. Can we be a little more concise?"
Bottom line: people are uncomfortable talking to someone who is standing. Create a sense that this encounter needs to be temporary and it probably will be.
If two or three hints like this don't work, tell your boss and don't worry if he knows it's you who turned him in. At that point you've learned that he has no respect for you and your time. So why should you feel guilty about trying to improve things?
2006-06-27 11:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and up front with him. More then likely, he thinks your attractive and just hasn't got the cojones to ask you out yet. Or you can always say you've got work to do and that he should consider leaving you alone. But in nice tactful way....
Do you have a BF? Is he aware of you having one, if you do? And even if you don't have a BF, you might want to think about "creating" one to get out this situation. I run into the same issues at my place of work as well. You're not alone!
2006-06-27 11:50:17 · answer #3 · answered by generic248 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know, this happens to me too, although often he comes to talk to my office mate instead but since we share an office it makes it very difficult for me to work (or not to work) because it is extremely distracting. As you say it is difficult to talk to the boss about it because I am also in a small area.
I think that the obvious solution is to say something like "Listen name, I have to get some work done and it is hard to work with so many distractions. I think that it would be best if we saved this conversation for another time because I really need to get this done." eg, blame it on work.
2006-06-27 11:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what I always do is when people start talking to me I keep working and dont make too much eye contact with them. If they walk in and Im on the computer then I just keep typing away. They usually get the hint that Im busy and cant really talk. If they are asking questions just give them short answers and dont get into too much detail. You can always act like looney and start crying and yelling "im soooo stressed..ssoooo mcuh work to do!! Good luck!
2006-06-27 11:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he comes around,suddenly become very engrossed in your work,or tell him that you're really busy with something at the moment. The only other alternative is to speak with your supervisor about it and request that they not mention you when they talk to him. Usually people like this are quite dense, so if you don't do something definitive,he probably will not get the hint. Good luck!
2006-06-27 17:04:23 · answer #6 · answered by zeldina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. do not respond when he talks.
2. tell him in a "confidential tone" that employees are reprimanded by "chatting" and you would prefer not to "get in the habit" even when the boss is out.
3. tell him you need to make a call and then secretly dial time or the weather and pretend to talk business until be walks away.
4. tell him you are working on a deadline and need to work and are sure you can count on his help in keeping focused by not chatting with you.
Like Paul Simon sez....there must be 50 ways to....
2006-06-27 11:51:37 · answer #7 · answered by Sharon H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me, but I have some work I need to get finished.
If that doesn't work, add:
unless you leave my desk so that I can concentrate.
And remember that if your work starts to decline your boss is going to want to know what is going on anyway. Cover your butt, and tell him you have work to do, and he probably does too.
2006-06-27 11:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by oman396 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell him you're busy, you have a lot of work to do and don't have time for this. Maybe after you do this several times he will get the message that you don't want to listen to him all day.
2006-06-27 20:07:00 · answer #9 · answered by undir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time him. After 5 minutes tell him to go back to work. Keep doing this everytime.
2006-06-27 20:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋