in the past he would never do this again, he lied to me and after a 4 year relationship I found like 7 phone numbers of girls. Everytime I call these girls they WONT COME OUT WITH THE TRUTH! What can I do to get them to spill the truth. DO you have any suggestions. Obviously he has intentions to cheat has cheated or is thinking about it. How can I fool this girl in comin out with the truth as far as what they've done behind my back. i get the same sorry excuse we are just firends or they just hang up and wont answer me. Can I pose as someone else,,pls i need answers! What should I do about him?
2006-06-27 11:41:42 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do not pose as someone else.
Dump Him!
Bottom line. I have seen one of my friends do this, except it was crude pictures on his cell phone....
Why are you snooping to begin with? If you don't trust him, then the best thing to do is find a guy who you can trust.
Key word; Trust!
If you don't have trust in your relationship, then there really is no point in having one or you are going to be miserable.
2006-06-27 11:44:43 · answer #1 · answered by kristijay99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-11 05:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by Betty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever stopped long enough to think that they may have been there for awhile. That maybe they were a co-workers number, or just really a friends number.
You should sit down and have a nice long talk with him and see what he says. Be honest with him, tell him exactly what you're feeling. If you're having a huge trust issue with him then he needs to know, maybe he'll come clean to you. But you have to be willing to listen to him. And if he's telling you that they're just friends then you have two choices: a) give him the benefit of doubt or b) tell him that you don't believe him and see what happens.
I wouldn't go trying to pose as someone else, those things can lead to more trouble than it's worth.
2006-06-27 11:50:38 · answer #3 · answered by SmilingG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not confront him? If your suspicions are there, it's valid. I think girls have quite the sixth sense. From what you're saying, I smell a rat. If he's not honest than get rid of him, you deserve someone truthful.
Do it soon because the longer you wait, the more damage you'll feel in the end. Plus it will only hurt you later on when you find yourself in the same predicament and can't seem to get out of yet another relationship. NOT saying that it will happen again but there is a sick cycle we live in.
Be strong!
2006-06-27 11:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by jade11378 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, fortunately a relationship isn't like a job; you can break up without cause. (in most states, you can quit or be fired without cause as well; but not in all states)
Do you know that he's cheating? It sounds like you do. Fooling the girl into admitting that he's been cheating with her ain't easy. Generally, they either admit it or don't. If, however, she knows him, and you don't know her; you can always take the 'sugar-sweet' tack, and invite her over for something like a BBQ. Have lots of your homies there. Enjoy yourself. If she's REALLY a friend, then she shouldn't A). Have a problem with talkto or hanging out with you, or B). Mind going to the whatever-it-is.
And since from your description, it's 99.9% likely that he's cheating, dump him! As my drunk friend Kelly always said, "Men are like trolleycars... there a plenty of them in the sea." She was a pretty bad alcoholic. But you get the point.
2006-06-27 11:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by crazylikemrrogers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi well i think i can provide a logical answer to that. I would assume that if you found one phone number of a woman in your Boy Friends wallet it could be a freind or evan a work person. But if you find more then one unless he is just friends to every one it will show otherwise. You didn;t say weither he had mens numbers in his wallet. i assume he doesn't have a date planner or phone friend book. My advice is when you call first words out of your mouth are. (( I am his girlfriend ,If you wish to have a more then friendship with my boyfriend i would choose a man that won;t cheet on you to. Most woman when another woman calls them tends to lie or ignore the real reason but i assure you it stays on their mind. other wise if you love hem as ytou say you do. Sit down and tell hem with no turst in this relationship we have no other means but to call it off. I assure you , you will get your answer soon enough.
2006-06-27 11:49:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
chances are he aint cheating on you and just wants some more freinds that are girls is that a bad thing you probally have like ten numbers of guy friends dont ya. and if you want to find out the truth try to hang out with one of the girls and dont metion a thing about your BF and if they do say anything supocouis thing you know whats up.
2006-06-27 11:46:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um... my radio station does this thing called cheater hotel well they call the guy and tell him he has a free nights stay at some big hotel and then they say you can bring one guest and we just need to know the name for when you check in and they see if he says his gf name or someone elses. but 90% of the time the females are correct about they're bf cheating so if you know then leave him!!!!
2006-06-27 11:46:28 · answer #8 · answered by MelC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her who you are or what you want to know. Just figure out a way to make friends with her and get to talking about stuff. Once you get the goods on your bf, dump the bum!
2006-06-27 11:50:03 · answer #9 · answered by oldman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want to waste your beautiful youth on a cheating looser, move on! It's hard at first but you'll be sssoooo much happier after you have found someone you can 120% trust!!!!!
2006-06-27 11:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋