I keep dating these guys that I know won't work out. If I weigh the pros and cons, the cons outweigh the pros by a landslide. But these guys make me feel so comfortable and loved. When a guy comes along that absolutely wants to worship me and adore me, I avoid it. All logic should tell me I should go with the guy that has a good life and wants to share it with me, but instead I go with the guys that are unstable and are clearly nothing but trouble and heartbreak. Is something wrong with me?
2006-06-27 11:38:01 · 10 answers · asked by biancosunero 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is actually pretty common. A lot of people do this. It's not so much you're self-destructive, you're afraid of not meeting expectations. You need to be more in touch with yourself, see yourself as more than you do right now. Once you get that self-confidence up, you'll see you really do deserve a guy who worships you and adores you :)
2006-06-27 11:43:42 · answer #1 · answered by taintedsweetness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just wanna tell u something , u don't need guys to make u feel good about urself , don't say yes to every guy who offers to love u , it isn't the way ur romantic life should be . just try to give urself some time and wait Mr right coz u don't wanna date 100000 guys every month just to be comfortable and let me tell u this comfort is unstable and it won't get u anywhere . on the contrary , when u'll finally meet Mr right u wouldn't be sure about him and u 'll lose him by ur own choice coz u r not ready for a stable and long term relationship right now so i'm just saying try not to date anyone for a month and see where that goes ... good luck
2006-06-27 18:49:30 · answer #2 · answered by chocolate 90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there is something wrong with you. You're not ready for a relationship. You're comfortable with the "bad boys" because there's something that you're lacking in your life. If you wanted a real relationship, a true one, you wouldn't be picking these bad boys. I know, I wasn't ready for one and picked guys that were unavailable. I didn't like who I was, I wasn't happy with myself. It's easy to pick someone who isn't good to you because you don't have the self esteem to feel good about yourself.
If you have had negative attention in your life while growing up, you want the negative attention from these bad boys. It feels natural to you to be in bad relationships. The good ones that adore you they frighten you because you think "what do they see in me?" Until you improve your self esteem you will always settle for the bad relationships. You will never say to yourself that you deserve better. Until you believe you deserve a better relationship and feel good about yourself, you're not ready for a real relationship.
2006-06-27 18:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by Susan C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell ya I'm what your avoiding, and I can tell you why hopefully, like one of the others said, the heartbrakers are more interesting, But I assure you, I was the same with females, I liked the heartbreakers, but I found someone worth my time, and as of right now, she's perfect, and I hope it lasts. its way better then the heartbreakers
2006-06-27 18:53:45 · answer #4 · answered by kyokun44 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a condition that i call, needy. These guys that you are with allow you to feel in control and allow you to take care of them. Makes for a great mother but not so good in a relation ship
2006-06-27 18:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's okay i see the fact of the matter is just this simple that you want to be the one person that comes in and tames the bad boy. well let me tell you something, that bad boy has to really like you enable for them to settle down. it's really rare and doesn't really happen but it does every now and then but you just got to get some self esteem and get going.
2006-06-27 18:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by oaklandolee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont mean to be rude at all, but it sounds like you need to do some growing up....at first those guys that give you everything are no fun than after being with the guys that treat you like crap you start to realize that you deserve better and you will then want the "nice guy"
2006-06-27 19:15:46 · answer #7 · answered by LEFTY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothin wrong with you this is just human nature at its worst. women tend to go for the bad guys dont know why. maybe the thrill of the it all. but we always tend (if smart) to settle later for the intelligent nicer caring ones. go with how you feel not what other want for you
2006-06-27 18:43:07 · answer #8 · answered by yumm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same thing happens to me i think the heartbreakers are a lil more interestin than the nice ones or more cuter .....thats usually the reason
2006-06-27 18:42:22 · answer #9 · answered by grantd2089 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No most girls do that - that is why i have alot of sex - hey e mail me
2006-06-27 18:43:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋