Im always getting grounded! SOMEONE HELP?!?

Question

Im always getting grounded because i do stuff like go over my minutes on my cell phone and bring food to my room when im not laoud to. I really want to please my parents but as soon as I get out of a bad habit they always find something new to bother me about. I feel like im never good enough and never will be. Anyone have any advice, I'de be happy to help you with your problems 2, c8lyn

Answer 1

What is a shame, my friend, is that is very often how the world seems to be. Seldom people go out of their way to tell you how great you are or that you did a good job - but heaven help you if you mess up, you will often hear all about it.

It is natural for people to be this way - though it is unfortunate. Parents, in particular, have been steeped in a role of trying to educate their children and unfortunately can get stuck in a critical role.

There are things you can do. First, you can tell your folks how you feel - and that you understand, you just wish they would point out your good points as much as your bad. The more kindly you can say it (and not during an argument) the more receptive they will be to your words.

Second - if you are having a hard time following the rules because they don't work for you, maybe you can discuss this with your parents. You could say "i know it was important for me to not have food in my room when I was small and messy and didn't know better than to take ketchup up there - but I am very tidy and careful now and I only want to bring up an apple which isn't messy. Can we rethink this rule, now that I am older?" Your folks will be blown away by your maturity.

Third - People get what they expect in this world and after almost 40 years I have seen it to be true time and time again. If you allow your mind to get into a rut or to think over and over again that you are not good enough - guess what babe, that is what you will get in this world. Better for you say to yourself everytime you hear that in your head "I am so good enough!". You would also do yourself a world of good telling yourself over and over again "My parents love me and are always there for me".

In the beginning you might say "well I am just lieing to myself, that won't work" I tell you it will. When we are scared we sometimes say to ourselves "I am not afraid" just to get us out of the dark - this sort of thing is no different. Your world very often mirrors your thought patterns and you are the only one who can change your own mind or your thought patterns. Stuff that gets ingrained needs to be consiously corrected.

It is hard to be a kid and be under the authority of others all the time. Sometimes this type of affirmation work is the only way that we can have any sort of control over our environment and it works a treat. If you do it consistently (several times a day, everyday), you could see a change in as little as 3-5 days.

Peace, my dear!

Answer 2

Try to go above and beyond the call of duty when it comes to your parents. Limit the time you talk on your cell by deciding on either who to call each day, or set aside a certain amount of time to talk each day. Negotiate and ask them to see which foods you can and cannot take into your room.
I would guess the reason your parents are nagging and pressuring you is that they realize you're not a little girl anymore. They're trying to prepare you for the real world. To keep the nagging part away, take up small chores around the house (cleaning your room, washing dishes, etc.), to show that you're responsible.
This has nothing to do with the question, but try spending some of your own time with them and see what happens. They want to be a part of your life too! Whether they show it or not, you're perfect already in their eyes...just ask them!

Answer 3

It sounds like you will never be good enough for your parents. They will always find an excuse to ground you, even if you're perfect.

Some people faced with your situation are smart, some are stupid. The way you react will determine which you are. Stupid people fall into 2 categories:
1. Spend the rest of their lives in a futile attempt to please the people (in your case, your parents) who will never appreciate it.
2. Rebel and make a point of trying to piss them off.

Smart people just say "F**K it" and do what they want to do on their own, since they realize that someone will always find fault with them anyway.

You need to sneak out of the house. Have you ever tried drugs? You should. They might clear your head a bit.

Answer 4

Ask your parents to sit down with you for a "Family Meeting". At this time let them know you want to do all you can to please them. Ask that a RULES and DISCPLINE chart be written together with you and that everyone sign it. Ask that the discipline fit the crime. Groundation isn't always the answer.
On the other hand your parents may just be extremely strict and you will never win...atleast not until you are of age to move out and make your own rules!

Good Luck!

Answer 5

well try 2 do everything that your parents want u 2 do and if that still don't work ask ur parents 2 sit down with u ask them if they will get mad if u ask them a question depending on the answer say i feel like ya'll r always on my case i try 2 meet your expectations but than it seem like when i do that your try 2 find somethin else i do wrong as if your look 4 every tiny mistake just tell me what your want me 2 do and i'll try my best 2 do it

Answer 6

Play their game. And a better thing you just need to find a suitable time, and have honest peaceful family talk, and discuss their terms and find some agreement. Bringing food to your room ain't cool only in case if you don't eat with family, but snack is alright, especially when you studying something.

Answer 7

Ignorance is curable, stupidity is forever.
Don't be stupid, your answer is in your question.

And you aren't good enough, you are great enough. Stop the minor crap that you know you are doing wrong and you will be able to tell them, proudly, when they are nitpicking at you.

Only you have the ability to control their perception.


Oh, and if you listen to a person called Sarcastic1 or "I know nuttin" your bound to wind up in trouble.

It's all about self promotion and preservation. Just do the right thing.

Answer 8

Hey you have a choice. You can live by their rules and be happy or keep up and keep getting grounded. Sounds like to me you're looking for somebody to tell you it is okay to be stupid. You may find them here, but they're most likely stupid too.

The ball is in you're court. You know what to do, so do it. Or quit complaining about suffering the consequences.

TX Guy

Answer 9

sit down with your parents and write down what behavior is aloud and what is not, have it in writing.
no arguing at this time, take it down and take it as thought only.
ask them this is to help you understand the rules in the house better, only reason.
that you want to be clear on the rules.
cell phone rules, food being eaten in what areas of the house, and the list goes on from there.
have it down in writing, since its hard to remember , parents are aloud to make up rules as they see fit also, life changes and your behavior changes and they have to set rules to keep yourself safe and have you be responsible for you and your actions you choose.

Answer 10

well it is impossible to please parents i should know i am 13 and if it is somewhting stupid like mintuses there is a number to call to see how many mintutes left
haley
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