My dad started to find fauls with me a few months ago...like washing dishes and to take care of my bed and room and MY everything...well I accepted cuz they were my stuffs and i took care of them very well...for a few weeks my dad found out that he can't blame me for anything...so he started to tell me to wash my own clothes and stuff...I accepted that too...but it didn't make the setuation any better...he told me to do things more and more each week...now I see I do everything in the house and he does nothing...im just 16 year old...my mom doesn't live here and is in her work in London...i have no bros or sisters so its just me and my dad...what do i do?plzz
2006-06-27 11:21:50 · 12 answers · asked by The dude 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
plz dont tell me "talk to him".he doesn't understand anything...i have tried it before and it didn't work...even my mom talked to him but no result...
2006-06-27 11:22:50 · update #1
I live in Sweden
2006-06-27 11:27:23 · update #2
as parents rules goes as long as you live under my roof.........you'll go by my rules.....................just do what he asks and one day show him all the responsibility.you have and suggest an allowance.....................good luck kid........just be glad your not being beaten
2006-06-28 09:57:59 · answer #1 · answered by auntjewly 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Get invloved more with activites outside of the home. That way you won't be there so much for him to order around. Also if he expects you to take on all the house hold chores he should give you some kind of an allowance. Try talking to your mom as well and see what she has to say. I assume that no one knows your dad better then your mom. My parents did the same thing with me and I can tell you that confronting the situation head on is not the best solution. Also if you're dad is working full time then it's ok if you're helping more with the house stuff. If he's not working at all try to get out of the house as much as possible. If it comes down to it flat out tell him to start helping, he'll get really pissed but he should also get your message. If it gets to bad try staying with friends for a little while or even your mom.
2006-06-27 11:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by wsucougal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that seems like a tough situation and there really isn't anything i can say. I was going to say talk to him but then i read you said don't put that. Maybe you should stand up to him and tell him no that he needs to move his *** and freakn' help around the house and that you aren't his slave and just drop everything and go to your room. But again i think the best thing to do is talk and maybe you need to yell a little to get your point across. Well good luck and let us know what happens.
2006-06-27 11:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm absolutely sure that you won't be able to resolve this issue without communication. I suggest that you tell you're dad that you are feeling a little hurt because you feel he is being hard on you. Explain that you want to have a good relationship with him and want to be able to talk things out.
Be mature and calm, and try to find out why your dad is being the way he is.
Good Luck!!
2006-06-27 11:37:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well do evrything u have to do and finsh early and ask him if he wants to go play catch or something. i don't know ur dad but maybe he wants to spend time w/ u cuz his bored. cuz not to sound mean but u sound like a goody good boy. but that's cool some girls like that. yeah or maybe he thinks something is wrong w/ u cuz u don't do anything bad. well i really feel bad for u. hope evrything works out!!! :>>>>>>>>>>>>
LOVE YA & BE HAPPY!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Julie
2006-06-27 11:31:31 · answer #5 · answered by Julie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about...does he pay the bills? Because if he has a job, it's only doing your part around the house that he's asking for.
2006-06-27 11:25:58 · answer #6 · answered by clarabel_s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could simply give him a reason to find faults.... dont do the dishes he will have to when their is none clean let him live in a pig sty for a while and then tell him quite simply I am your child not your maid
2006-06-27 11:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it dont sound good but just do it and bite your toungue keeps u out of trouble and later he might appreciate it maybe he will remember it and be there for u when u need something
2006-06-27 11:26:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want you to call kids help phone now!
1-800-668-6868
www.kidshelpphone.ca
2006-06-27 11:26:31 · answer #9 · answered by shire_maid 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do as he asks with a smile on your face.He's teaching you responsibility.Once he realizes you can do all of it then he will lay off.It's called GROWING UP.Good luck!
2006-06-27 11:25:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just obey him he loves you & tries to teach you how to be a responsible man
good luck
2006-06-27 12:01:55 · answer #11 · answered by gigi_2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋