He does nice things for me all the time, and I know he loves me - we're getting married in December. But I'm always the one planning dates, thinking of new things to do, he never calls and says 'get ready, I'll be there to get you and I've got the night planned'. How do I get him to be more spontaneous and romantic without making him feel bad about how he is now or him feeling like I don't appreciate him? I don't want it to be like this forever, and I know that after you get married the romance and spontaneity goes down anyway.
2006-06-27 11:20:24 · 8 answers · asked by Heartbroken and Lonely 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Give up. It is just not usual for men to be romantic. They love you, they will be kind, generous, & very amorous but not very romantic. My husband won the 2nd most romantic husband by DeBeers Diamonds, but in 33 years that makes about one dozen times he has been romantic. I would marry him again tommorrow but not because he is romantic. What do you want a good husband or a romantic one?
2006-06-27 12:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? When will the romance and spontaneity go down? Now I'm worried!! Oh, I'm sorry, back to your problem...
If you want him to change, forget it!!! you would be better off calling the whole thing off and starting fresh. Believe what he is telling you about himself!
Otherwise you may end up as the cheating wife (no offense meant) looking for what you wished you had looked for in the first place!!!
best of luck my dear!
2006-06-27 11:25:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it's HIS TURN, that you want a day of surprises, all you want to know ahead of time is whether to wear jeans or a fancy dress and what time he is going to pick you up -- you want him to do the rest.
Now here is the down side. He may be TERRIBLE at this sort of thing and show you a dull evening. If so, no "constructive criticism" allowed. You asked for this, and so you have an obligation to "enjoy" it even if you don't enjoy it.
2006-06-27 11:53:09 · answer #3 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey you know what you are getting into and if you don't find a polite way to talk to him about how youfeel you are either going to end up not going through with the weddding or you will get married and end up in divorce. He needs to know how you feel. comunication is vital for a healthy marriage
2006-07-04 08:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to thwart disappointment soon, you should tell him hat you want. don't plan the night out for him, but make it very clear that you like it when a man takes charge of things (just not all the time?)... hope this helps...
2006-06-27 11:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by Jim B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lock him in a room with hearts and the lights dimmed then go in for the kill if you know what I mean.
2006-06-27 11:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU REALLY CAN'T CHANGE A PERSONS PERSONALITY. MORE THAN LIKELY HE WILL NEVER REALLY BE THE ROMANTIC TYPE. YOU KNOW THIS NOW BEFORE YOU ARE MARRIED TO HIM SO EITHER YOU ACCEPT IT NOW OR DON'T MARRY HIM THINKING YOU CAN CHANGE HIM.
2006-06-27 11:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by BAG LADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk about it and be flirty
2006-06-27 11:23:39 · answer #8 · answered by nano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋