There's this girl that i'm in love with and I willing spend a large amount of money just to show her how much i love her and I want to buy her certain things but i'm not sure if it is okay to spend money on her in order to show her how much i love her
2006-06-27 10:37:34 · 22 answers · asked by chaikid88@sbcglobal.net 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a question as old as time. Yes it is okay to SPEND MONEY ON A GIRL. If she wants a new pair of shoes then go and get her a nice pair and offer it to her as a gift, but when it comes to love that is a diffrent story. The only problem with that is that, you are trying to make her believe you love her by getting her something, and in all honesty you might be coming off as "I bet I could buy her?" and I know your situation its more like "How can I show her I love her, maybe if I got her something she liked then she would know that money means nothing compared to her", so what you have to do is play this right.
1. Don't buy something over the top (Keep It Simple Stupid -KISS)
2. Make sure it is something she will love not something she would like to have (Roses say more than shoes)
3. Try to add a nice touch to it (Get her 11 roses, and 1 fake rose and leave a note saying "I stop loving you when the last rose dies)
4. Try to make it have meaning (If she loved her dog, but it passed away, get her another one, but NOT OF THE SAME BREED. You don't know what kind of **** she went through)
5. And finally MAKE SURE SHE FEELS THE SAME WAY
And tell her you love her, before and after the gift giving. GOOD LUCK :)
2006-06-27 10:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by daven0422 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ITS NOT OK.
Show her you love her by being there for her, keeping her company, talking with her. If you have to buy someones effections, they are never real.
If you are in a relationship with this girl, then make extra effort to be with her and show her you care about her without paying out of pocket each time. Take her out to the beach or a park, do romantic things like remembering something that she charished as a child and doing it with her now. Be yourself around her and be a real listener and an even better friend.
She will know you love her. If you must get something though, get things that are simple and to her taste. If she likes stuffed animals, get her a certificate to build-a-bear and go there together and make a new friend. If she like exotic books, or cultures or foods, take her to see foriegn files (and pay attention and ask questions), or a cooking class or to a belly-dancing or salsa class togther.
The point I am trying to make is this: By learning more about her life and her world and trying to do things with her that she likes and has genuine intrest in you are able to bond with her on a higher level.
Anyone can go buy 3 dozen red long stem roses, you want to be remembered always.
2006-06-27 10:43:36 · answer #2 · answered by *meh* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the only way she can "feel" the love is by receiving things, then yes, it's wrong. If you just want to do nice things for her to make her happy, then that's okay. If she'd be just in love with you if you didn't spend a cent on her, you'll know it's true love. Because what'll happen is you'll spend a fortune for a broken heart.
2006-06-27 10:48:51 · answer #3 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with buy your girl things to show her you love her. Just make sure you are also showing her you love her by spending time with her, being supportive, and talking with her too.
2006-06-27 10:40:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's an excellant idea. But a girl doesn't just want everything in the world, she wants to be loved by you. So you can't just buy your way into her heart, you have to show her and her parent(s) respect, be curtious (showing manners), and treat her right. So you can buy her the world just make sure you also show her the things I mentioned.
2006-06-27 10:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by inuyasha_harrypotter_frankie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a BF that spent over 800 dollars on me for christmas soon later i dumped him and returned all his gifts i hate when men spend money on me it sometimes comes off as u trying to buy her love. Also unless you are positive she isnt a gold digger i wouldnt go blow my cash on her right away. Small gifts are good to like flowers and they arnt that expensive. many girls also dont need the gifts just show her u care by being there for her calling her up at night just to say sweet dreams or go to a important event w/ her. small jestures mean more than they seem.
2006-06-27 10:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by surfer_babe4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love this girl and she likes you, she won't use you for buying her stuff. I know you think that a way into a girls heart is by buying her stuff, that isn't always true. Take her on a picnic, to the beach, something romantic so she knows that you like her for who she is. If she likes you back, she won't need the other stuff. IF you end up buying her all this stuff she may end up liking you for the wrong reasons -- like you spoiling her too much. Then you won't have a solid and serious relationship.
2006-06-27 10:41:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money can't buy love. Grand monetary gestures don't demonstrate love and most of the time it's the simple things that matter. My first love wrote me a poem for my birthday. over 10 years later I still have that poem but no idea where he rest of the presents he gave me are.
2006-06-27 10:48:48 · answer #8 · answered by Ms Bleu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to spend money to show somebody how much you care about them or love them.. love is not about money.. and money is not about love. There are many things you can do to show her you love her.... make something for her.. build something for her... paint something.. write a poem... write her a song.... plant a tree in her name.... make a garden for her... you can spend some money to do things... but you shouldn't have to spend a fortune to convince her of your love. Love comes from the heart.. not the wallet!
2006-06-27 10:42:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is okay to spend money on someone that you love. But, you show her in actions and words also, that you love her. Money should not be tops in a relationship. Just good old fashion LOVE!!!!!!!!
2006-06-27 10:43:14 · answer #10 · answered by oddbutterfly1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋