We have been together for the last 6 years and I am just not in love with him anymore. Although I do still love him like a brother. I have felt this way for the last year of our relationshipt but I have been hesitant to leave because I am scared he can't take care of everything without me. I am almost like his mother as I take care of everything. Paying all the bills and making sure all of our responsibilities are taken care of.......He is not stupid.... he has just never had to take care of these types of things since we have been together all of our adult lives and I have done everything for him. I know that this is no reason to stay with him...... but is there a way I can make things easier on him before I go?? Or will my help just insult him when he finds out I want to leave?? I am 100% sure I am ready to end this I just don't want to leave him stranded. any ideas??
2006-06-27 10:21:00 · 9 answers · asked by purple rain 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't feel guilty about what happens to him if you're unhappy. You're carrying too much weight on your shoulders. Worry about yourself. You should not take pity if you want to end something clean. Besides, you are not his mother.
2006-06-27 12:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by starr 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
He will survive. Emotionally, financially,and physically. Don't give yourself that reason just to stay and be unhappy. Of course, after you move out or move on you can check up on him. I'm willing to bet that he can do more than you think. Its just that you have done it the entire time and he didn't have to. Believe me, I was raised in a household w/ a stay at home mom and I didn't have to do anything. I didn't learn basic stuff needed until I was married. Now I'm 6 yrs divorced and do everything including raising my son. Humans adjust that's what we do.
You need someone self sufficient anyway. Hint Hint.
2006-06-28 03:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no easy way to do it. the best way is to say exactly how you feel. tell him you still care for him but you know your not in love with him and its time for you both to move on in life and see where it takes you. I had a three year relationship that wasnt going anywhere and it was the hardest thing i ever had to do was let go and move on
2006-06-27 16:28:46 · answer #3 · answered by mwashburn30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. Don't do what one ex did to me and screww me all spring break then tell me the next monday when I got back to school that she no longer loved me, had felt this way for moths and in fact already had a new bf.
That would be the wrong way to do it.
2006-06-27 10:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This was something I went through I just went to him and told him I wasn't happy and I wanted to move on ,,he was hurt but he said he could tell that I wasn't happy he just didn't want to lose me ,,Now we are good friends .My story end good ,,some don't I was lucky.
2006-06-27 10:28:54 · answer #5 · answered by SkyLyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like a band-aid, just take it off. It'll hurt for a minute but then you won't feel the pain.
2006-06-28 11:00:31 · answer #6 · answered by Man_With_No_Name 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you try to go window shopping for your wedding dress, tuxidos, wedding shoes, or even an engagement ring with him, this will give him a hind as to what you expect next. or plain ask him if he has any future plans for this relationship.
2006-06-27 10:27:39 · answer #7 · answered by Reineiro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about......it's time to move on. have a nice life.
2006-06-27 10:26:35 · answer #8 · answered by marabierto1961 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say that....
2006-06-27 10:25:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋