2006-06-27 10:20:35 · 32 answers · asked by Mountaineer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Because playing the field just leads from one rubbish relationship to the next, never feeling what it is like to really know a person, to be in love. Plus, when ur 80 years old, playing the field gets so much harder to do when no one will go out with u, and u will die alone, never have being in a meaningful relationship, and that kind of thing will haunt u for eternity.
2006-06-28 10:16:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 3⤋
most of us? are you answering for the whole world ? I respectfully disagree, in MY opinion MOST of us - ( at least half of the population aka females) want nothing more than a loving, safe, wonderful monogamous relationship and marriage. Honestly if you can even ask this, thenyou feel just fine when your boyfriend cheats on you ? You feel nothing if he betrays you and your trust and keeps playing the field, while playing you too. You may think its fun right now ( 20's circa) but at 40 years old will you really be content with being an old sad woman who now looks wrinkled and ugly and CANT play the field anymore bc of that, PLUS has no man next to her who will no matter what tell her that shes beautiful and he loves you and always has? Come on, be serious - would you REALLY like that scenario to happen to you ?
Just trying to bring you a situation, so it will be easier to understand. ~
2006-06-27 10:32:39 · answer #2 · answered by Jackie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be free to play the field. Unless you are young and just trying to find out what it is you want in someone, being in a monogamous relationship is wonderful. You find a friendship, a comfort, a feeling of security that is priceless, we were meant to pair up, procreate and live our lives trusting that other person. People that have these monogamous relationships have lower blood pressure and are overall healthier. Of course not all of them work out, I don't believe there is just one soul mate for everyone, but it is a real joy to share life with someone then jumping arond to a bunch relationships where you really don't know that person well.
2006-06-27 10:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because those of you that do are too terrified to be alone. You think settling for someone who's just ok and not everything you need will keep you from being single and lonely. That's even worse than being on your own! Be ok with yourself and making yourself happy and you'll better be able to have relationships, or not have them and play the field if you so choose!
2006-06-27 10:23:40 · answer #4 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just 'cause u got married doesn't mean your interest in other people dies off like flipping a switch...but part of that whole question is how important marriage is to you, beware the wandering eye etc...some people have 'open' marriages where they see other people, some people are strictly monogamous, depends on where you and your mate fall in with all of that...
might sit down and have a talk about it, if you're really attracted to somebody outside your marriage...but, it might also be the beginning of the end of your marriage...
2006-06-27 10:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by gokart121 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Human nature is to want what they can't have, in most cases people want to play the field cause they're in a rrelationship, but most people playing the field want to be in a relationship. You decide what you truly want, if you choose playing the field, you'll be around more people, if its about sex, theres much more to be had playing the field. But you won't find a deep feelinbg of love or caring and in most cases satisfaction either when you're playing the field.
2006-06-27 10:28:02 · answer #6 · answered by kyokun44 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We do?
When you find that Mr. Right or Mrs. Right monogamy is what you want. If you don't, you haven't found him or her yet.
If most of us want to be free to play the field then most of us won't be in a monogamous relationship. Since most relationship are monogamous, one must conclude that most of us do not want to play the field.
2006-06-27 12:35:33 · answer #7 · answered by easywintoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't speak for me when you assume that "most of us" want to play the field. I want no such thing. I've been there, done that, and there is nothing like coming home to someone who will be with you through thick and thin. If all that matters is sex, then don't settle down. But, for many of us, it's about love and respect with one person over jumping in and out of bed with numerous people.
2006-06-27 11:16:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some people see a monogomous relationship as a way to get all the things done that bore you like washing, ironing etc and there is always sex available whenever you want it you don't have to try but the thrill of the chase and the possibility of feeling like a stud and of course the excitement of sex when you know it's dangerous and wrong is a great pull to lots of people.
2006-06-27 10:27:18 · answer #9 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to play the field, by no means should you marry anyone.
But when you grow up a bit more, and see that a longterm committment can be a good thing, and not a hinderance, settling down and getting married is a WONDERFUL experience
2006-06-27 10:24:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋