My sister has major integrity issues- she continually lies to ppl, back-stab, uses, cheats & is selfish. She likes to blame everyone for her problems, including me from time to time. Nothing is ever her fault. She likes to lie to her friends about me in order to make herself look better because she feels inferior about the fact that I’ve gotten everything I have & gotten where I am w/hard work, on my own.
I thought that her lying was over, but I’ve learned that she hasn’t changed. She’s lied to everyone & most of all, has lied to me, going to great lengths to hide it.
I can’t deal w/her anymore. I want to call her out on her sh*t & confront her. It would be easier if she didn’t live 500 miles away. I want her to know that I’m not just another morons that she thinks she can see right through & convince of anything. I want her to know how wrong she is, even though it’s probably pointless.
I guess my real question is, should I confront her & how? What would you do & say?
2006-06-27 10:20:07 · 5 answers · asked by Wild Rose 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She recently lost her son due to drugs & I’ve been a moral support for her, while stressing that it’s completely up to her to earn him back. However, now that I’ve learned what I have, I’m not so sure that she should have him back. However, if she doesn’t gain custody of him back again, I will never be allowed to see or have any form of communication w/him until he is 18 due to the laws of her state. It just adds more to the problem.
She's also moved in w/her bf, who's renting a room out of a house w/a couple. The only reason they've let her move in is because she told them she was pregnant. She has a history of saying that to get sympathy or get off the hook when she's in trouble.
2006-06-27 10:22:00 · update #1
There isn't much you can do. She probably wouldn't listen to you if you did say anything to her. Just let her be. Even if she lies to people about you, I'm sure she won't stay credible to them for long. Everyone will eventually figure her out. Confronting her will just make her act like she's the victim of your "cruel" words. She'll probably tell everyone just to get sympathy.
2006-06-27 11:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can only change when she wants to, and when she gets professional help. At some point, you will have to make a hard choice - I hope you can be brave enough to let her go before she takes you down with her.
When a person lives in lies, everyone around her is seen as a mark to be taken advantage of, and she ends up LIKING the act of fooling everyone. When she has reached this point, it is virtually impossible to treat her, because she will lie to the therapists and they won't get anywhere. When she begins having empathy with other people and stops treating them all like her prey, then she will change, but not before.
2006-06-27 10:30:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are smart, they see through lies.
Let her know what upsets you (in a non-confrontational way), she might be open to your thoughts. And listen to her when she has something to say.
And the biggest thing I can say is; stay away from using confrontational words. It just leads the other person to respond in a stronger tone.
Although she is still your sister, people do change. Give it some time.
2006-06-27 10:36:18 · answer #3 · answered by lesliepatrus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 13:14:41 · answer #4 · answered by tamura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i do earn my points look at all the questions i answered. well u shouldn't t confront her but get the other people that she lied on cheated and etc. If that was me what i would do is show her how it feels to be treated like that so the next boyfriend will act like they cheated on her.
2006-07-01 04:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋