My friend wants me to ask you guys this question, thanks:
I have been dating a guy very casually for about a month and a half. I say very casually because we only see each other once a week or less. We have different work schedules and both have stressful lives. I have two kids and work 40 hours a week. He is working 70+ hours, 6 days a week. He is looking for a job where we could have more quality time together. We have agreed to take things slowly (i.e. no sex). We think about each other all day. We both have confessed how much we love each other. I had no idea that a love like this could exist.
I would love to talk to him everyday, just to see how his day went, but I don't want to nag him. We haven't talked in four days, as he told me that he would call me. He has mild depression and is shy, he also gets embarrassed easily.
How can we keep our relationship going? I don't want to smother him. I think that he is “the one”.
2006-06-27 10:01:18 · 8 answers · asked by bellacervantes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your "friend" shouldn't change much of anything. The reason its going so well is because you aren't in eachother's arses all the time. If you both...I mean if they both love eachother so much after a month and a half its a little too good to be true. Which means taking this to another level will most likely screw it up.
2006-06-27 10:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by letum_ante_dedecus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A little more time will tell if this relationship will work out. In the meantime, if he says he's going to call and you don't want to smother him, give him that space. If I were you though, I wouldn't sit by that phone. When a guy is really into you, he calls, busy or not. My boyfriend runs his own business and works 11-12 hour days but on the days we don't see each other, he ALWAYS calls me. ALWAYS. He views me as the bright spot in his otherwise cloudy day. If he does call, hopefully you'll make some plans to see each other, and when you do, you can bring up the subject of wanting to talk more. You've got nothing to lose with that conversation and you shouldn't feel like you need to walk on eggshells to get what you want out of this relationship too. Good luck and I hope that helped!
2006-06-27 17:08:01 · answer #2 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys love the attention. Pick up the phone and call him if you think he's shy. It's ok to make the first move. I like it when a lady makes them on me....
If he's busy and can't talk, he'll let you know. But go ahead a give him a call. I'm sure you won't regret it.
2006-06-27 17:07:10 · answer #3 · answered by Mark J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both seem like you have some baggage but if he loves you he won't mind talking to you. I mean call him sometime and see how he reacts to just simple casual conversation. Notice I said sometime because you're right you don't want to smother him.
2006-06-27 17:06:20 · answer #4 · answered by Neka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he thinks you are "the One" also, you have nothing to worry about. A man that works 70+ hours a week is exhausted. Be patient with him. He WILL calll....he said he would. Hopefully, he will find that other job and not work so many hours...soon! It will work out, just don't push!
2006-06-27 17:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well frist u tell him what u feel and its a good start that hes finding a job with less hours. tell him u would like it if he would call at least once everyday. and did u ask ur kids if they like him and do things together ask him to go to the park do stuff to make him feel more like in the familey.
2006-06-27 17:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
overtime kills relationships. You end up so tired, you have no interest in it, or energy for it anymore. If your relationship is going to go anywhere, he needs to get off THAT schedule...
2006-06-27 17:06:43 · answer #7 · answered by gokart121 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him once a day he shouldnt be bothered by your call if he loves. this will make things better for u and him
2006-06-27 17:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by dog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋