I hate my parents!?

Question

Well 1st off I'm asian and my parents are stict. I hate them. I can never do anything right. I don't compare to my sister cuz they're smart and get like 4.00s. Like I try and they all just keep hurting me. I ******* hate them! They think I'm the one with the problem. It's not me it's them. Like I kept cutting school because I hate school and I just can't care. I just want them to leave me alone and let me do whatever I want. They never listen and they don't understand. I know I sound like a typical teenager but my parents are assholes. I never get to go out. And I'll do whatever I want anyways... we already went to see a therapist. They need it more than I do. Seriously!

I don't hate them but you know it's like an expression. but they make me cry and feel like **** and my dad called me stupid and that hurts and i have severe depression and i can't help it everything hurts

Answer 1

Yep, definitely typical teenager. Sorry to tell you, but you are. Your parents love you. I know it doesn't seem that way now. We all go through exactly what you're going through. Trust me, if your parents didn't love you, they wouldn't care at all about what you do. You may hate school, but you will never get anywhere if you don't go. You'll always have a dead-end job. You'll be struggling from paycheck to paycheck and not be able to take care of a family. I know you're young and know everything, but in a couple of years you will realize you know nothing and you should have listened to your parents. My parents were strict, too, and now I appreciate it. More than you can imagine. My friends who had parents that let them do whatever ended up in trouble and have horrible lives now. I realize now that my parents were right. And now I'm raising my 2 small children the same way. I'm 24 and wish I could take back all the things I did to my mom when I thought she was being to strict. I snuck around and did things she didn't approve of. You don't realize it now, but you'll regret it. I promise. However, on the good side of things, at least you're going through this now. Every single person has to go through this stage in some form or another. If they don't do it in their teenage years, they'll do it as an adult. And that can result in horrible problems. I have a friend going through that now and it's awful. I know you're angry with your parents and I know it sucks, but you'll appreciate it one day. Just please realize that your parents do love you. They care enough to worry about you. Be grateful you don't have parents who don't give a crap what happens to you. You are a lucky kid. I know you probably don't care a bit what I say, but at least think about it. Don't take advice from other people your age....they're going through it just as you are. Take advice from people who have already been through it. If not from me, then from someone you know who's older and been there done that. Stop trashing your parents....they are the only ones you have. And will ever have. imagine your life without them....honestly, and not with the anger....

Answer 2

The choices you make today will effect who and what you become later. Think about that. Your parents may be strict but, you know that they love you and they want you to have a good life. The teen age years don't last forever. However, they are very dangerous times. Cutting school is not going to get your parents off your back............following what seem to be their unfair rules and showing that you can be responsible for youself will make your life much happier and easier. You are right you are a young adult and you will do whatever you want. But, you will also have to live with what you do. Not finishing school, breaking laws, disassociating with parents will only lead to hard times. You will probably end up in a job that doesn't pay well and you will have no one there to help you when you find out that most people who say they are your friends don't help when the going gets tough........family does.
You are right. Both you and your parents need counseling so that you can communicate more effectively. I hope that you find yourself and that you can become closer with your family. Life is hard enough without having to cause more troubles for yourself.

Answer 3

I understand that your parents are strict, but you say you keep cutting school. How can you expect them to give you some personal freedom and responsibility when you're not meeting your obligation of going to school?
Here's what I would do: attend school regularly. Do what you can to bring your grades up. Maybe ask your brilliant sisters for some help. Show your parents you're trying to make some positive changes. Suggest that, since you are making the effort, maybe they could lighten up and allow you to go out more often or stay out a bit later.
This attitude, trust me, is not going to get you anywhere. It's not working very well so far, is it?
Believe me, your parents love you and are probably very worried about your future.

Answer 4

Oh boy do I understand you. I do not know what to tell you but my sister had a friend like that and she was the same way. Is this why most Asians become alcoholics I do not know. All you can do IS the best that you can and there is nothing wrong with you. Seek a school counselor and see if they want to get you and your parents involved into some family therapy

Answer 5

oh i am sorry. you sound exactly like me when i was younger. everything you mentioned i know i had said or thought the same thing. i am going to take a guess and say your 17 right? anyway hang in there, the teenage years do not last that long. and people are wrong when they say thats the best years of your life. ha
wait til college thats when the fun starts. just try to play it cool until you can go to college. and you know what? you will probably thank your parents in the long run for everything. probably not now, but someday soon

Answer 6

I think you need to seek guidance and help. You are talking about your parents. You act like a spoiled little brat. They brought you into this world and gave you your life. How dare you. Stick it out until you are 18 and then get out of there house, but until you reach that age you better learn to respect them and abide by there rules. You are lucky you have parents that care enough about you to be strict . Some parents don't give a shi* about there kids and the children just become more statistics for us to read about. Hate is a strong word.

Answer 7

I'm a parent now myself and had a similar experience when I was young. I had two older sisters my parents often compared me to. But it is very common for young people to rebel somewhat. Just remember that your parents love you and want what's best for you. I used to feel my parents made my life miserable until I met other kids whose parents were drug addicts, alcoholics or just very selfish and didn't care about their children, only themselves. They left their kids alone, but alone to figure out life without any love or guidance. By the way, I accomplished more in the business arena than either of my sisters. I didn't set out to beat them, my only goal was to do my personal best.

Answer 8

god tell me about it!!!!
im asian too and my parents tell me to be perfect im very good at art...not picasso good but better than a 9 grader should be...i could beat up a 11 graders art and dad just keep pushing me to the edge he thinks his all holy and i hate him i hate being a asian i hate asian parents i hate hate hate there stupid *** teachings they never let me explain my self they just assume there right and they hate it when there wrong there ****** brains are mess i wish they where born with out mouths and just shut the helling up
man!!!they will never shut up!

Answer 9

firstly, i'd like tosay that it makes me sad to hear you say "you hate your parents". they only want the best for you. obviously, the lines of communication are closed. re-open them!!! tell them your pain, your anger, your despair----but--do this without shouting. be diplomatic and offer to work with them to enrich all your lives. life is shot. do it quick!!

Answer 10

cut school and do whatever you want anyway
your just askin for it
try staying out of trouble for a while and do what you are told and in time your freedoms shall return