how many kids?

Question

How many kids does one have and want?? I am 34 and just fine with my 2 kids...they are far apart in age which i like. 8 year old daughter and a soon to be 5 month old son. I have somewhat of a life as my daughter is a big help to me. I really don't know how these parents do it that have 2 kids close in age. I see it all the time and they don't look happy.

Answer 1

I have 5 kids. Ages 10, 8,7,4, and 2. I love it. They are close in age which I love, because they always have someone to play with. I am 29.

Answer 2

I have three sons and a baby on the way. My older two are one year and four days apart. My husband and I did it just fine and I am very happy with my family.

Maybe what you are seeing in other people is a reflection of how you would feel. Linda I have read/responded to a number of your questions and I wish you would read my answers. I really think you need to do a couple of things to improve you personal life:
1) Seek professional help (I'm not trying to be mean, I just think you need life skills help, parenting classes & someone to talk to)
2) Create a blogger or join an online group. This is really helpful so that you don't keep getting suspended from Yahoo Answers.
3) Have a long talk with your boyfriend about the issues you are having with both him and your son. (If he is understanding, he's a keeper and you should work things out. If not dump him)
4) Join a mom to mom group in your area. ALOT of times moms in these groups swap babysitting and that way you can get a break when you need it.

Answer 3

I have a 20 month old boy and we are trying to conceive a second time now. We have talked about having 3 children but will wait at least 5 years after the second one to see where finances take us and if we can afford to have a 3rd child then. My mom has me and my sister and we are 25 months and 4 days apart and if you really want to get technical, I have 2 hours on her as well. My cousins are 2 and 3 years apart most of them. My husband has 2 brothers and a sister, they are right now 19, 20, 23 and 23. My mother-in-law adopted 2, her neice and nephew and just raised the other nephew as another sibling. Their bio mother was deemed a "bad mother" in the 80's she had her first son at 15 then 18 and 19. So my husband being an only child biologically he comes froma big family for today's standards. They all know they were adopted and know who their birth mother is and how irresponsible she still is, they know hubby's mom as mom and they are all siblings. My mother-in-law actually wanted to have another child now in her 40's with her new husband at the same time her grandchildren are coming along. After the second grandchild, my son, she decided that it was better to be a grandmother at 40 then a mother again and put more stress and strain on her body.
I still may wind up having 3 children anyway.
My friend wants 3, both of my sister-in-laws want a second child. Another friend is feeling the same as you, her daughter is starting grade 1 in sept and she now is wanting to try to conceive for a second one, her and her sister are no more than 18 months apart.

Answer 4

I am 22 years old. I have a 3 1/2 year old boy and a six month old boy. Hopefully I am pregnant with my 3rd now. I have to take a test in a week if I don't get my period. I want 3. But if I knew I could afford it I would have like 5 or 6. I love kids and I can't work because I have an autoimmune diease. So, having lots of my own would be exciting for me.

Answer 5

I had my second when my oldest was 9 and was feeling the same way. However, now that they are 3 and 12 I am seeing the other side of it. My oldest is a terribly hormonal teen and is very bossy of her little sister who is defiant and won't take orders from anyone. They use to get along great but are turning into little monsters and I have to keep them seperated. A year ago I though I wanted to have another but now I'm having second thoughts. I think if they were closer together they would at least be on the same level developmentally but to have a teen and a preschooler I have to be 2 moms at the same time. It's a lot more work than I expected.

Answer 6

I have a 6 year old, a 4 year old and a 3 year old. My youngest are 12 months apart. I didn't have my children this close together on purpose, but now that I did, I wouldn't have it any other way. It is tough at times, especially during outings. But, my children never get bored. They always have a playmate. They are so close. They sleep together, play together, laugh together, cry together. When one is in trouble, the other crys too usually. Sometimes there will be a little smirk in there from the youngest one! It just depends on your personality and the lifestyle you want to live. For me, it is fine!

Answer 7

Two is a great number...it is just a matter of personal choice. My neighbor is pregnant with her 5th child now.
My mother always said once you have two any more are no trouble at all.

I had two children back to back (one year age difference) they are adults now and very close, but it was like raising twins- plus one has a developmental disability. so you never know what challenges lie ahead. I also aquired a wonderful step daughter who is now 13 and all of our kids get along great.
As for htose with chilren close in age the only reason they dont look happy is probably becuse when you see them they are out in public when the kids misbehave the most.

Answer 8

I always wanted 2 or 3 kids but things were never right and I ended up with 1 son. He's now 14 and I'm glad I never had more kids. He and I are more than mother and son... we have a good close bond and friendship that I feel we would not have had if I'd had more kids. He has pestered me for a baby brother or sister but now he's just happy to babysit his baby cousins! Better all round for everyone lol!

Answer 9

I am soon to have 2 girls that are 12 months apart. My daughter will be a year old in July and she'll have a little sister 2 or 3 weeks after that. Not to mention Im a single mom....but ill survive.

Answer 10

To be perfectly honest my children are 14 months apart and I am very happy. I have two little girls ages 4 and 5. They share things together and are VERY close!! Being that close in age gives them a playmate. They key to raising them without getting frazzled is keeping them on a consistant schedule. We have a daily routine and they know what to expect. I also have a fifteen year old and she's not close to the little ones. SO, I am glad they are close together.