I even got letter from his lawyer to reduce his access. He sees them every other Saturday and six hours during the week. ( when he turns up ) If it was just up to me I'd stop kids seeing him but they love him and I have to respect their wishes. He also wants to reduce maintainance as he say he has his own life to live
2006-06-27 09:08:11 · 12 answers · asked by dunne09 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He's worthless.....so start weaning your kids from him. Never talk bad about him in front of the kids.....they'll eventually will learn and have their own opinions of him. Any father who doesn't want to spend time with his children is a worthless piece of sh*t. If worse gets to worse....you could always tell the kids that he moved far away. Best of luck to you..........
2006-06-27 09:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Girl - Sometimes Kids dont know whats best. I know they say children need a father but he is probably not doing anything to spend time with them anyway. I would completely cut him off. Its just a matter of time before he shows his true colors. Girl save your kids from a long drawn out breakup. Its painful I know....but I really think it will be worse in the long run. Then find a male figure who will considered spending time with them. Like a Youth Pastor or a friend. Until they can get use to the fact that they have a selfish father.
2006-06-27 09:24:04 · answer #2 · answered by Shelly B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The kids are his life wether he likes it or not. It's hard you don't want to force anything, but you don't want to hurt the kids. Honestly I would say if he doesn't want to see them then don't let them go. It is hard to be a single parent but you need to be there for them more than normal. On the weekends that he is supposed to get them and doesn't want to, do something with the kids yourself. As they get older they will figure out for themselves what kind of parent he is. I do understand also that you need a break sometimes yourself. Maybe they can spend the weekend at their Grandparents house. Good Luck.
2006-06-28 00:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with mine. Have your kids call him and ask him when he is coming to get them. My ex only comes around about once a month. It usually isn't til the kids call him and ask when they can come over. As for him lowering support, don't let him. They are his kids too, whether he has his own life or not. He obviously doesn't care about them or he would see them more, and would not be trying to reduce support. He sounds like a real PIG! Good luck to you.
2006-06-27 09:17:31 · answer #4 · answered by momx4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the Maintenance re-assessed legally. It is not up to him to decide that he will reduce the amount. It is for the court to decide.
He cannot just decide not to support his kids like that. He was part of a decision to have them therefore he has to take responsibility.
Sounds like a selfish jerk. What a pity the kids still want to see him.
2006-06-27 10:36:19 · answer #5 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time he comes to see them, give him a copy of the letter you received from his lawyer and make HIM explain to his children how "he has his own life to live". Let's see if he has the brass cajones for that one....
2006-06-27 09:12:49 · answer #6 · answered by J C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is away from the children and still he cant tolerate them? this guy will never learn. but in the meantime the children are going to be hurt and you have to lie to them about their father not showing up. my advice might seem a bit harsh but it just might work. move away from this man. change your city and move to another city. then you can tell the children that their father is 'late' for traffic...it will ease their pain and they will not wait for him anymore. they will slowly accept the fact that their father always not be there. or if your children are old enough to understand...then tell them that their father is too busy earning
for them.also lessen his access as much as you can. children are strong. they will get over it.
2006-06-27 09:22:44 · answer #7 · answered by atahsina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are your kids?
Were you married?
Make a written agreement and give it to your lawyers.
He cannot reduce maintenance payments. If he does, i know they aren't great but get it through the CSA!!! That way he has to prove his WORTH to his kids!
Don't fight him!! It isn't worth it.
My ex doesn't see my daughter, hasn't bothered since birth.
You cannot force a parent to be a parent!
2006-06-27 09:19:23 · answer #8 · answered by tyrant900 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't fight with him about it...and you certainly can't MAKE him do anything he doesn't want to do...so why waste energy in trying to fight about it? It will only alienate him more, and make him want to spend even less time with his children,b ecause he won't want to deal with you. He's right, he has a life, and apparently wants you out of it.
2006-06-27 13:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch! He better be paying child support. You can take him to court for a parenting plan and if he doesn't fulfill his time then there are consequences you can have the judge put in place...sounds like to me he is a dead beat!
2006-06-27 09:20:33 · answer #10 · answered by Workinmamma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋