I want to stop this but don't know how?

Question

have a mild form of Autism, and its hard for me to read faces and body language. WhenI ask my husband what's wrong he says "nonthing's wrong", wether i cannot read him or if he's simply lying I have a hard time and will often ask the same question again. My husband gets angry when I don't beleive him and ask the question again. What can I do? I want to beleive what he says and leave it at that, but I cannot stop asking because what i am getting from his face or body doesn't add up to me. What can I do, so I don't drive us both crazy?

I have Asperger's Syndrome

Answer 1

it doesn't matter if you have autism or not. sometimes i tell my husband that "nothing" is wrong when there really is something wrong. i will finally "spill the beans" when I get ready to. until then, he just takes my word for it, that i am ok, until i get ready to talk.

Answer 2

Stop thinking about your self. If he wants help with something I am sure he will ask. Men tend to want to fix their problems on their own with out being a burden to the ones they love. It seems to me as though you are attempting to make your self feel better because you perceive a problem that may not be there that you think you can help him with. Try being more secure about your self and your relationship and have more faith in your husband, what you end up doing is insulting him by doing what you are doing. You don't want your husband to end up resenting you. It's all about perception, if you perceive you husband as a capable confident person, you'll find that the way that you interact with him will change.

Answer 3

I would suggest to seek out a Marriage and Family Therapist that is trained in Autism. Since you know you have the disorder helps you more than you know. My 10 year old son has Assbergers Syndrome and its difficult for him to interact in the complex social environments that others take for grand-ted.

Answer 4

What makes you state, you have a mild form of autism? Is this a diagnosis from a Doctor? You should seek Mental Health counseling, for an accurate diagnosis.

Answer 5

Marriage counseling for you both would help immensely. A counselor can serve as a mediator and help you both see eye-to-eye, and acts as a neutral party--unbiased, someone you will both want to respect. If you respect the third party (or even each other) and each express everything you feel without interrupting the other, you can begin to work through your problems.

Does your husband know about your autism? If not, you should tell him...it's something that, as your partner, he needs to know. "In sickness and in health, to death do us part", right? ;)

Good luck!

Answer 6

are you saying because you do this means you have autism, or have you been told by a Doctor you have autism. That doesn't sound like a form of autism to me, and i have worked with many kids and teens and adults who have autism. It sounds more like some type or insecurity to me. You need to talk to a doctor.

Answer 7

everything will be okay if you find the medicine nurse and take your meds. also stay off the computer before the administration finds out you are sneaking around the hospital and breaking into someones office or offices then you will be in real big trouble okay my dear????

Answer 8

Get professional help. They will assist you in every avenue to help you work through this.

Answer 9

Get some professional help.

Answer 10

Since you know so much about your disease, think logically instead of emotionally each time you think he's lying. Good luck.