Why am I like this?

Question

I have this morbid fear of my mum dying and lately that fear has become more real as she has put herself in a situation that could be life threatening. I know that as a christian I am told all the time that I shouldn't live in fear but this is something that I asked God to help me with and so far I have had no response!! LOL.
I also am terrified to die myself because I would hate to die and think that I hadn't lived my life. I know my time isn't up yet! At least I think I do. At least I hope I do.
My friends think I'm ridiculous because I used to be a bit of a hypochondriac, but I'm genuinely terrified!

I do not need professional help (spoken like a true nut!)
Truly, I have had counselling before but that was when I was going down a very bad path for me religion wise (wasn't christian, wiccan). And I don't think that would be giving everything over to God.

Newsflash: if people think Yahoo answers is so pathetic, why answer questons?

Why would I kill myself if I'm afraid to die?!
That's utterly ridiculous!

Answer 1

I think you're misinterpretting the "fear" thing with Christianity. We are told not to fear because God is always with us -- but we're human! It's ok to be afraid! When you were little, did you ever think it was a sin to run into your parent's bedroom after a bad nightmare? Fear is an essential part to any human life, Christian or not. The idea of *not* fearing is simply God's word of comfort. He says that he will always be with you, even in times of fear, trouble, and doubt. So first of all, don't antagonize over fearing -- it's all right. =)

Concerning your mother, you cannot place all the responsibility of a human life in God's hands -- it's your own mother, and you must share the responsibility. Just praying to God will only help so much -- He is there to give you support and guidance as well as peace of mind. Now it is up to you to take charge and do something about this situation.

I don't know enough about this ordeal, so I can only offer up so much advice. Is the fear of death irrational? In that I mean, do you think psychological counseling would help ease your fear and bring you to a more realistic approach to the situation? If your mother really is putting herself in danger and you aren't always going to be there, you should eventually consult a doctor of some sort. Especially since you fear your own death, which is not the sort of thought you want to constantly occupy your mind with. If your friends aren't taking you seriously anymore, maybe it is time to speak with someone who would better understand.

Answer 2

The reason why we fear death is because we fear everything that we don't really understand and death is one of them. The fear stems from our experiences and things that we see and hear about people dying. But if we try to look at the inner side of death, it is actually more of the concern of those who are left behind. No one can avoid it and the more we fear it, the more we fear life and the more we fear life, the more dysfunctional we become until such fear becomes uncontrollable and becomes pathological.

We strive each day to prolong our lives, but at the end of the day, each one of us will finally realize that what matters most is not the length of time that we have lived in this world but the mark that we have etched on the hearts of everyone that we have touched. As we grow older, the desires of our youth would start to fade and then we would begin to realize that all we have worked for are only the outcome of our fears and uncertainties in life created by an uncertain and unpredictable future.

Life ends to open the door to a new life, a life where there is no pain, no envy, no hatred, no doubts, no discontentment and most of all, no more secrets. Death can come anytime and what should concern us more is whether we are ready at anytime if it should really come. No one can overcome death and we have no other choice but to accept that reality. If you are a Christian, death is not really something to fear about because a true Christian is always aware that death has been conquered through the death of Jesus Christ by rising up on the third day.

Answer 3

It is a common thing for people to have fear of death--you are not any different---but some thoughts for you here---you can not let the fear of an unknown (like death) overtly concern you to the point where you loose the life that you have TO FEAR.....You should give yourself a chance to understand that this is something that everyone goes through and that it is all going to be just fine---and above all--as a Christian you have the promise and the hope of the rewards awaiting on the other side--this once you truely grasp it --will be a solid comfort to you and make the subject of passing somewhat easier to handle

Answer 4

My son used to be afraid that I'd die all the time. He sort of disturbed me always talking about death. And he'd say, "Mom! Are you going to die?" And I'd say, "Someday, but not today."
But one day the neighbors hit a rabbit with the lawn mower and we took it to the humane society and it couldn't be saved so I authorized them to put it to sleep. And he was really upset and he said, "One day you'll die like that rabbit." and I told him that only our bodies die, and our spirits live on. If he was that rabbit, wouldn't he rather leave that cut up body and fly away a free spirit? And he said yes. And then he pointed out that the rabbit was perfectly healthy an hour ago and that was tough. But I told him, when our time comes, our time comes. We're all put on this Earth to learn and experience life and once our purpose is fulfilled, we all must die. It's as natural as being born. But I believe in reinacarnation, and if you can't fulfill your purpose and learn what you came to learn, you get another chance and if you truly love someone, you will find them again. He's not afraid of death anymore, and I'm not either.

Not fearing death gives you a great freedom. How can you enjoy life if you always fear death? Live your life to the fullest. Because one day you will die. Freaking out about it isn't going to make it not happen. So die happy. Die fulfilled. Die loved. Die educated. Die remembered. It's your choice. You can die hiding in your bedroom with the doors locked, or you can die surrounded by friends doing something awesome. It's up to you. You have the choice. When the time comes, you're dying. Period. Make the most of the interim. As the song says, As soon as your born you start dying, so you might as well have a good time!

Don't know if that's helpful at all, but there it is.

Answer 5

The fear of your Mom dying is not morbid but normal. I can't even say that being afraid to die isn't normal. All I can tell you is to live life to the fullest each and every day and when it's your time, you can rest in peace with all those who have gone before you.

Answer 6

I always find it amusing when Christians fear death. Isn't the whole notion of the religion to spend eternity with God and Jesus singing praises to the Lord? Aren't you supposed to look forward to that? After all, whats the point in all that prayer and fellowship, if you are afraid to die?

I think it's especially amusing when a loved one dies, and all the tears start. Shouldn't you be happy when a fellow Christian dies? According to the myth, thats when he/she will finally meet eternity in the presence of Gods love. Since thats the point of the religion, shouldn't death be a happy occasion?

Then you all wonder why the whole religion seems hokey to so many people...

Amazing!
-SD-

Answer 7

Having faith is good but it wont solve all your problems. Wouldn't it be nice if it did?

My suggestion is for you find a therapist so you can work together to find the root cause of your fears. You should also have a hear-to-heart talk with your mom about this, if you haven't already. Maybe it'll keep her away from said situation.

Answer 8

We all have fear of the people around us dying, it's perfectly natural, however to go to God is not something that is going to help. If God really loved you, he wouldn't put your mother in this situation, and he wouldn't let young people die.
Maybe you should talk your mother out of this situation or see a psychologist. Simply leaving it in "God's" hands will not have good consequences.

Answer 9

I used to be the same way. But then I truly gave EVERYTHING over to God. God knows everything. He knows what He is doing and when everything will be done. It's not mine to worry about. I live for today because I know God can take care of it. I live for today because I have more important things to worry about dying when I should be living. Worrying about dying makes you forget that you are still living. Go live, honey. Don't worry about it. Let God handle it.

Answer 10

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