he's verbally abusive.. he uses excuses like what he's going thru at the time and i shouldnt be selfish, but he's hurting me!!! i've already told him NUMEROUS TIMES!!! .. we're engaged to be married this year. should i end it here or give him another chance?
2006-06-27 08:39:50 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Verbal abuse is a kind of battering which doesn't leave evidence comparable to the bruises of physical battering. It often leads to physical domestic violence. Sometimes the behavior is NEVER corrected. Especially if he feels that he is doing nothing wrong. Keep this in mind when you are considering your decision.
I understand how you are feeling, and I am sure you love him very much. But this is the rest of your life…. Ultimately you are going to do what you wish… and no one, but you can convince you otherwise. You have to make the decision for yourself.
What ever you do stay strong. Do not let any one especially him make you feel inferior. Stand up for yourself and let him know that this behavior is unacceptable!
Stay strong….
2006-06-27 10:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by latina 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No one has the right to be verbally abused andif you intend to marry then he really needs to work on his communcation skills because you dont want this to continue. As his fiancee you should be his sounding board for his frustration in a healthy manner not be abusive. Before you marry him I would go talk to someone a couples counselor, priest, or some other person that can be unbias. He can't continue like this it could get worse later.
2006-06-27 17:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by brownunicorn_75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being verbally abusive to the person you love is simply unacceptable. do you want to be treated this way for the rest of your life? you can only take so much.
think not once or twice but a thousand times over before committing to this relationship. you sound like you are smart for seeing that he is verbally abusive. i know you will make the right decision. best regards.
2006-06-27 15:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by Ann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End it! Someone who is abusive in ANY way is not someone you want to spend your life with unless you enjoy being miserable. Do not make the mistake of thinking that this behavior will change. It will only get worse. For God's sake, he tells YOU not to be selfish when you ask him not to hurt you? Do not waste another second of your life with this jacka**. It is a divorce waiting to happen!
2006-06-27 16:06:31 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End it, if you have already told him he's hurting you and he won't change, get the hell out of the relationship, trust me you don't want to spend the rest of your life with someone whos verbally abusive, words can hurt even more than actions
2006-06-27 15:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by jimena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you even have a doubt in your mind then you should not marry him. You dont want to start the next part of your life with somebody who hurts you in any way or who doesn't put you first. Just think about it what would you tell your friend or sister if they asked you the same thing?
2006-06-27 16:09:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are so unsure about your relationship that you have to ask strangers about it than you should probably not get married. Plus, if he's verbally abusive to you, how do you think he'll treat any children you might have? I say get out now, before lawyers/kids are involved.
2006-06-27 15:44:01 · answer #7 · answered by titian29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe move it out until you're both able to understand each other better. No point in starting a marriage off under the conditions you mention. It does not get better. Marriage is NOT an easy road. And both must not only love each other....but respect each other as well. Please pay heed to the red flags you see waving before you!!!
2006-06-27 15:54:46 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before walking down that aisle, you need to meet him on a sofa with a therapist. Perhaps he needs to handle some unresolved issues.
2006-06-27 15:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. V.H. Robinson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would end it now. Cause its just going to get worse once you are married.
2006-06-27 17:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by BabyBoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋