do guys not like nice girls?

Question

I am definitley decently attractive i suppose, but i have a 4.0 throughout highschool and i do tons of volunteer work and im religious but for some reason it just feels like guys aren't digging that.. and finding NICE guys.. well you know how that is.

PS. IM NOT FAT, IM TOLD ALLL THE TIME IM GORGEOUS...AND I PLAY SPORTS.

Answer 1

nice girls are the ones that guys look for long long relationships with even marriage. so yes to that one

Answer 2

Finding nice guys can be hard, especially if you are looking for them. It's not that all men are jerks, but when you start combining things like smart, nice, religious, a volunteer, sharing common interests, that sort of thing, you do kinda narrow the pool by quite a fair margin. Plus you have to realize that even though the male stereotype is that we would be with anything with a pulse and is remotely attractive, the truth is that like women we have discriminating tastes. We can look at a girl and think, "Hey, this ain't gonna work," or "What she wants and what I want are two completely different things."

We can find you attractive, nice, funny and a good friend but not see a relationship with that individual. Or we can be complete jerks and just want to fool around with you and not care for anything that happens afterward.*

Also, at your age women can be but not necessarily, more mature than their male peers. It comes with the differences in puberty between males and females.

Not knowing you or your circumstances, I can't promise you that tomorrow your knight in shining armor won't arrive. I wish I could, but I have been sorta forbidden for doing that kinda think. Keep at it though. With a 4.0 grade average and a tendency for volunteerism, you will go places and meet more people like you. There is hope after all for all of us.

*Note: Women do this too.

Answer 3

Wow, good question. I would consider myself a nice and and have married an amazing woman. To answer your question I'm going to say that 'guys' means guys in general or just stereotypical guys. I think the reason that most guys don't bother with 'nice' girls is that their either intidated by them, or think that they wont 'get any'. Sorry for the wording but its true. I talked to a girl from my college who is a bible major about this same issue. She's a real pretty, adventurous, athletic girl but can't seem to find a good guy. I believe that the 'religious' thing turns off most men, because most men are worldly and 'know' that a spiritual girl wont give them what they want. My advice, since you ask :) Is wait. Don't look for a guy. Hold on to your values (i don't think you'd give them up) and wait. God will bless you with a man that will see who you truly are and love you for that. Don't worry about all these idiot guys out there, they don't have a clue. Just wait, you'll get your 'diamond in the rough' to quote Aladin.

Answer 4

Your belief is not uncommon. I remember many years ago when the woman’s movement was starting to come together. It was common to hear women talk and talk and talk about how they wanted a nice, caring sensitive guy, someone who respected them. Then you would see these same women out for the evening with guys who we (other guys) knew to be the biggest slime pits around and having no respect for women at all.

The thing to keep in mind is that there are nice people in the world, many of them. I suspect that you are quite young (relatively) and I suggest that you focus on a career. With a 4.0 you’re obviously intelligent. That you are involved with your religion only means that you seek your own within that context. Look for the equally intelligent and those equally committed to a similar religion. Don’t listen to those who advise compromise, in time, what you seek will come to pass. If you follow a path of compromise, in the years to come you will regret it.

Answer 5

If you are a religious you are probably not willing to do what most girls are using to get a guy's attention.... You are also probably not showing off what God gave you. These are very good things. Guys are pretty worthless in high school, so focus on all that good work that you are doing, and you'll find a great guy later. You will find a boyfriend in your first year at college.

Answer 6

What part Venus you from? Never knew a nice girl. I guess you intimidate a lot of guys. Most of us are pretty stupid and just can't stand a girl that makes that so clear. I appreciate a smart girl and one who likes to dedicate herself to the betterment of the world or whatever but I shy away from Jesus freaks. They have the idea they're on a different level than everyone else.

Answer 7

Guys in high school and some in college do not understand this concept yet. I felt the same way as a nice guy. You will meet the right one when timing is right. Try the random dating with whoever even if its going out in a big group and showing everyone that side of you. Guys (being one) are meatheads and do not realize that there is way more to be said in finding a complete girl with brains and a resume to kill

Answer 8

Are you religious, or do you have faith?

Religious means you follow the religious customs, but having faith means you believe in something higher than yourself. Do you do things because you are trying to be something you are not, or do you do things because you are passionate about them? Passion for what you do really attracts guys, even the good ones.

You sound like a great person, maybe God is getting you ready for just the right man to sweep you off your feet. Just keep active and do the things you love to do, you will meet guys who share your interests. And pray! Don't forget to pray for God to lead you to the right man. And I do mean man, trust me, eventually you will want a man, not just a "guy".

Answer 9

The nice guys you are thinking about may be quite shy as well. Ask and ye shall receive! Search there.

Another thought-- do only females volunteer, go to church or get 4.0's?

Answer 10

It takes time to find the right kind of guy. Also you have to experience things to learn and grow. Of course it might be hard finding someone. But as I was told, Don't go looking for love, Let love find you. Also remember you are in control of your happiness. If you don't like the heat get out of the kitchen fast!!!

Answer 11

Don't listen to people saying Bible thumpers are not in, because that is a very stupid comment.

I am always looking for a nice girl, just aren't too many around, same goes with nice guys.

It sounds like your what I look for in women, but sad thing is I seem to never get those women, because they only want the bad boys..... weird.....very weird...