My friends and me are having a huge arguement over how long you should date someone before you marry them. Allison says a month, Terry says a year, and I say long enough to know you want to get married. What do you think?
2006-06-27 08:13:09 · 20 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm with you...long enough to know you want to get married.....there's not a specific time frame....
2006-06-27 08:17:09 · answer #1 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think one month or a year would be enough. Some people get married early, others really late (i.e. seven years).
And you're right by saying long enough to know when you are ready to get married. but I think you should have asked "How long do you think a relation [...] getting married and last forever? because everyone can get married. But most of them get divorced...
I actually think that if during a whole year, the two people didn't argue a lot and are in serious love with each other... then why not getting married? ;)
2006-06-27 08:23:44 · answer #2 · answered by kaze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is a personal choice. When you think about it realistacally, it is only a piece of paper and a name change (for her if she chooses) Marriage should not change the relationship other than bringing you closer together. It doesn't mean that one makes the rules now and the other obeys or your chores change. Some people find that if they live thier lives without getting married at all they are just as fulfilled in their relationship. Just remember a couple of things, it is easier and no matter what the cost of a wedding, it is more expensive to get out of it. And most imprtantly, time is of no essense...I also know couples that have been married only one month after meeting and have spent many wonderful happy years together. Like my mom always said(to which i would never have believed when i was younger of course) your heart will know when the time is right
2006-06-27 08:24:43 · answer #3 · answered by kabbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old the couple is. I was 25 and my husband was 33 when we got engaged - only 4 months after we started dating. We went looking for rings after a month of knowing each other. But our engagement was long because we saved up our money to make our wedding really special. We've now known each other 3 years and been married nearly 1. If the couple is really young, they should wait for marriage. If they are older and more established, they can have it faster.
2006-06-27 08:17:17 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does depend on the person. if you two are certain that you are the ones for each other, the time frame doesn't matter. schedules can be flexible and should accommodate your needs. if you love each other with all your hearts and your mindset is 'why waste another day, let's marry now!' then go for it!
your friends allison and terry may have different ideas, or they may not know exactly how the couple feel about each other. i agree with you: let your hearts be your guide... you'll know when it's time!
2006-06-28 07:05:43 · answer #5 · answered by patzky99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It definitely depends on how old you are. Me and my husband waited 10 years and I'm glad we did because we seperated at least 4 times during that time. Even though we were so in Love at the beginning and talked about marriage then, it wouldn't have worked out. We had too much growing up to do and things we had to experience without each other. Now we are married and completely in love with no regrets.
2006-06-27 08:26:11 · answer #6 · answered by kareiokequeen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it should be 3 or 4 years before you get married.
2006-06-27 08:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by Beronna M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure, it depends on how well you known eachother, also sometimes you dont know someone enuff when you get married , and living with them is were u actually start geting to know them, my husband and i got married after 2 years of being in a relationship, we been married 7 months. but we lived together before geting married so we actually knew how we were foreal
2006-06-27 08:27:17 · answer #8 · answered by Frida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i havent been married or anything like that so i think its best to know the person for a couple of years. maybe 1 or 2 years. the most at least 3. if you rush into things it may get messy later down the road. whats the rush for anyway? take your time! love takes time and patience. if you both truely love each other, you'll buld upon that relationship and when you both feel comfortable around each other, then maybe its time to settle down.
2006-06-27 08:19:02 · answer #9 · answered by ~jervi mervi~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew after our first couple of dates that he was the one I was going to marry, but we were together for about 2yrs before we got engaged, and we had about a 1yr engagement- It all depends on the person. I think you know it when you meet the right person
2006-06-27 09:11:10 · answer #10 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allison is a psycho....plain and simple.... Terry is closer, at least more realistic.... but i agree with you... it has to be right for both of you, but it should be at very very least 8 or 9 months.... i plan to go for a few years, personally but to each his own
2006-06-27 08:57:14 · answer #11 · answered by Whitney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋