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Question

I had an arguement with my manager today after being ignored for most of the day by him and another colleague. I told him that I was fed up with this and I thought we had gotten past this when two other colleagues left. We always got on well in the past but today its been different and I don't know what to do after this arguement? Please help, Thank you in advance.

Answer 1

You don't say what your disagreement was about, so it's a little hard to help you with particulars. However, I have worked with men as co-workers and managers all my life, and I've learned a few things:

1.) Keep any and all emotion out of your side of any argument. Men turn off to any emotional outbursts. Keep "trigger" words out of your arguments, such as "I feel like" or "I can tell that" , etc. It helps a great deal to write out the points you are trying to make, then remove all emotion from those points.

2.) Men solve problems. They don't give sympathy. They do not know how to respond to a woman who says something like "I can't deal with this /customer/client/project," because they think you have a specific problem that requires a specific solution when you say something like that. If you don't have specific problems, don't say things like that to your male colleages, because they will see it not as a generalized "blowing off steam" or "venting" statement, they will see it as a request for assistance.

3.) Come to the point quickly. Don't preface your problem or statements with a lot of extra detail. If you have a problem, state what the problem is, and add detail as you're asked questions or given solutions.

4.) Don't give ultimatums to a supervisor unless you're prepared to look for work somewhere else. Ask that they intervene if you are having problems communicating with a coworker, or if you can't deal with a problem. Never tell them you're "fed up" or "you've had enough" unless you're prepared to walk out and back up your statements.

5.) Stay cool, professional and open to what your supervisor is saying to you.

6.) Don't take things such as being ignored personally. Remember, 99.9% of the rest of the world ignores you too and it has nothing to do with your worth as a human being.

7.) Make sure you do your job well, and don't cut corners. Set a high standard for yourself, and your supervisor will have to see that you expect him to have high standards too.

8.) Keep your mouth shut most of the time. Keep personal opinions about co-workers or their performance to yourself. Do not run to your supervisor with stories to run them down so that you will look better. Chances are that your boss knows exactly what kind of people work for him, and all you will prove is that he has to be careful about what he says around you. Discretion is very valuable.

And remember, everyone has a bad day once in a while. Don't let it make you feel worthless when someone else has a rotten day and takes it out on you.

Answer 2

First, go talk to your HR department and explain the problem you are having with this manager. Lay out the facts and circumstances surrounding the arguement. Provide the history and any memos or documents you may have available to persent your side. Let the HR department handle the situation and resolve the issues. It appears that the "problem" has gone on long enough and job performance is now an issue in your office as well as with colleagues. By the way, you should be creating a written memo history of all incidents like this that could reflect on your job performance. Since you did not provide specifics, you should consider other issues: sexual harrassment, poor management, discrimination, hostile work environment to name a few.

Answer 3

Try the " let the argument cool down technique " combined with " do my job better technique " , then after the argument is a minor issue, try to solve with a " past experience feed back dialogue "
If that does not work, that argument will be the start of a bad relationship with your manager that will get you tired later on.

Answer 4

Be an adult and apologize for the argument. Ask what you can do to make things better if it is on your part. If not explain you dont want to work in an enviornment that is uncomfortable and you feel you should be treated equally. If nothing helps, and you are still un-happy, find a new job.

Answer 5

Lady, apologize to your manager at the earliest and with sincerity....his busy schedule might have been contrued by you as ignore but go and talk over and be clear about how or what you felt... and if he is a sensible person, I am sure he will undersrand (and accept your apology).

Good luck!

Answer 6

see how it goes in the next few days..you never know he might of been having a bad day or something going on at home...if in the next few days it doesnt improve then go to him and say ok lets work out whatever the problem is like adults...I dont like the tension in the air and Id like to clear it.

Answer 7

Tell him that you apologize for the outburst but he should consider the content of the conversation because you did mean it..Talk civily but maintain your point of view...Don't Wimp Out...

Answer 8

Maybe he's just having a bad day. Communication is the key.

Answer 9

There are a whole lot of other questions I would have (or anyone I would think) before it can be answered honestly.

Answer 10

try to find a new job