Why wouldn't anyone, your parents or your siblings understand in this situation?

Question

You are 16 and your sister is 14. Both of you get a weekly allowance of $50. Your sister is a big spender. She always spend up her $50 and ask you to give her $ to buy things. The problem is you only have $50. If you give her part of your allowance, you will not have enough for yourself. You still give her $ because she ask for it & you don't want to say no to your own sister. So, mostly you stave yourself afterschool because you gave your $ to her. You try to talk to her but she say "If you are a good older sister, you shouldn't complain if you have to stave because of your sister. I know a lot of people that give a lot of money to their little sister. If I have a little sister, I wouldn't mind unlike you." You talk to your parents & they say "if you are capable to give her $, then do so." But they don't understand that I stave because of her. Although I am capable to give her my allowance, but I stave afterschool until dinner.

Answer 1

You have to start telling her "Too bad". It's YOUR money, not hers. Once she spends her money and she has none left, OOPS too bad. No money left. Tell her that you're not the bank.

Answer 2

Your parents are doing this so that you learn a lesson. They aren't going to tell you what to do. Either tell her no more money or else you could try turning it around and start asking her for money. No matter what she is using you and taking advantage of the "I'm the little sister" story. Standing up to her will also help you to be able to stand up to other people in the future who will try to use you.

Also, you guys are really lucky or spoiled to get $50 a week each. I am an only child and I didn't even get an allowance. I had to get a job when I turned 16 so I could put gas in my car and have money for things.

Answer 3

Clearly, ur not capable of giving her money w/o starving urself. That can affect ur grades and other things too. Ur only capable based on a technicallity, u have money, she doesnt. Don't give her any more money, and eat ur lunch. She'll go to mom and dad if she really needs money, she only comes to u because she knows u'll say yes w/o a fuss, and ur parents might ask her why she needs more money so fast. No, she wouldn't do it for her younger sis if she had one, because if so, she would've proved it by being considerate to u, in all honesty,even if she wanted to give money to the little sis she never had, she wouldn't have any money. If u stop giving her money now, maybe she'll learn how to save and sacrifice in order to get better things later, but if u keep giving her cash, she won't learn how to save, why should she, ur her bank, and it's always got money.

Answer 4

Do you mean starve? Your sister needs to learn how to manage her money, you just need to stop helping her out so often. If you keep helping her your only serving as a crutch and could lead to problems in the future. Lord knows we have too many adults with poor money management already.

Answer 5

I would say to not give her the money. Not out of meanness or selfishness, but you should teach her how to manage her own money.

If you continue to do this, she will always spend more than she has and when she's an adult that will mean big trouble.

Tell your parents that you shouldn't have to suffer because you make good financial decisions and she doesn't. And that by asking you to do this, they are teaching her bad skills.

Answer 6

Don't let her guilt you, if you are 16 you can get a job of your own. It is not your responsibility to support her, and yes you are a great older sister no matter what. My older sister never considered my needs ever in fact she always told me she never wanted me around. If i had a sister like you growing up I would not expect you to support me but respect the fact that you couldn't.

Answer 7

Honey,

Your sister is taking advantage of you. She knows that you will give her the money.....so she purposely spends all of hers every week. Stand up for yourself tell her no, and that she should save some money this week because you will not starve another day.

Answer 8

It is your money, you can do with it whatever you want....But why give it to your sister who is only going to immediatly spend it on crap, and you don't benefit from it. This is going to start a life long cycle of your sister asking you to bail her out of her financial problems. She gets $50 the same as you, she can spend her money the way she wants, but don't let her spend yours.

Answer 9

Of course she will keep taking your money if you're gonna give it to her! She'd be stupid NOT to take it. Who wouldn't take easy free money?

You're older! Don't let her push you around. Just say no next time she asks and stick with it. Don't let her think that all she has to do is bug you until you say yes. Say no!

You need to stop this now cuz it will only get worse as time goes on.

Answer 10

I think the word is "starve." But seriously, say NO. If someone always borrowed money from me and never paid it back, then I would be the fool. Who cares if it's your sister. Let her learn the value of money on her own--or beg your parents for it.

Answer 11

well your sister seems to know that she is taking away something that you need and she needs to learn how to spend he money wisely, so just tell her, ya know i dont mind giving you a little something once in a while but you need to learn how to manage your money better, it is not fair that you come to me all the time because you dont try to spend your money better. so since i need to eat to at school you are just going to have to learn how to spend your money wisely. and leave it at that, and if she goes and complains to your parents just tell them, that you have a hard time surviving durring the week cause you keep giving her money that you use for food at school and that you told her that once in a while you dont mind but that she needs to learn how to be more careful with her money. and leave it at that, your sister might be a little upset for a while but that is ok, she might say mean things once in a while thats ok too, just tell her that she is acting like a child and ignore her. good luck! re-claim your money girl.