But we do have a very close relationship. He has been very supportive of me when my husband passed away a few years back, and he is like a brother to me. We hang out and spend alot of time together. We even take trips together. He has a girlfriend, and she has no problem with this. The man I am currently seeing, does not believe a man and woman can have a relationship like this without sex being involved. Therefore, he gets very jeolouse when I spend any time with my male friend, or with his family (whom I am also very close to). When a situation comes up that I am doing something with my friend, or with his family, the guy that I am dating gets upset and will go out with his ex-girlfriend(whom he has had romantic involvement). I feel he is using her to control me. He says if he's not going to spend time with me, then he will with someone, and he needs a back up girlfriend just in case. Should this attitude he has bother me? Should I give up the friendship I have?
2006-06-27 07:49:22 · 9 answers · asked by miatagal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You shouldn't have to give up a friendship just for a man. If the man doesn't trust you, you don't need him. Plus, with him seeing his ex, he is just trying to control you. You don't need to have a relationship like that. It's time to give him the boot.
However, if I were you, I think I would think about the relationship you have with your friend. I know that men and women can be friends and nothing more. I just wondered if maybe you both do have feelings for each other and each decided not to say anything to keep from messing up your friendship. Sounds to me that you have almost the perfect relationship, minus the sex. Just a though.
2006-06-27 07:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friends are harder to come by then men. Many of my friends including myself have male friends who are straight. Men and women can be friends without sex being involved. Just because you have a lot in common with someone doesn't mean that you have to have sex that person.
Having male friends gives you insight that you wouldn't normally have. I would never give up my male friends they've helped me get through some very hard times.
Try showing this question to your boyfriend and see how he feels after he reads some of the answers.
Good Luck
2006-06-27 15:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by silverpixie81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep the friendship and dump the loser your currently involved with. I have 4 male best friends and we go back 15-17 years and NEVER has there been ANY type of romance or anything close. Keep that guy friend Hon.
2006-06-27 14:55:18 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would ou want to give up a friend with someone who had your back though thick and thin for a guy who is using his ex to control you tell that guy your seeing your not giving up your friendship for him that guy was there when you needed him you need to get rid of your bf and find will who will respect you and have trust in you there is more fish in the sea but a true friend is hard to find
2006-06-27 14:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the guy you are presently seeing has a dirty mind and it's easy to see why: *he* has a fidelity problem and is projecting it on you. You have absolutely no reason to believe he will be faithful to you if you tie the knot. So let me ask bluntly: do you really need this? Right - I didn't think so. I think the question is "Should I give up my boyfriend?"
2006-06-27 15:00:58 · answer #5 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say find another guy to date. Really good friends are hard to come by. Your boyfriend needs to grow up. How old is he, 15?
2006-06-27 14:54:19 · answer #6 · answered by D.I.L.L.I.G.A.F. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the Zero Keep your Hero. Then get rid of his G/F and you have your best friend as your boyfriend.
2006-06-27 14:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should dump him. You had your male friend first who has helped you in the past and most likely in the future too.
2006-06-27 14:55:41 · answer #8 · answered by handydaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
F_U_CK that guy...He's just trying to control you and make you give up things that are important to you..If he wants to be childish about it then let him...without you. Your friendship is more important than any loser who will try and control you
2006-06-27 14:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by violet1656 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋