the baby bug came on STRONG about a month ago and has not stopped. babies are all i can think about, having one, being pregnant, baby stuff, naming them, etc etc etc. Its an overwhelming urge yet my husband and I can't even BEGIN to afford a child right now, we barely can afford ourselves!!! This bug has me so enveloped I don't even care that we can't afford it... I need help figuring out how to "stifle" this urge until a more appropriate time.
2006-06-27 07:47:55 · 7 answers · asked by Some Lady 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Get on the pill. Thats what I do. I know a baby would not fit into my life at the moment eventhough I would love one its not possible. i am on the bcpill and take it on time everyday. The urge wont go away but at least you know you will be protected.
2006-06-27 07:52:10 · answer #1 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if people waited to have kids until they felt that they could afford it most people would probably never have kids... although in some situations that would be a good thing. I really don't know how to quell the urge not to have a baby but I can say that I am very glad that I didn't wait till I felt I could afford having kids... I have three great kids, two of which were at a time when I really didn't feel I could afford them... but somehow I managed, and I couldn't imagine my life without them... good luck
2006-06-27 14:57:57 · answer #2 · answered by lady T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, honestly, now that the baby bug has bit, you're gonna have a really hard time stifiling the urge. The pill will keep you from getting preg, if you take it right....an IUD would be even better, that way you don't have to think about bc.....Get involved in your local church....and their childcare program....and do some babysitting....that helps some. It gives you a chance to be motherly....while at the same time, doesn't give you the financial responsibilty......Good luck!!
2006-06-27 14:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babysit? Get on the pill? Not sure which aspect of this bug you are worried about. Use this time to educate yourself about what's out there for kids while you have the energy. Then when the time comes, you will be ready and armed.
Read some good child psych books
2006-06-27 14:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, you need a time frame put in place....an age to look forward to. When hubby and I married (me aged 21, he aged 24), we'd been together for 3 years and after we got married all I could think of was the next stage...babies! He wasnt ready....so we argued about it, I screamed, he cried and then talked turkey. We agreed upon me being age 27 before we would start a family, regardless of the circumstances.
That cured me...I just needed to know WHEN. So...between then and the baby making we managed to travel, buy a home and go to a lot of restaurants.
When I became 27, I said ok...lets start making babies and he wasnt ready AGAIN. For me that was a dealbreaker, so I had to give him the choice....us and family that I needed or we decide to part ways. He loved me enough to want to overcome his concerns and be a family man...we had 2 lovely children.
People need to have goals. Its only indecision/fear that makes the urge incessant. So....make a decision together for the future and make it a solid one.
2006-07-04 11:03:07 · answer #5 · answered by Scully 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a pet, that pet will love you unconditionally and won't cost nearly as much as a baby will. You will have to feed it and potty train it just like you would have to do for a kid but you won't have to educate it or clothe it and endure it sassing you as it grows older.
2006-06-27 14:56:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its difficult
2006-06-27 15:01:14 · answer #7 · answered by jitu 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋