My moms is 52 yrs old and in the past right before she became a Christian she was very strong in her attitude and did not let things bother her. But, ever since she got saved and started going to church which was about maybe 5 yrs ago. Her feelings get hurt so fast. We can't joke around with her anymore like we use to. And she let other people get to her so quickly. Does this have to do with her being a Christian or is this and old age thing. I luv my mom very much but sometimes this can get to me. SHe is so sensitive.
2006-06-27 07:47:40 · 13 answers · asked by Latina4ever 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am in my mid forties myself and boy have I been getting sensitive lately............however: I feel that it is more the "life experiences" than the age (numbers) per se. we tend to look back upon our lives (either conciously or not) and wonder if we have done/or are doing all that we need to for our children and others. Emotionally we are looking for more meaning to life and less...shall we say...."goofiness".... sometimes "play" however is necessary......it's what makes the spirit SOAR...........
As far a christianity goes: that can tend to change a person........can you talk to her about it? I think it would depend on what you were joking around about also.. as we do have to be sensitive to others "tolerance" when it comes to certain jokes, etc...
2006-06-27 08:03:55 · answer #1 · answered by amber 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be a little of both. Being a Christian often causes one to become sensitive to the pain and hardship around and it grieves the heart to see someone in a hardship and there is plenty of hardship around. Also when one becomes a Christian there own relationships can change. The other factor as one ages they become more concerned with the deeper realities of life (and death). More people they know are dieing or have passed away. Having fought battles that are hard and dear to the heart sometimes makes one weary and maybe a little extra sensitize to the hardships in life. I would suggest being supportive and also understanding. Discuss this in a way that says I love and care for you and what your going through not in a way that says hey your bothering me or your going off the deep end. She may just be becoming more concerned for her loved ones.
Another thought: Some churches teach that you must attain a certain level of obedience or righteousness to please God or to earn your salvation. This can be very discouraging to the sensitive believer because its not true. As a Christian we are saved by grace not works. If she is worried about not being "good enough" for her Christianity she needs to understand that those who believe in Christ ARE righteous before God because they have Christs righteousness. When one understands this it is a great burden lifted from the soul. Have her read Ephesians 1 and Romans 3-5 if this is the case.
2006-06-27 08:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by beek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of Satan's most powerful weapons is the weapon of deception. When Satan can convince someone to be offended he has succeeded in planting a foothold in that person's life. God REQUIRES us to forgive others.
Luke 11:4 Forgive us our sins, for we also forgive everyone who sins against us.
Most of the time when we are feeling offended, it is a deception from Satan, we buy into it and are not in a state of forgiveness.
When I first was saved over 3 years ago, I too felt offended by everything that wasn't "of God." Through my bible studies and fellow shipping, I learned that the change stats within me as the Lord tells us to love our enemies and to forgive them 7 x 70 every day if necessary. When we are in unforgiveness, our hearts are truly hardened to God's message.
My husband and I read a book entitled The Bait of Satan by John Bevere which is an incredible teaching on the power of Satan to deceive us and how we can forgive to short circuit that plan.
When I learned to let things roll off my back and to forgive others and myself, my life was changed so much! I have such a peace now and people can go around being booby heads all they want. I am God's daughter, he forgives me, I forgive others (and try not to take offense in the first place) and really have learned to enjoy the people in my life.
Be blessed. I hope this helps you.
2006-06-27 08:00:36 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would want to worry me. I recommend i does no longer be thoroughly disenchanted, even if that is a minimum of disappointing to me if my SO did not spend the 4th with the family contributors. surely i don't comprehend if my oldest has considered fireworks yet (she is purely about 3). If she has then she has never has a large reaction to them. so a strategies as my plans i'm no longer effective yet. i imagine we are spending the Friday afternoon with the in-guidelines, yet they not in any respect plan something more advantageous than an afternoon ahead. So i will purely ought to attend. yet i'm sorry your SO is being somewhat confusing. yet attempt no longer to enable it disenchanted you too a lot. At 9 months your toddler will not in any respect keep in mind the 4th. yet I do comprehend why you're somewhat disenchanted.
2016-10-13 21:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by gettinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may very well have nothing to do with the change of religion. I think it could have more to do with the change of life, i.e. menopause. Seems like a typical "old age" thing. Ask her about her menopause status, how long it's been going on, if she's on any kind of hormone therapy.
Good luck....
2006-06-27 07:52:59 · answer #5 · answered by jimbob92065 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what it is that she is getting hurt by. as we draw closer to Christ we become more loving so it would be understandable to be more sensitive, but it doesn't mean that we can't joke around and enjoy life. it might have to do with WHAT kind of things you are joking around with her about. but it also maybe a little bit of getting older too.
2006-06-27 07:51:50 · answer #6 · answered by WVMagpie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably an old age thing more than a religion thing. The religion thing is probably related to the getting old thing.
The older we get, the more childish we become.
2006-06-27 07:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by Left the building 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It the Christian thing.
2006-06-27 07:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by lex83201 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom got like that to after joining a church group.
I think they made her feel guilty for not believing in God before.
And that because I question the existence of God, maybe her fault...But it wasn't her fault.
2006-06-27 07:56:03 · answer #9 · answered by psych0bug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but Christianity teaches people to be offended. It is your own fault if something offends you--you have to specifically single things out and train yourself to feel bad about them. It is self-destructive.
2006-06-27 07:53:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋