I got married on June 17th this year and my husband( now) and I chose to have a nice private and elegant wedding by the lake in the botanical gardens. It was so perfect. We had both of our parents,grandmother, two of our best friends and my brother and his girlfriend. Well, after the honeymoon, my family was blazing mad because they were not invited. Should we have something else for the family.
2006-06-27 07:38:54 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You invited all the special people in your lives and kept it small and by your account, it was perfect. Sorry, but not everyone can afford or wants to afford an extravagent wedding. You and your husband decided to have a small affair and you did what you wanted. I applaud you for that. But you listed off a reasonable amount of people to attend your small, private ceremony. That's what you wanted and I say too bad to your other family members. If/when I choose to marry, my husband-to-be and I will have the kind of wedding that makes us happy. It's just like when you invite Mr. & Mrs. Smith only, not Mr. & Mrs. Smith & family and they get bent out of shape because their horrid children weren't invited. Too bad. You did the right thing and you don't owe them anything in my opinion. Just don't ask for gifts since you didn't invite them. Hope you have a wonderful, lasting marriage!
2006-06-27 07:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 9⤊ 0⤋
Mad family?
I got married on June 17th this year and my husband( now) and I chose to have a nice private and elegant wedding by the lake in the botanical gardens. parents,grandmother, two of our best friends and my brother and his girlfriend.It was so perfect. We had both of our Well, after the honeymoon, my family was blazing mad because they were not invited. Should we have something else for the family.
2006-06-27 14:43:41 · answer #2 · answered by BATISTA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I had a small wedding too. We felt it was perfect. We didn't want anyone to feel "obligated" to come, and didn't want them to feel it necessary to give gifts. We are older though, and it was neither of our first marriages.
I guess it depends on your family relationship...what it was and what you want it to be in the future. If you feel that they will hold a permanent grudge and you don't want to live with that, I suppose you can have a reception or something similar, but would they even be happy with that after the fact?
Are you certain that they are feeling seriously jilted or possibly blowing their hurt out of proportion just to make you feel guilty? Some people are like that.
I'm sorry that this has tarnished your "perfect" wedding. I think I would be happy for you and try to get over my selfish expectations if I were your friend or family...but you know them best.
Good luck in your marriage and future.
2006-06-27 15:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by nighthawk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, a person's wedding is for them, not the family. You are the one who has to live with the type of wedding you had, and as long as your satisified with it that is what matters. Not to mention that a wedding is a symbol of the joining of two lives to one and that is the true meaning of marraige, not how many people fill up the pews. Besides, you did have your parents and direct relatives. Be satisfied in the knowledge that you are happily married. The others will get glad in the same skin they got mad in, if not, then that's their tough luck.
2006-06-27 14:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by hudson3_src 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
F*ck! That sounds like the perfect wedding. Cheap and Intimate. You should have blamed him saying that he wanted a small wedding and he could blame you claiming the same thing and you couldn't invite aunts and unlces if he didn't. This way you don't fall out with your families.
Your family should be grateful that they didn't have to get wedding gifts and sh*t.
I wouldn't have anything for them. F*ck, its your wedding!! Claim that he had a betting habit and spent all the wedding money so you HAD to cut back! Ha ha.
Seriously, f*ck your fam, they should be happy for you instead of b*tching about that kinda a sh*t. You still love them!!
2006-06-27 14:48:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't HAVE to do anything. If you WANT to, you could have a wedding reception later on for the rest of your family. But again, you don't HAVE to do anything. You did the most important part and obviously had the people you needed there with you. Everything else is a bonus.
2006-06-28 10:06:15 · answer #6 · answered by Brenda F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose to keep the peace you could have a reception or some kind of a party. But realistically, they just need to get over it. You had the wedding you wanted and maybe you weren't in a position financially to invite the whole gang. It's none of their business.
2006-06-27 15:23:02 · answer #7 · answered by Samba Queen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when couple's opt for a small intimate wedding they schedule a reception themed party a little later for the rest of the family and friends to attend and share their joy. It doesn't have to be anything formal, just a fun gathering for all.
2006-06-27 14:42:10 · answer #8 · answered by Lou Dogg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Plan an "after wedding reception" to celebrate with the rest of your family. they'll feel included and possibly bring you gifts. I'm planning on getting married without anyone from my family there. marriage is about you and that person.. not anyone else.. especially aunt martha who you haven't seen in seven years. after our wedding we plan on comming home.. announcing and then throwing a party! (= Good luck
2006-06-27 14:42:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what they think? If you were happy and it's what you wanted then they have no business being mad.
It's not like they were planning to help you pay to throw a big wedding and reception for everyone.
2006-06-27 14:43:06 · answer #10 · answered by kalsmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋