The first boy I ever fell in love with and still love called me a few days ago. And said he is having trouble in his marrige and he has a baby. He is getting a divorce and says he regrets leaving me a year ago. They've only been married for a few months and they only got married kus she got pregnant. So he turned to me because im the only one who knows him so well. (he's a real personal private kind of guy) My bf of 4 months knows that he called and freaked out and told me to never talk to him again and I said ok. But now my ex wants to go see a movie just to get out of the house so he wont have to think about his problems. Should I just go see an innocent movie and tell my bf im with some of my girl friends? or should I just tell me ex no kus i might get caught?
2006-06-27 07:28:41 · 20 answers · asked by xbinary_dreamsx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's divorcing her because she's bi polar and crazy and has threatend to kill him and theyve already have the cops involved many times kus she's nuts
2006-06-27 07:31:51 · update #1
obviously we don't have ALL the information about what's going on and no one can really tell you what to do. Why is your current bf freaking out? What's he feeling so vulnerable about. Does he feel threatened that you might toss him out for your ex? Ultimately it comes down to you, but if you want to stay with your current guy you can't upset him, which means you can't see your ex, but if you know you're not gonna spend the rest of time with him, why not help out a guy in need? But DO NOT!!! DO NOT LIE to your bf. I just think its sad that you can't have an open understanding relationship with your bf. As long as the two of you have an understanding that this won't create a divide in your relationship, who cares if you see your ex?
2006-06-27 07:38:54 · answer #1 · answered by yogurtsoju 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His marriage is f**k up so he is on a mission to f**k up your relationship with your bf you would be crazy out of your mind to fall for that he wants more than a movie this guy is married girl wake up he wants his cake and eat it to yeah break you up with your bf so he can have easy acess to you and have his wife he is so DAMN selfish then you will be lonely when he can't see you and you will become the other woman wait until he leaves his wife and get a divorce before you have anything to do with him because you might lose your bf and him after he finish getting the booty because he want it he want to have sex with you but girl don't lose out tell him no you was there but noooo he wanted to marry her so let him deal with it he wants to HAVE HIS CAKE ICE CREAM TOO I SAY HELL noooooo don't do it you may find out when you lose your bf you loved him more than you thought you don't miss a good thing until it's gone what if he decide to stay with his wife I know because I have been there he can't stand her she's not like you she is getting on his last nerve he don't know why he married her it should have been you he's talking all the things he think you want to hear don't fall for it because you might have a hard time getting up RUN!!!!! And don't look back run for your life!
2006-06-27 07:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by crystal_clear_0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? You are so falling into a trap with the ex. He is definately trying to rekindle something here. I think your bf has every right to be concerned and now you're thinking of lying to him? If you have every intention of staying with current bf then you should do just that and tell the ex to find another "innocent" shoulder to cry on. He's so personal and private kind of guy but yet he comes to you about problems with his current situation? He should get it figured out with her before wrecking your relationship. This has Jerry Springer all over it.....
2006-06-27 07:37:01 · answer #3 · answered by teetee's mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you love your boyfriend that you are with right now?
if you do , don't go to the movies with the boy that called you. He is just using you as a rebouond. If he loved you, he shouldn't have left and you and married that other woman.
But since you said that you still love this man wiht the baby, you need to let or boyfriend know that you love that man, break up with your boyfriend and give it another go wiht this guy. You have nothing to lose. But only go out with this guy once the divorce is final. You don't want to be the other woman and break up a family.
GOOD LUCK
2006-06-27 07:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by citygirl18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I really can relate to this. I am in a similar situation. BUT I would never leave the man I am with now for an EX. He has messed up and it is obvious he wasn't considerate of your feeling when he was doing his thing with his soon to be EX-wife. so now why should you be there when the wind is not blowing his way. I would not even acknowledge my ev I would never do anything to jepordize my current relationship your ex had his turn and didn't know what to do with it. Tell him you'll see him in the next life time
2006-06-27 07:33:03 · answer #5 · answered by Destany J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go see whomever you want and screw whomever you want. You should also be upfront and honest about what you are doing and assertive in the face of what others say about it.....to the point of dumping your boyfriend if he gets too antsy about it. The consequence of course is that your boyfriend will either dump you or see other women on the side. That's perfectly OK.
Your relationship with your boyfriend is meaningless. You two are not married or engaged. You are single. And single people can and should do whatever they want and accept the consequences for that.
However, your ex sounds like a total loser. I'd think twice about starting things up with him.
2006-06-27 07:39:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
possibly no longer spending too a lot time with him may be a good thought. Making different plans and not constantly answering the telephone will make him see you in a distinctive easy. yet is he quite quite quite worth the problem to make him jealous? looks like a waste of time. Why do no longer you purely talk over with him approximately what's making you disillusioned? all of the appropriate.
2016-12-09 02:24:26 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only getting these calls from your ex because he's looking for one thing....an easy lay.
Stay away from him. The fact that he is looking to fool around on his new wife and even newer baby shows what kind of man he really is. This guy is scum.
2006-06-27 07:32:49 · answer #8 · answered by Kimmy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no because if he is married then he needs to work out his problem on his own and why can't he talk to his wife it will be a bad idea. because what would happen if he dose not leave his wife and you end up single because of that. my Friend almost lost her husband because she did not know if she wanted to be with him and went back to her ex. after a while she went back to her husband. you don't want to be in that kind of situation
2006-06-27 07:37:33 · answer #9 · answered by shyone_91786 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go. If you get caught it'll be a mess. I'm sure your ex has other people he can go see a movie with.
2006-06-27 07:32:08 · answer #10 · answered by summerchc04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋