A friend of mine has asked me to take her daughter "for awhile" until she is able to get on her feet again. I have a feeling that "for a little while" is going to turn into "for good". She has two children that have already been given up for adoption and has spent the last 4 years of this little girl's life in Prison. And adivce on what to do?
2006-06-27 07:26:16 · 10 answers · asked by Nicole D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Are you able to help her little girl? Can you give her the home and love she needs? Do you want the little girl?
If you answered 'yes' to all of these questions, than I think you should take her.
If you answered 'no' to any of them - think about it long and hard.
2006-06-27 07:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by MissSubversive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how you feel. It is obvious (no disrespect) that your friend really has no right to have a child in her life. If you truly believe that you could take this child into your home and love and support her for the rest of her little life, then more power to you! If you feel as though there will be a resentment toward the situation or the child later on, then please don't do it. The little child has obviously had a hard enough life and right now the only thing she needs is a stable and loving environment to grow and prosper in. The only hang up to this whole situation is the fact that this "friend" of yours is always going to be this little girls mother so if you do decide to take on the responsiblity of this baby then you MUST get her to go to a lawyers office with you and sign an affidavit that you will be the sole custodian for the child. If not then 2, 5, or even 10 yrs down the road this woman could come back and take her from you. All in all I hope you truly think hard about this bc it will not only effect your life but this innocent baby's life as well. I wish the best.
2006-06-27 07:35:29 · answer #2 · answered by Nicki H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford to financial and emotionally please take that poor little girl. Sounds like you are the only hope she has at a better life than what mom has shown her so far. The foster care system in this country is atrocious and that's probably where she'd end up. Please don't give up on this little girl. If you can't afford it or really aren't ready don't do it, but think of the other possibilities she has. Not many none of which can be any good for her. If you care for that little girl at all this really isn't a question any more
2006-06-27 07:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by Kookie M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering her past behaviors be prepared to have the child permanently. Do you want to raise a child? Do you want to raise this person's child in particular. This woman evidently needs to be sterilized and not allowed to have anymore children.
This little girl needs someone who really wants to be there for her or she's going to end up seriously messed up.
Think long and hard on your decision. Good Luck
2006-06-27 07:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel you can give these children at least a safe place and stable home to be in for a little bit till you can get in touch maybe with her family or the dfs ppl... maybe they can find a better foster home or permanent home for these children, but it sounds to me they might need to be taken out of the situation they are in right now. Who knows you may have them for awhile and may want to end up taking them for good you may fall in love.. but if you can't fit them into your life or not ready to be a full time mom, you will just end up to resent them for the whole situation. Good Luck
2006-06-27 07:32:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel? Is it something that you can sustain? Is the child someone that has touched your soul positively? If you choose to "take" this child make sure you take time to do it legally, even if it takes a little while, don't waver, if you chose to go on a hand shake you'll definitely be sorry later. God Bless You. Good Luck.
2006-06-27 07:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by jusb4dawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get her, do it legally, have some paperwork drawn up so she can't come back in oh 3-4 years and reclaim her. This child needs a mother and doesn't need to be moved back and forth from one home to another. That is not healthy for her. So please if you get the little girl, get the Mom to give you legal custody.
2006-06-27 10:36:46 · answer #7 · answered by alpharee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with MissSubversive. Think what's best for the child not yourself. If it were me, I'd take her in a flash.
2006-06-27 07:34:48 · answer #8 · answered by oldman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can love the child then take her
2006-06-27 07:37:40 · answer #9 · answered by elmobeta12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the kid, she deserves a better life.
2006-06-27 07:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by oOtanglordOo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋