i have been with this woman for 10 months and i am confused. when i am away should i miss her deeply? should i lust for the moments of alone time with her? should i still enjoy sitting aroudn and making out on the couch? etc......
the point is, she is awesome, but alot of that stuff has died down a bit. is that normal?
2006-06-27 07:25:50 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I separate the person from who they are, i.e. a body part, that person has an incredible bottom, or they are hot, I am separating the person from who they are to how they appear/look. I am also idealizing who they are based on the objectification of their body, i.e., because that person is hot, I would like to get to know them, or somehow they are appealing emotionally mentally because they are hot. As I am objectifying, lust shows itself in fantasy. What would I like, what would I like to do with and to them. So I would say when the idealized picture of this person is replaced with reality, IE., who they really are. You can accept and be willing to see past faults, issues, problems because Love carries no jealousy, love doesn't judge, love don't do anything for self gratitude, love gives unconditionally, love is trust, love is respect, love is truth!
2006-06-29 01:59:13 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well you are in love but you don't know what to do when is time to make a desicion hey making out in the couch is good but you might get bored so do things but be pacient ask her what she wants to do I mean if you see her a lot and if you are away and your saying you should miss her very deeply and you dont is because you know you are going to see her : )
(did that made sense??)
2006-06-27 14:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by Janey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should still feel that gushy feeling around her...My gosh, it has only been 10 months. Sidebar: Wait until you have been with the same person for 10/20/30 years.
You need emergency intervention. Try to recapture that same magic from 5/6/7/8 months ago. Do something spontaneous!!! She will need to reciprocate also..
2006-06-27 14:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. V.H. Robinson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
have to say it is normal. It does die down after a while but that doesn't mean you won't miss her when you are not with her or that you don't or should enjoy when you are with her. If you totally don't miss her or just enjoy her company as much as you would enjoy the one of a friend then you are not in love.
hope this answers you question?
2006-06-27 14:35:55 · answer #4 · answered by confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal for some stuff to die down but u should always miss her. Ive been with my b/f now husband for 5 years and I miss him win ever hes not around. Hes at work write now and I really wish he was here with me. And I no from him telling me that he still always lusts for me thats never stoped. U should really consider staying because u could be missing out on ur true love.
2006-06-27 14:32:40 · answer #5 · answered by mermaid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We get comfortable with people. The excitement falls out of the relationship and is replaced with routine. You can be in love with someone and not miss them excrutiatingly every time they aren't around... that's called being obsessive. Love is more like knowing that they are going to come back and you are going to be happy to see them, not pining away for them under the stars every night. Of course you have to look at this yourself. We can't tell you if you are in love with her or not. Do you feel like you want to spend the rest of your life with her, or is she someone you just get along with?
2006-06-27 14:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by lizwatson109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should still long for her and feel all the things you did at the start. Also I feel 10 mths is somewhat short for these feelings to die.
2006-06-27 14:31:09 · answer #7 · answered by batista 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, I think you are...but just try to get to know her better...and don't be confuse...I think it is part of a relationship to be cool off a little bit after 10 months...you had described her as awesome...it seem...that you really enjoy her company...well...luck my friend! I know you'll be fine...get to know her better! (*_^)
2006-06-27 14:30:58 · answer #8 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, it's normal after a while.
the feelings you described are what we experince during the first couple of months in a new relationship. it is perfectly normal not to experience them so intensely now. it doesn't mean you don't love her, it just means your past the stage of 'insecurity' in your relationship.
2006-06-27 14:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by Jan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an inoccent crush.
2006-06-27 14:28:38 · answer #10 · answered by J~Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋