Normal for a 10 year old boy?

Question

My 10 year old son is going through this really bad rebellious phase and I have no idea what is going on. Like I said he is 10. He has been showing little to no respect for me and his father. He lies all the time about everything whether it is something that is even worth lying about or not. Sometimes he seems to just lose control and throw these crazy angry fits. Is this possibly the start of puberty or is there a possibilty that there is something bigger that needs to be dealth with? We are a loving and caring family with no history of abuse or assault. Please help, parent to parent.

accidentally had a type-o in here. I meant to write is there something larger that has to be DEALT with not death LOL sorry.

Answer 1

Well I just don't know.. my son turned 10 in early June, I can feel where you are coming from. Although I cannot say he has been disrespectful, he has been "feeling" himself. I have noticed that he has begun to lie, he is also getting hair (down there and under arms). This is a new time for him, his body is changing and he somewhat knows what is going on.

I would simple just ask him what is going on.. if he doesn't respond or have anything to say. You TELL him what is going to go on! Just like I told my son... you are getting older now, there are things about your body, your mind and your friends that you are not going to understand. I approched him about his lying and just made it plan and clear.... I will not tolerate you lying to me... whether it is about your clothes being put away or you not doing your homework. Lies are lies not matter how big or small... you must instill in him that respect is earned not given.. and if he wants space and understanding... he will have to earn space and understanding. I told my son that as long as he is in my home he will abide by my rules no matter what, where and how I set them. I also told him if he doesn't like them or has a question please come to me and we can talk about it.

I feel this is an age where children decided whether they are going to follow their family or friends. You must instill in him that you are his mother and you are there for any and all of him concerns no matter what they are. However, as much as you are willing to listen and work with him... YOU are still the mother and this is still your house.


Good luck sweetie!

Answer 2

I will first of all admit that I'm not a parent, but for some reason I seem to be the "go to" guy when it comes to parenting questions. I have several siblings that I've helped, a wealth of knowledge that I've collected from parents over the years.

First of all, this is not just a phase. I might expect something like this earlier, but at 10, he should be much more well behaved. You need to keep strict rules and boundaries on what is acceptable and what is not. If he breaks these rules and boundaries there has to be clearly defined punishments from time outs, restrictions on video games/computer, and up to corporal punishment.

I would assume that you are a very loving and caring family, but over the years you both have probably let him do pretty much whatever he wanted. Eventually he begins to think that it's his right to do whatever he wants. You have to make sure that he doesn't continue to think this because it will lead to just worse problems in the future.

Answer 3

I know what you mean! I have a 10-year-old boy too, and he's suddenly developed a smart mouth. Usually he backs off when he sees the "evil eye" but sometimes he really pushes the buttons! I think the hormones probably are starting up at this age ~ some kids maybe more than others ~ and when boys start to see and feel "changes" in their bodies they get confused and don't know how to deal with it. Because you never know anymore, I would look into the possibility that he has fallen in with the "wrong crowd" and be concerned about drugs. You might also talk to his doctor about any possible medical issues. But I think it's more likely that he's seen this kind of behavior somewhere else (TV, movies, another friend) and thinks he'll try it out for himself. Just stay strong and let him know it's not acceptable. Tell him that it's safe to talk to you about any issues he has trouble with and that you'll always love him no matter what, but you have to know the truth. I really do think he'll grow out of it. Good luck and hang in there!!

Answer 4

I may not be a parent but I have taken those parenting classes during high school. Based on that, I recommend professional help, maybe a book or something. I know there is a hot line you can call but I'm afraid I forgot the number, sorry! There's always the possibility that he is trying to aim for your 24/7 attention and sees he can get it by being rebellious so constantly acts like so. Again, I want to help, I know how that can be, I have little cousins that act the same way but in the end show they love their mother.

Good luck.

Answer 5

What do you expect? I saw your answer to the babysitter having sex question and have an insight to your mind. Poor kid is probably confused by your hypocrisy and close mindedness. Kids minds are still very clear and can see when things don't "fit" together right. You are all, sex is bad, an evil thing that should be hidden in a dark place like the jail you want to put the babysitter. You think he's stupid? You think he doesn't realize that mommies and daddies act differently sometimes? The big questions are what other monsters have you created for him. You want to make him better, then treat him like a fellow human being and not a keepsake. Talk to him!

Answer 6

Hello,
I am 13 and remember my year length as a 10 year old well and I tell you what, IT IS NORMAL! I hit puberty a month or two before i turned 10 and that is a little early but possible for your child to "bloom" at age 10 as well.
The behavior is normal too, when I was 10 i used to throw a fit for everything, even as little as someone caling my name for something. I would become angry at my parents easily and sware at them as well as throw things and tell them "i hated them and hoped the fuc**** died and burned in he**" Things will cool down and become right when he turns about 11 or 12. THAT DOES NOT MEAN YOU SHOULD LET IT GO ON! LAY THE LAW DOWN AND SHOW HIM WHO IS IN CHARGE! Even is it means a spank or two, it is well deserved if the behaviours ar bad enough

Answer 7

If you can get him to a psychologist you could do this but i would first strip his room of everything but a mattress and blankets and make him earn his things back one thing at a time through good behaviour and respect. The longer it goes on the worse it will get and the harder it will be to brake these habits. If he is like this now imagine in full blown puberty with testosterone flowing. Get on top of his behaviour now...no special treats, no computer, PlayStation's or anything till he shows respect for the family

Answer 8

In an unruly society like this one, stuff like that happens a lot. Try to cut down his television time, especially if he watches adult cartoons like The Simpsons, Family Guy, Robot Chicken, Futurama, and South Park. Pay attention to his what kind of crowd he's hanging out with. If there's rebelling going on in in school as well, take some time to talk with his teacher. Search his room for any drugs or alcohol, and if you find any, confiscate them right away. If problems continue, and if you have enough money, try taking him to see a psychiatist every few weeks.

Answer 9

Yes this is normal, my son just turned 11 and is still going thru this phase, i dont believe it will ever end, its good to be a loving family, just remind him that you are still there for him no matter what, my son throw a fit if i ask him to do the dishes or to clean his room he whines and cry's, stomps his feet huffs and puffs, yes i do believe in spanking children thats why god gave us buts for. but its all apart of growing up, my son has already started puberty and im not handling it very well cause i dont really know how to explian things to him but i just sit him down and talk to him.talking is the best at that age i honestly believe

Answer 10

I'm not a parent, but I used to do the same thing. Basically sweet little Billy is starting to grow up and could possibly be hanging with an older or unruly crowd.

You have to check him. That's what my mother did with me and I'm glad she did. Ten is not too old to spank. And if you don't believe in that, there's always punishment. Explain to him you don't like him lying to you and check it EVERYTIME it occurs. He's entering puberty and here's where real parenting begins.