when my grandpa was young, he was teased and harrassed, he did it to my dad, and he does it to me. and i happen to deal with all of this by stuffing my face. i need help, i can't go into counseling ($), but i need some advice on how to deal with this without stuffing my face.
yes we are working on it.
2006-06-27 07:01:45 · 12 answers · asked by Kelye 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Grow Up... that's the best advice I can give. Don't use your family as an excuse to why you're fat. Quit eating so much... noone else is putting the **** in your mouth.
2006-06-27 07:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. You are getting teased and harrassed you say? Well, what are they teasing you about? I find that those that are teasing other people usually have a fault that they are hiding, by trying to get other people to tease another person besides themselves.
You find satisfaction in eating? What about eating makes you feel that way? I have dated a woman with Bolimia and could not after 2 years of dating her, I could not understand what made her want to eat. Then she would throw it up, and later eat again.
Me? I would prefer to date a SEX addict. Even though I might not be the only one she was giving it to.... atleast I would get it when I wanted it. LOL
Goodluck with your eating disorder. I'm certain the help you need will not be on YAHOO.
2006-06-27 14:09:01 · answer #2 · answered by almondjoy_1000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to burn off frustration from dealing with family issues is by exercising. Get some heavy stuff in your room and start lifting it when you feel frustrated and want to eat. You dont have to buy weights. Fill 2 plastic gallon milk jugs with water and use them to lift. If you need to eat, go for the low calorie stuff like crispy veggies or baked chips.
You can also use dancing as a way to deal with frustration and it is a great work out.
Eating disorders suck. I have been there. Binge eating is so unhealthy and it doesn't help you in the end.
Tell your dad you are not going to accept his behavior any longer. Tell him if he doesn't have anything possitive to say to you, then he says nothing at all.
Good luck to you.
2006-06-27 14:22:17 · answer #3 · answered by murkglider 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look into the department of social services in your area - they can often help you get low-cost or free counseling. Or, if you have a religious affilation, go to the church or temple and get some counseling.
If that's not even an option, try removing yourself from the trigger situations. Go for a walk. Go in your room, close the door, and put on some music.
Good luck!!!!
2006-06-27 14:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all counseling costs money. go to a local community centre or ressource centre and i'm sure they have free ressources that could help you. you are not alone. there is help out there. don't worry, you can deal with this in a healthy way. good luck
and to the first person who answered, heidiwhatever, stop being a bit*ch. some people can't help some of what goes on in their lives, so either be supportive or screw off.
2006-06-27 14:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by bettyboop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand completely what you're going through...been there, done that, am now recovering. It is an abusive pattern that has been passed down the generations...and you must decide to stop this abuse with you so you do not pass it to your children. You did not program this into your subconscious, but you must be the one to override it...think of it like a computer program...you need to change the commands and reboot in order for it to take effect. Make yourself aware of the times you are reaching for food, then stop yourself and ask if it is hunger you are trying to satisfy, or if it's emotions you're about to feed. Drink a full glass of water and wait 10 minutes...if it is hunger, your stomach will growl, then feed it a healthy snack like a salad or celery with peanut butter (for the sweet tooth...it works!). If it is an emotional hunger pang you are feeling, the water will take care of the growling and you can reprogram your thought at that point (ie:"I honor my body by feeding it healthy food at the proper time of day. I am healthy body, mind and spirit and I take care of myself. I control my own life...I control my own destiny...I decide who I am as a person")...try to use this affirmation to reprogram your mind.
Also, start taking walks instead of eating...this not only gives you exercise but it helps you to clear your head and give you another quiet time to deprogram the mind and reprogram it into what you want your mind and body to do.
This is getting too long winded, but if you would like me to help you more in this matter, please e-mail me and I'd be glad to be of any assistance I can. I have two eating disorders: binge/compulsive eater and a fasting bulemic and am recovering from both right now. You can do this! Choose to be healthy, and take control of your life...and never let anyone cut down your self esteem and self worth!!
2006-06-27 14:26:55 · answer #6 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You eat because you can! Stop blaming people who teased your grandpa for your eating habit.
Don't you think people are teased and harrassed in Somalia and Ethopia?
Your arm, your hand, your mouth and upper third of your food-pipe are in your direct voluntary control. You cannot eat, chew and swallow anything against your own free will. Take responsibility for your actions.
DO not believe in this 'its always someone else's fault' bs...it will ruin your life -looks like your health is already being compromized.
Sorry for your crummy childhood...now get over it!
2006-06-27 14:10:11 · answer #7 · answered by dude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should check out Over Eaters Anonymous. It's a group for people with eating problems, like AA is for alcoholics. As far as I know it's free, and they help you figure out why you're overeating and how to correct it. Other people share their stories, and it would be a good way to make a few friends. Friends who could help you get started, and share their experiences with you. Friends who understand what you're going through.
2006-06-27 14:07:49 · answer #8 · answered by Purplelicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you know the root problem that's a huge start. Whenever you feel your being teased, find something else to do. But don't go anywhere near the kitchen. I find that actual physical movement, like running, walking, swimming, chatting with friends, shopping, listing to music, etc. works for me.. Good luck to ya!!!
2006-06-27 14:08:10 · answer #9 · answered by christy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you see the problem, you can fix it. Counseling is out there for free if you look hard enough. Get on the internet and look for counseling and community help in your area. You can usually get help thru your local church as well.
2006-06-27 14:06:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋