2006-06-27 07:00:58 · 27 answers · asked by amyeighteenlancaster 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he hasn't done it, you can still trust him. You might ask why he told you, though. If he is insecure and is trying to control you, you need to deal with the real issues. Maybe he needs reassurance. If he is trying to tell you that he needs more attention, work it out. But if he's just trying to make you feel bad about yourself, dump him.
It also matters if he feels remorseful about it. If he apologizes, forgive him and move on. If he says he's still thinking about it and doesn't see anything wrong with it, then I would not bother with him. There are other fish in the sea.
2006-06-27 07:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by Sara B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if he has thought about it, the act is not too far behind. The thought of cheating is NOT the same as the act but it can and may lead to it. I had a friend who when through the same situation. Eventually, she did find out that he had. It is not an easy thing when love is involved. Just remember, if you do not trust the guy, you may still love him but trust is harder to regain. If he breaks that trust, he truely does not love you and is not worth your time.
2006-06-27 14:04:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he told you that he had thought about it, you at least have an honest bf/husband. Unfortunately, sometimes circumstances come up and we find ourselves wanting to get closer to people even when we are happy in our relationships. It will be up to you and him to decide what to do about it. Maybe a break so that you can both really think through the relationship? I'm going through this problem myself, but I'm on his end of it, and I can tell you it's a horrible place to be. Not that your place is not incredibly hard, but being asked to choose between someone you have been with and love, and someone who might be better for you, is tough. If it was just sex that he was thinking about, maybe it can be helped by just avoiding the person. Talk through it together. It's the only way to fix things. Good luck.
2006-06-27 14:06:55 · answer #3 · answered by lizwatson109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes thought about cheating then you might want to take a second look at this relationship. He might not be at the same place as you feel you are. I would back off a little and take a breath and see what happens. If this was meant to be then he wont stray and if he does , then you need to move on and find someone who really wants to be with you and only you.
2006-06-27 14:08:16 · answer #4 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thinking and doing are different things. In some ways. If he was thinking about it you need to talk about why with him. There is a reason he was thinking about it you both need to sit down and stay clam and explore why. Does he not feel like he is getting enough physical intimacy form you. Does he feel lonely, these are someof the things that need to be worked through so you both can mend the broken fence. Otherwise he will continue to think about it and someday may act on it. Be clam even though you may only want to shout and hit him. Tell him not to be accusing inhis explaination.
2006-06-27 14:06:36 · answer #5 · answered by trialtoid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss why he thought about it, if it was just a passing thought, it's probably not that unusual and your man is just more honest than others. lol. However, if it is someone that he has been spending time around or working with, you probably should prepare to leave him.
Once a relationship has breached a trust, things become very strained and difficult. Think with your head and not your heart.
Good Luck
2006-06-27 14:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by DeltaQueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he thought about it. So what? Did he do it? It's better that he thought about cheating and decided against it, than if he didn't cheat because it just hasn't come up yet. You can still trust him.
2006-06-27 14:03:29 · answer #7 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone who truly loves you would not admit he "thought" about cheating. Yes, we all see people who are attractive, but to tell your significant you considered it - that's just a low blow. That's just pissy on his part. It's like he's almost bragging, "well, I thought about it, baby, but I decided to stick it out with you." What a jerk! Don't do him any favors. Leave him - you deserve better!
2006-06-27 14:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out where your problems are that made him think about cheating. he was at least honest about it. if you are not ok with an open relationship, then make it clear that you would like fair warning to get out if he's about to cheat. if you are both willing to resolve the problem areas, then it doesn't sound like it's unfixable.
wanting other people is human nature, especially when we are lacking something in our current relationship.
2006-06-27 14:06:03 · answer #9 · answered by jamminursite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well love can be hard at time and if you trust him and you love then he will never cheat on you but if hes spending time away from you then maybe its best to leave him and if he really loves you he would care!
2006-06-27 14:06:37 · answer #10 · answered by i love him 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋