I saw my boss with a cute colleague of mine in a comprimising position. She is not leaving her husband for him and this colleague is now showing unreciprocated interest in me.
All of this has sparked a change in her attitude towards me and she's giving me bad reports on a course i'm doing. It's my word against hers and it's not like the reports she is writing are outragously wrong they are just twisted in a negative way. Help.
2006-06-27 06:52:51 · 49 answers · asked by poppyfields 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should let her know in a menacing way that YOU are in control of this situation and if she isn't careful her husband will be driving by a billboard picture of her and her lover on his way home one of these days.
2006-06-27 06:56:05 · answer #1 · answered by sgrjackson1 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the colleague and you were originally sharing time I wouldn't be confused, so it seems that you are now getting this interest after the fact in an effort to push your boss away by getting her jealous or buttering you up so you'll keep your mouth shut.
Equally, the boss may be jealous or feels that you feel you have an advantage, by knowing about the affair and is showing you that she does indeed have the last word.
Your best bet is to invite your boss for drinks - informal, neutral territory - preferably after work. In a quiet and thoughtful tone, tell her what you've just explained from your perspective and inquire where you're off base. If not off base, ask her to explain why she is showing negative attention to you and what does she think you and she can do to get things they way they originally were. Be a ear, a shoulder and a confidant and let her know that whatever you thought you saw will never be spoken to anyone.
She may need that assurance. Then again, she may need to talk to you about your interaction with her companion.
2006-06-27 07:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by gravelgertiesgems 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that's the work of the devil. She's been doing something wrong and now the devil's got her convinced that YOU are out to get her for what she did wrong. The devil keeps the viscious cycle going. I'm a believer in God. However, you keep your mouth shut! It's none of your business what goes on in someone else's marriage and you are not to judge, let God judge her and let God deal with it. Do you understand me?!?@! If you feel that miserable about the whole situation relocate and find a new job. I pray everyday so I ask for spiritual enlightenment and it helps help people like you because I see things most people can't see. Take it easy.
2006-06-27 07:02:11 · answer #3 · answered by Shawn J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sticky situation deserves a very delicate answer. It's apparent she is terrified about the fact that you saw her with another man. Approach her for a private meeting outside of the office workplace and tell her that her that regardless of what you saw, that is her business. Your job is to work professionally and to not get involved in ones personal affairs. Let her know that. It will turn out a much better situation. The collegue that shows interest in you needs to be aware of the implications and the headache that you face. The love triangle needs to stop!
Good luck...this is a tough situation.
2006-06-27 07:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by Derek L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say that I agree with Cutiepie. That's about the only thing you can do. She is just trying to show you that you might have something on her but she is still boss. If she realizes that you could care less, she should back off.
Now, if your one of those kind of people who don't like cheaters and you want to confront her husband, you better do it now and find a new job while your at it.
I wouldn't advise the last part though.
2006-06-27 06:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what the say about a jealous woman, If you are serious about your colleague, Then I think you should find another job as she is the boss after all from Granddaughter x
2006-06-27 07:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by granddaughter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you just get her alone and let her know if her attitude doesn't change then you will might just have to pay her husband a little visit. Don't let her be in control of the situation,your the one who can expose her, DON"T FORGET THAT!!!!!! Once you show her that treating you like this isn't help her keep her secret she will change.
2006-06-27 07:01:27 · answer #7 · answered by j :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has no right to be with another man, but you have a right to confront her and also to tell her husband. It's not tattling if the act was morally or legally wrong. Confront her first and then try to tell her that in the end, it was her decision, not yours. Her trouble is her own, but is also her husband's because he is married to her. It's unfair to let the husband go without knowing.
2006-06-27 07:00:51 · answer #8 · answered by Royal Weirdo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could let it spill about her and your colleague, but the best course of action would be to start looking for another job. It's not worth the time and effort to blackmail her and she's just going to continue to make you miserable.
2006-06-27 06:58:29 · answer #9 · answered by Tia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a respected mentor at your job. Maybe upper management is already aware of the problem.
She's already practicing sexual harrassment. He may be too. But if he's a peer of yours, there isn't much weight in any charge against him. If your work environment is sexually charged however, that in itself is possible cause for a suit.
Good Luck - you shouldn't have to work in an environment like that.
2006-06-27 07:12:08 · answer #10 · answered by shuttlebill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a word with her woman to woman.
Tell her your not interested in this guy and it makes no difference to you what she does in her personal life.
Tell her that you just want to get on with your work and be acknowledged for the hard work that you do.
If that doesn't work then go above her and tell them what is going on.After all you should be able to go to work do your job and leave work behind at the end of your working day.
Do you belong to a union? if you do speak to them.
Hope you get this situation sorted.
Good luck.
2006-07-04 03:31:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋