IS IT OK TO DATE A PERSON THAT IS A DIFFERENT RACE? please read details before you answear thank you?

Question

before you start calling me a racist (i am not) please read:
the reason i am asking this question is because last night my mom met my girlfriend i am white and my girlfriend is black, and my mom really flipped out saying that "i am a traitor"-(whatever that means?) and now my mom says she wants nothing to do with me just wondering if anybody can help

Answer 1

I feel great about it! I really don't mind interracial dating. I think its beautiful when people can express their feelings and not bow to the status que placed on us by society. People forget the culture of america and so it seems, there isn't what they would describe a "problem" with this situation, They choose not to address it, well the "problem" is people being color blind, to the specifics of the word, BLIND TO THE COLORS AROUND YOU. They are unwilling to accept them and hence they are not there or you are blind to them. I don't believe in color blindness, its ignorance, it needs to change, be aware of the wonderous variety around you and accept it. I Think its extremly interesting to learn about other people's ways of life. I think its really sad that people of any race can simply 'dis' others becuase they are of any color.

Answer 2

I'm sure you probably value your relationship with your mom. You need to take a good look at your relationship, do you really love your girlfriend, do you think it is a possiblity that the two of you could have a serious future together? If you truly love your girlfriend and you know that she is the one for you then who cares what your mom thinks! Skin color is not the important thing it's your relationship. If your mom cares about you, she will accept that, it make take time, a lot of time as far as that goes but she'll eventually come around.

Answer 3

No, you aren't a racist. Tell your mom she is a traitor because she holds old racist views from the south! I'm not telling you to be disrespectful but she is wrong! what the heck is it with the skin color issues?! if she wants nothing to do with you then pray for her. Pray that God changes her mind and puts love in her heart. Its sad that some folks still hold that silly attitude. I am a black young woman that welcomes any race as a companion. Love is color blind not hatred!

Answer 4

Wow, that's a tough situation you're in, but if you like the girl then you certainly should go out with her. Your mom is acting racist, it seems that her only objection to your girlfriend is her skin color. A few things - you should always stand up for your girlfriend if she is critized for something she can't control (like the color of her skin), but also you should try to not make this a war between your girlfriend and your mother. Hopefully sometime your mother will grow to understand that you aren't betraying anything by going out with someone different from you. Perhaps your girlfriend will show her that it is not ok to judge someone that way, but you can't expect it to be easy. Good luck!

Answer 5

Of course it is ok. This has been a battle that has been going for for a long time. Your mom is apparently prejudice against you dating someone outside your ethnic background but that does not make it wrong. She's entitled to her opinion but if she is going to let something like race negate your relationship, so be it. Maybe you can talk to her and try to understand why she feels the way she does, and then you can tell her why you don't see any reason why you shouldn't date someone outside of your race. Love is love is love. That should be the only thing that matters.

Answer 6

Your mom is ignorant, sorry to say. I don't see a problem with people dating 'outside their race', but to each his own.

There are many people in this world that aren't okay with it. Lauren Hill from the Fugees, for instance. I remember her saying something back in my freshman year about killing her daughter if she ever dates a white man. Stopped listening to her music after that.

I would definetly talk to your mom about it. She needs to see that your girlfriend is a good person (if she is, that is :) ). Some people are just raised that way, and it sounds like your mom is one of them. She knows what she was taught. I'd talk to her about it and see what the problem is. I think if she realizes that your girlfriend is just like you guys, she'll be fine with it.

On the other hand, she may never be, and that's something that you need to consider. Either break up, or accept that she may never like your girlfriend.

Answer 7

I don't see the issue to date somebody from another race.
You need to sit down with your Mom and to talk about her rejection to this girl.
Listen to her arguments and try to convince her that there is nothing wrong in this dating.
You love this girl, and you need to make your Mom change her mind, but with tactfulness.
Invite her to give a chance to this girl, I mean, to take time to know her, not just to refuse this relationship, because, she is from a different color.
We are all human beings, and no race is superior to the other and nothing make this girl not deserving you, just because her color.
What's about intelligence, education, positive attitude..
By the way, I am white, and I just don't like people rejecting the others because their color.

Answer 8

Sounds like shes a racist person, who cares what she thinks now with you and girlfriend. Not always are the parents right when it comes down to the children( grown) making their own decisions. She will liven up when a baby arrives and you 2 get married.

Answer 9

Your mom sounds racist. There is nothing wrong with dating a person of a different race. You might try to explain that to her, but she sounds pretty set in her ways. Good luck.

Answer 10

Sure its ok to date a person of a different race. Unfortunately, your mother has the mentality of the KKK. If you want to live in peace with your mom, I would suggest keeping your dating details to yourself. I doubt if your mom will change.