.extraordinarily insecure with who I am physically. It affects everything I do on a daily basis. It’s on my mind 100% of the day. When I sit down, I think about the rolls that might be hanging over my pants or I might have a double chin showing with the way my chin is positioned. I have to get up from my desk and look at myself in the bathroom mirror at least, and I’m not kidding, 10 times a day. When I’m at home, it’s worse – because I have all the time in the world to look at myself. I am so sad always and do everything I can to try and make myself feel better about myself. Exercise, diet, read books… EVERYONE tells me I am ridiculous for thinking I’m so ugly and fat, but I do not 100% DO NOT believe them when they tell me I’m wrong. I don’t understand why my boyfriend stays by my side because I am constantly questioning him if I look like I’m gaining weight.. or asking why he loves me since I’m so ugly… I hate feeling this way; but I CANNOT control it. What can I do?
2006-06-27 06:20:23 · 10 answers · asked by T S 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I have talked to several counselors in the past and they only made me feel worse. My Dr. did prescribe medication to me, which he told me I have to always take - I took it for a while, and I'll admit, they made me feel good - but I don't want to be dependent on a drug to feel normal.
2006-06-27 06:28:28 · update #1
Thanks. Another thing - my boyfriend wasn't with me when I was on medication. I was on it for years. He always tells me that he thinks antidepressents are stupid and an easy way out. I have heard him say that a few times when they were mentined on t.v. and such...
2006-06-27 09:35:42 · update #2
Sometimes the drug is a good thing. Try taking your pills with therapy at the same time. It can't hurt. And your boyfriend? Bless his heart, he wouldn't be with you if he didn't find you attractive.
But all that aside, I can relate to you. I will be 26 in a little less than a month. My whole life I have always worried about the way I look, and because of that my weight fluctuates all the time. I always think I have hideous wrinkles and my teeth are ugly and there is fat hanging over my pants. But I have found that forcing myself away from the mirror ( & I do mean forcing myself away) and taking medication & therapy has helped. Maybe you won't have to take the meds forever. Maybe someday you will be confidant enough to go without them; I sincerely hope you are. However, right now & for a while to come, I really think you need to see your doctor and take the medication that he prescribes. Then find a therapist or a group you can talk to. It's most likely the only way you will be able to go on & live a normal life.
Good luck to you!
2006-06-27 07:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by nurdburd13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have a condition called body dysmorphic disorder, where your own personal image of yourself is completely distorted from reality. I think because it is affecting your life so much that you should try to find a therapist that can help you. Make some phone calls and try to find one that specializes in what you are describing. Also, talk to your primary physician about this and see if they can recommend someone and possible even prescribe an antidepressent type of medication. Don't let this keep ruining your life. Do something now.
2006-06-27 06:27:38 · answer #2 · answered by luveeduvee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am tapering off of xanax right now and I think we all need to keep in mind for those of us that require it for long term use that it is a medication just like for instance high blood pressure medications that you have to take to survive. There is a stigma because of what the medication is and it is sad that some people that really need it either refuse to take it or feel guilty when they do for panic attacks. I am fortunate that I am able now to say I don't need it anymore but I am not about to just pull off of it without a taper. I have read the side effects and they are scary.
2006-06-27 06:56:21 · answer #3 · answered by metoo57 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-31 15:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by mcilwain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going to a nursing home, convalescent home, rehab center, cancer treatment center, or any other facility that helps people overcome their particular hardship. Talk with them and find out how they find the inner strength to (a) accept who they are, and (b) what they hope to achieve in the future. Maybe their answers can help you find the same resolve and determination to accept who you are and give you the determination to accept whatever the future holds for you.
2006-06-27 06:29:08 · answer #5 · answered by Angry C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon, you need to go see a mental health professional, they can prescribe you mediaction to get your thoughts under control. If you don't want to go to a mental health center, tell your family physician, maybe he can recommend something for you, maybe a pill for depression. Stick with it girl, when you are at the bottom, the only way to go is UP!
2006-06-27 06:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by pdanielleh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try...
Talking to a family member, friend or loved one,
Work out some goals
Talk to a psychologist or see a therapist (they might really be able to help you!)
find a activity or pet you love.
Try yoga or Hypnosis.
2006-06-27 06:23:45 · answer #7 · answered by Golden Ivy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was always self conscious. I had unresolved issues from my childhood. I know see a councler and take medication. In time it will work.,
2006-06-27 07:48:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to seek intense therapy and take your meds. you need help coming to terms with the fact you might need meds forever (maybe not) in order to keep you stable. there is no shame in that. we all must do what needs to be done in order to STAY well. meds alone will not solve your problems please go and stay in therapy for however long it takes for you to get back control of your life.if you get to the root of your problems and start dealing with them you will be and stay alright.
2006-06-27 07:02:12 · answer #9 · answered by Simply D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a professional. Your self esteem is non-existent...and sounds like nothing is working so perhaps counseling will help.
2006-06-27 06:24:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋