How do you get your boyfriend to call you every night?

Question

When he works at a very hard job and works very late.

Answer 1

Just ask him to call you when he gets off of work.

Answer 2

I'll start by seconding the other poster: Why would you want him to call EVERY night?? Especially if he doesn't want to on his own.

Ultimately, that's the only answer: If he wants to call every night, he will. Anything else is just going to push him away; either by turning him off through excessive clinginess, or by making him lose interest since if he felt the need to call, he would already be doing it.

He's just not in a place where he needs that much contact. Maybe he will get to that point as he grows to love you more; or maybe he's the kind of guy who wouldn't do it no matter how much he loves you.

You need to examine why you consider this so important, and then figure out if it is a non-negotiable for you.

Answer 3

If he was really into you, he'd call you every night. That sounds very harsh but it's very true too. Think about it. When you really want to talk to him and hear his voice, you call, don't you? So why isn't he? My boyfriend runs his own business and works 11-12 hour days and even when he's so busy he can't see straight, he still calls me every single night. They make the time for you because they are into you, and if they don't, well, they aren't. Sorry girl!

Answer 4

I have a need-hate relationship with the phone. I work in the computer industry and every time I get a phone call during the day it is because something went wrong and I need to explain how to do something that I find trivial. My GF likes to call me every day, sometimes even twice. I must say I actually resent it.
That isn't to say I resent her, but that it really shows a lack of respect for what I go through during the day. If she were to ask me to call her every day, I would probably have to let her go. It would be too stressful for me. Her calling me at least it is easier. But even then she, for the duration of the phone call is one of those trivial people complaining about something. Only in this case I have to listen and not try to solve anything.
The point I am trying to make is that he matters too. What he does during the day matters too. So if he has a stressful job, give him breathing room. In person I can dedicate everything to her, and both her and myself feel better for it. Work with him to find the best strategy for yourselves.

Answer 5

Asking him to call you every night makes you appear clingy and insecure. He shouldn't have to jump through your hoops like that. Tell him you love him and want to be with him, but give him the courtesy and freedom to call you when he feels the desire.

If you set him free in this way, you will probably get more calls in the long run than you would if you try to force the issue.

Answer 6

You don't. You let him call you when he wants to - or you can call him if you want to - but keep in mind that if he works hard at his job and works late, that maybe he just needs to rest and relax when he's done. Try not to be too pushy or you'll end up pushing him away.

Answer 7

u shouldnt have 2 ask how do u get ur bf 2 call u every night- he should call u no matter what if he cares about u alot it doesnt hurt pickin up a phone and callin u- tell him u want him 2 call u every night , to me its seems he works 2 much 2 call u but he should at lest call u 2 hear ur voice and make sure ur ok.

Answer 8

Honestly I think you should just stop trying so hard you'll just end up making him go further apat from you guy's dont usually get the phone to call some one unless they are sprung but then again he's just tired of what ever he does all day he wants to rest or may be he ís seeing someone else who knows you just got to chill It wont work if you pressure him

Answer 9

Girl u just tell him how u understand how busy and tired he is n it would make ur night to hear his voice before u go to bed.

Just express to him u understand him but also express how u feel with out being selfish. A relationship is a lot of give n take n when u make him feel like u understand him"even if u don't" he will try his best to understand u"even if he doesn't"

Answer 10

well, on my point of view you said he is working a hard job he is probably tired after working i think you should leave him alone and sleep. if he really loves you he will call when he gets the chance.