Is it wrong to be the other woman?

Answer 1

Its not right...but its not necessarily wrong either. Its just a state of being. He chose her to marry and/or have children with. He finds he cant be faithful. He has a blindspot to women he loves...a disability to stay monogamous. And that is a disability usually due to his childhood. Its one that probably can never be treated or rectified.

So what are you after? If its to ween him away from the missus for fulltime, so that you can have him to yourself...you may be barking up the wrong tree because he cant be faithful.

If you want to change him.....or he's told you BS about his wife.....please know that it is BS. Guys like stability more than women...they do not like to divorce even if they regularly unfaithful. If they do hit a rough spot and get thrown out by the missus, if they marry again (probably not to you because they know that you know they were that type) they will STILL be unfaithful...even quicker (if it is you) because they know YOU know and that you are ACCEPTING of his disability.

I wonder about how you see yourself in the circumstances. If you are just after a casual relationship and hold no moral pain about his wife/kids etc. If so, then go ahead and feed each others egos.

If you are inlove...then chemistry was sublime but its not going to be too long before you get kicked in the teeth by your love. Chemistry is a wonderful thing. It happens so many times within a lifetime if we meet enough people. If we cut ourselves off by loving or being involved with the wrong one, we hold our own chains intact.

He's not wasting your time (as lust/love is so heady for a short time...until it gets maddening) but he may be preventing you from meeting/falling inlove with someone you can trust and be with.

Have you thought about whether you are doing this for a reason? Because you dont want someone you can really have? Because you dont think you are worthy of someones love/devotion? If so....find out why and deal with that first. He's not the crux of the matter...he's a catalyst to help you find your own way...and you might be his too (or not if you arent his first other woman).

Answer 2

Yes it is wrong to be the other woman, its hurtful to a relationship and the victim in the situation. If you want the person wait until they break-up but in the meantime go and find yourself a single person don't be the other woman it isn't nice. Plus, put yourself in that person's shoes; would you like to be cheated on?

Answer 3

ya it is. i mean u know hes already taken yet u date him anyway. im not trying to be mean or anything im just telling u the truth. i imean how would u like it if u where dating a guy or u were married to someone and he was going out with another woman? u wouldnt feel to good now would u? no u wouldnt. thats what is going through the man gf/wifes head. so yes it is wrong to be the other woman.

Answer 4

Girl let me put it to you like this, seriously. You have to really put yourself in the other girls shoes. How would you feel. While it may seem not a big deal to you, it could really be tearing the other girl up. I don't know how long they have been together, but this could really break up a home. This isn't all your fault though. This is on him. If he doesn't want to be with his girlfriend, then he should break up with her.

You also have to look at it like this. He is using you too. You will give him what he wants and when he gets tired of you, he will go home and be with his main. Chances are that if you are just the other woman he is wining and dining her, but just using you. Think of what he may have done with her the hours before he was with you. He may tell you things are going bad in his relationship, but then goes home and tells his girl things are great.

So while sometimes girls think they want to go to any means to be with a guy, you still don't want to play yourself. Don't let him use you girl. You want to be someones number one, not just the girl on the side.

Good luck!!

Answer 5

yes it is would you want someone do that to you and but i was the other woman for 2yrs if you start to love that person it Will be hard and from what i know don't do that you'll get hurt when you want to see him or have a conversation on the phone about how your day was and you can't because he's with her can't answer his phone and won't call you back because he's going to spend the night with her it hurts but it's up to you if it's just sex thing then maybe once he's not married if he is leave him now it's not worth it

Answer 6

Yes, its wrong to be the other woman because that means that he doesn't care about you or your feelings sweetheart. That "man or woman" of yours is just using you and keeping you as a back-up just in case his/her partner isn't acting right.

Answer 7

Who's to say that if you win him from the first woman that he won't find another woman with you. I believe it's wrong to cheat on someone (it really makes me sick) and to be the person that someone's cheating with. It only causes people to become angry and it hurts feelings.

Answer 8

Definately. I cant believe you had to ask. Not knowing he is cheating is one thing knowing and going along with it anyways, that is low. If you have ever been in love or know how it feels to get your heart broken you could understand. You owe it to yourself and the other woman to leave him and find your own man.

Answer 9

Yes not only is it is wrong it is crazy stupid you are degrading yourself worth let go before you get seriously hurt by him or the other woman he's not worth it you or big worth remeber that!

Answer 10

I think it is...b/c ur interfering with someone elses love life...how would u like it if u were the g/f or wife or fiance on the other end of it.....I think it's rude and disgusting to be the other woman.