homeand taking care of kids and get ready their dinner, next day lunch.only me the lady at home to do that everything but i feel i dont give time myself, i just feel to run from home, no-body cares my feelings, i feel like i born only for work, no enjoy in life. what i do?
2006-06-27 05:18:03 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ok. Taking this one seriously in spite of a strong temptation to translate my answer into Yoda Speech. I know lots of folks here neither have nor want to have any spelling or grammar skills, but really, not being understood readily is going to lead to fewer genuine answers. Now, onward to the question.
1) If you have the money, or willing members in your extended family (aunts, uncles, grandparents), please talk with someone of your concerns and get a babysitter so you can get out of the house and do things. Believe it or not, it is important to have some time off from being a parent and housekeeper. Nobody benefits when Mom Loses Her Mind.
2) Once the baby-sitting is in place. Find yourself something to do, an inexpensive hobby, perhaps some volunteer work in the community, but whatever it is, find something that you want to do for *yourself* that is low-key, low-pressure and fairly undemanding of you. You need to do what you are doing to relax and to *not* worry about life so.
Hope this helps. Sorry to mention the oddity of syntax there, just trying to help.
2006-06-27 05:33:12 · answer #1 · answered by Bradley P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Running away doesn't answer the problem. Here are some ideas: Job - Ask for a promotion or find out what else is out there. You never know what you might find. Look at getting a job that looks like fun. ie... photography, working at a museum, being a trucker! who cares, look for something you might enjoy -- Family - Stop washing their cloths, doing their dishes, cleaning their room, making their lunch. (based on how old they are) and if you have some that are older. its called CHORES! they know how to use their two hands and two feet to do things. If you are married, your husband has two hands and two feet too! -- Basically what I am telling you is GO ON STRIKE!!! And believe it or not, I have done this and it works. -- As far as fun goes, you just have to take the time to go out and do it. You are going to miss out on too many things if all you do is work work work. Yes, the dishes will still be there UNLESS one of the other members of the house does them... If you live in a warm area... go camping in your front yard (if you don't have the $$ or will to get away at a park) if you want and just don't let anyone else out there. PERIOD. you can do this and you can make it! just dont give into what everyone else wants.
2006-06-27 05:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess you're not soo shiny afterall. Welcome to the real life. I think that's why half of us are here--to pass the daily doldrums of life. Life has it's peaks and valleys. Do something different; have a talk with your family; get a hobby like dancing; meet other people; surely the family can live w/o out you for a couple of hours one day a week; you gotta rediscover what's important in your life. That's what I'm going through now. Take sick day; watch a movie; sit in the sun; get a massage, a facial. One thing a week that makes you feel good, not your kids, not your hubby, do something that makes YOU feel good.
2006-06-27 05:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by Batmen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can totally relate to what you're feeling. what i'd suggest is that you need to take a break and let the 4-5 members in your family realise your self worth .
take a short break to anywhere (your mom's place, your friend's place , just about someplace even if it is for just 3 days) don't think about what's going to happen at your home and who's going to do what.
you need to take the time out to discover yourself . trust me you'll find a new you and the people around you will learn to appreciate and respect who you are a whole better.
all the best
cheers :-)
2006-06-27 05:22:59 · answer #4 · answered by dxb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a friend and start going out - whether it be to the movies, window shopping at the mall or just taking a walk in the park while talking with your friend.
This will help to reduce your stress because you have someone to talk to and just being able to get out and do stuff for yourself is always nice.
2006-06-27 05:24:38 · answer #5 · answered by NyceGyrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them a warning that in two weeks you will be leaving for a much needed break (vacation). Take a gal friend with you to a nice hotel for one week...could even just be in a neighboring city....spend time in the hottub, swimming, going to movies, get a new hairdo and manicure. Then come back home and go back at it.
2006-06-27 05:24:27 · answer #6 · answered by rachel_waves 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask for help from family, ask to babysit, go out with friends, join a charity or club for activity outside the home. Find other singles moms with same situation. Support is key.
2006-06-27 05:22:29 · answer #7 · answered by DesignR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time to take a vaca, find out what you like to do and make a hobby out of that. Make sure you designate some time to yourself or your hobby at least once a week. See if you feel better after that.
2006-06-27 05:21:42 · answer #8 · answered by Southpaw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey!!! Want to be my friend? Maybe not. You need sometime, tell whoever that your going away for sometime and not to contact you, you will be alright. Take the car and drive away as far as possible and just reflect for yourself. Go do things that make you happy. Good luck.
2006-06-27 05:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paint, or experiment in the kitchen, or jog, or do yoga, or do 5 little Tibetans, make something different, take a nice bubble bath, u can do so much only if you want to! So do it today!!
2006-06-27 05:22:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋