2006-06-27 04:58:46 · 17 answers · asked by aishaj84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talk to your mum, she can be your best friend.....
2006-06-29 11:02:46 · answer #1 · answered by Juliette 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hey Aisha
I feel so sad for you that you can't share your happiness with your mum, but there must be a reason that you are already aware of that will make this relationship very difficult for her to accept.
What you have to think about is will she be happier finding out from someone else?
Your question is a little vague, is there an age gap, is it a race difference that could be the problem? Are you gay? Has Boo been involved in things that are best left well alone?
All of the above will have very different answers
The main thing is that you do this calmly and find the right time and place to discuss what is obviously very important to you.
If you let her know that you want to TALK about it and not end up screaming at each other, it may make a difference. The other option is to write her a letter, tell her what your fears about the situation are, and that you don't want to upset her, but you need her to listen to what you have to say. You are willing to listen to her views but you do not want to row with her. Be honest with her, and she will treat you as an adult.
I hope that you mange to talk to her soon. Remember, no matter what happens, she will always be your mum, and there will be lots of other Boos for you to date if this one turns out not to be the one after all.
Good luck my love. Lou x
2006-06-27 12:17:10 · answer #2 · answered by lou archer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aishaj growing up can be very difficult and in life we come across situations that we just don't know what to do! i believe that if u follow Ur heart it will guide u in the right direction. if what u have with boo means the world to you and Ur scared that if you tell you mum it might all end ! then you have to make a choice it might not be easy but never the less u have to do it. what ever you do don't put Ur head in the sand and hope it will be OK because that's the worst thing u could do if u love boo and u think its a long term thing then take your mum to one side and start off gentle remember she has to adjust to what your going to tell her and if she does start shouting then just calmly say that u understand why shes getting angry but it would help if she would stop shouting at u and try to understand what your telling her. this might just shock her enough so that she listens to u !!!but most of all if u want to be treat like an adult then your going to have to behave like one too!! so no going off with the hump and doing something stupid like running away it will just make everything a hole lot worse for you good luck i hope i could help take care. angieuk
2006-06-28 09:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by ANGIEUK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship is going well with your "boo", its sad that you cant tell your Mum about it. If it is a case where you are unhappy for whatever reason with your "boo" try to find an adult who you can trust and talk to them about it. When I couldn't talk face to face to my mother, I would write her a letter and when she comes home and reads it, we would talk about it. Sometimes you need to do something to "break the ice". Good Luck.
2006-06-27 12:05:08 · answer #4 · answered by desdemonia2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can you not tell her reason being if the relationship is not going any were why do you have to tell her think about what you want out of the relationship and then think why you need to tell her
2006-06-27 12:35:29 · answer #5 · answered by Maggie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't given much detail - why can't you tell your mum about your boyfriend? Aisha is an Arabic name - are you Muslim and is this the reason?
2006-06-27 12:08:24 · answer #6 · answered by Emma H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't tell your mom, then is it really a healthy relationship? Usually if you have to hide something, its because its not safe for it to be out. I hope you're ok and safe
2006-06-27 12:01:47 · answer #7 · answered by Brian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her because if she has to find out another way,you will be in big Du-Du.it might just help you build on your relationship.
2006-06-27 12:10:10 · answer #8 · answered by storm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant help u but when and if u tell her tell her in a good mood to make sure she doesn't go berserk but she might say something nice
2006-06-27 13:21:25 · answer #9 · answered by Katie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then tell someone u can talk 2.
u havent given enough information 2 offer much more i'm afarid. :)
2006-06-27 15:30:57 · answer #10 · answered by missilibi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit her down with a nice film, box of chocolates, and a glass of wine... then just drop it into the conversation... good luck..
2006-06-27 12:09:25 · answer #11 · answered by paulrb8 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋