What do you think about this???

Question

this story is too long to type here so check it out on my blog http://blog.myspace.com/alanacoolata Let me know what you would have done in this situation

If your not going to answer my question and dont have time to read my blog then don't write back.

Answer 1

You did the right thing every step of the way.
And yes the only mistake you made was trusting those people, but you couldn't have known then. But clearly in the future you need to be smarter about it and I'm sure you will.
Don't give in to Luis or his family and don't let any of them have any opportunity to see him. As long as you have that court order, you have every right as his mother to make these decisions and keep those people AWAY. You are doing the right thing, stay strong and stick to it!!!!
Good luck.

Answer 2

Oh my goodness, I had to speed-read through that. But you were right in what you did! Don't feel badly about it at all. Luis doesn't deserve the be a part of the baby's life, neither does he deserve your trust. I would have totally done the same thing! I hope you and your fiance (or husband now, I don't know) have a great life with your children!

Answer 3

Alana....Oh my...so much drama early on in your life!...Remember that the court systems are in FAVOR to WHAT benefits your CHILD....NOT who's RIGHT or WRONG....You made the choice to have sex & a child...Now YOU are to decide how YOU handle your child's best interests. Your child has a bio-dad.."biological" for LIFE....It's obvious that YOU are upset, angry, etc. with good reason...BUT how is this helping your mentally??...Your child can feel your frustration & hear it in your voice. Since your-ex signed the birth papers...he is NOW legally in your LIFE as well as your childs...So...GO to the Family Court system in your town & file everything you can NOW....It's going to take time...If he doesn't pay support...guess where he will go...to jail...If he wants out of support payments, then have him give up his parental rights to your child. When you go to the Family Court's appointment..try to have your case in writting...REMEMBER they hear your type of story all day everyday...you are there specifically for your child...Start all sentences with...This will benefit my child because.......OK?.....One last message....You need to know the Medical background of your child's "bio-dad"...It's an important factor for your child's well-being. I'm sorry to hear about your situation & can only hope that the grandparents do not fight for their rights too.......To answer your question...I can not as I am only hearing one side of the situation & do not know how I would have emotionally reacted. You sound very mature & write well. Enjoy your child & enjoy being young!

Answer 4

I couldn't actually read your blog. I just kept looking at your pic. You look amazing.

Answer 5

wow that girl is in a situation, i think they should just move on with their lives and leave the girl alone. and i would have done th same thing she did if my babys daddy was like that too

Answer 6

Luis sounds like a ****** looser, and so does his family, how are they gonna just deliberately go behind your back!!!??? you did the right thing! dont let anyone tell you differently!!!

Answer 7

oh WOW! I was in the same boat as you, i have a 2 and a half yr old daughter and i left her father when she was 15 months old! her father and I were together for 3 yrs on and off a few times, at first he was nice and sweet then after i moved in with him, i noticed he was a jerk to me when around one of his friends, he would laugh when his friend was being pervertedly rude to me, he smokes pot and his temper and attitude was out of control, we fought over stupid stuff, when i was pregnant he started threatening to physically hurt me. we had our own place while i was pregnant and he was never home, he was always at a friends house getting high and whatever else, even after i had our daughter he still threatened to physically hurt me, even threatened to kill me or drop me off in the middle of no where, i left him once when our daughter was 6 months old, but i got stupid and went back cuz he said he'd change and i believed him, well when our daughter was 11 months old, we fought over something stupid, and he tried running me over with his car while i had our daughter in my arms, i didn't have a phone to use or i would have called the police. Then when our daughter was almost 15 months old, we got into a fight over money, i was working and trying to save money for christmas presents and he wanted money for drugs and stupid stuff, we were in the car while fighting and he started driving crazy and beat up the inside of the car (like he was showing me what he can do to me), threatened to drop me off in the middle of no where, so he drove into some woods and told me to get out, i cried and said NO and talked him into takeing me back to his fathers, after that i called my parents and they came and got my daughter and I. my ex tried to talk me into taking him back, because he claimed that he has changed, he was constantly e-mailing me poems and letters, or he was put a letter or poem in our daughter diaper bag when he would have her on the weekends. i had to get a B order protection against him, because everytime we would try to talk to each other like adults and parents to our daughter, he would start harrassing and threatening me, because i wasn't letting him get his own way or control me! its been a yr and a half since we split up, i still get along with my ex's family and now my daughters father is finally starting to grow up and be the father to his daughter like he should have been in the first place and him and i are on talking terms, but nothing else!

Answer 8

Ohhh, Boy!

Answer 9

Too long...