we have been friends w/benefits for 6 yrs and knowed eachother for 13. I wasn't ok w/it so i called it off n after 1 1/2 i asked him back. He was happy to came back. Now his treating me a bit different in a good way. When i saw him last he looked at me differently (he gave me a very deep look while i was driving) and he called me out of nowhere the day b4. His very reserved and doesn't show or say how he feels. I text him i missed him and i'm used to no reply but to my surprise he text me back the day after with he missed me too. Now i'm confused cuz he said he doesn't want to get serious yet his action are different from b4. Should i keep and trying or should i just let it go? we have never been faithful cuz it has been an open relantionship. I'm i reading to much into his actions or do i have a chance? I'm going to Vegas w/my girl and when i mentioned it he wanted to go. I love him but i don't want a sit around waiting for him if i have no chance.
2006-06-27 04:53:40 · 19 answers · asked by dodgergirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think friends with benefits is a good thing. Alot of people are afraid of committments these days. As long as everyone knows the rules then there should be no hurt feelings. If one person has stronger feelings than the other than that should be discussed so that no one gets hurt. i have had many fwb relationships over the years and have never lost a friend because of it when you both know the scoop. But there are also peolpe who are my friends who i would never sleep with because i would lose that friendship. Everyone concerned has to know the rules. We all have needs and sometimes need that itch scratched.
2006-07-01 19:28:47 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
man, this love problem seems to be doing your head in! Well i say hve an ultimatim with the guy, because an open relationship will just drive you guys in circles. Oneday, ya gotta put your foot down and go "alright, no more playing games, i have enough of that and i need to know now if you wanna be serious, because you know i love you" Phooar... and indeed "I Love You" is a very strong language! But if you feel that way, than go on and tell him! Enough games because you love him man! And if he still doesn't give you a definate answer and wana play games with you again, then move on girl... MOVE ON!!! cuz your love can't wait for anyone any longer
2006-06-27 05:06:16 · answer #2 · answered by Ally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man isn't ready after spending that much time with you then he will probably never be ready. Plus, this is a side affect of the whole friends w/benefits thing. As long as a man is getting the benefits then what reason is there to want more in the relationship? You need to decide what it is you want in life and for your future and talk to him about it and see if he feels he can fit into that future or not.
2006-06-27 04:58:48 · answer #3 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow..that's a hard one..I would just tell him straight up..I love you and I want to be with you and only you and if this is something you don't want then we need to stop seeing one another in that way..all you are doing is hurting yourself and then when the right man comes along you are not going to be ready cause you are thinking about all the signals this guy is giving you..so tell him how you feel and don't wait around for someone that isn't ready..but throws miss signals at you..Good Luck and Have fun in Vegas?
2006-06-27 04:58:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a pearl from Dr. Laura : "he ain't gonna buy the cow if he can get the milk for free, hunny"
basically, this guy wants you to accept him the way things were and he is willing to act slightly different to get it back the way it used to be in "the good old days".
i would find someone who thinks you are the sun and the moon. a man who would rather chew off his arm than wake you up if you were sleeping on him. the guy you should be with should love you more than anything and the rest will work itself out.
you have got stuck on the idea with this one guy and there are a lot of really great guys out there. it sounds like you are around my age. here is my advise, pick the divorced guy over the never been married. never been married is never wanting to be married at this stage in the game.
2006-06-27 05:00:39 · answer #5 · answered by thom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is confused. maybe he wants to be with you but is afraid of what might happen to your friendship. ask him again if he wants to get serious. tell him this is the last time you'll be asking him so if this is what he wants he better say yes now. if he says he is still not ready then tell him that he doesnt need to be, and that you arent going to wait around for him anymore. then you need to move on and forget about him. it sounds like he is also unsure about what to do. confront him about it, and tell him its now or never. it may be hard, but it is the best thing to do right now. good luck.
2006-06-27 04:59:21 · answer #6 · answered by efraevo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you so ask him do he think you two could ever be happy together as a committed couple it's just that simple and ask him do he plan to be single for a good while just put it to him like this I have to questions to ask you if you don't mind and ask those to questions above #1 About comittment #2 Will it be awhile before committment.
2006-06-27 05:09:34 · answer #7 · answered by crystal_clear_0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you were just a booty call, now that you cut it off for a little he is realizing how much he does care about you. Don't give up but take it slow. Look, you have gone this long already. Don't get real mushy and scare him.
2006-06-27 04:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by railcar_exp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you dont have a chance. Youre looking to far into it. The best chance you have is to let him go and if he really wants you, he'll come to you. Just dont make it TOO easy...
2006-06-27 05:02:03 · answer #9 · answered by Kingc99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he has starting getting some feelings for you - is it out of the question to just ask him if he'd like to have more than a friendship?
2006-06-27 04:57:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋